Collarspace Discussion Forums


Home  Login  Search 

Protocol


View related threads: (in this forum | in all forums)

Logged in as: Guest
 
All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> Ask a Submissive >> Protocol Page: [1]
Login
Message << Older Topic   Newer Topic >>
Protocol - 6/13/2006 3:50:31 PM   
kaijahania


Posts: 3
Joined: 6/12/2006
Status: offline 		Hi, just a general query, if chat or on a messenger a Dom talks to me how do i address them?  Do subs call all Dom's Master or Sir or just their own particular Master?

Thanks
Profile   Post #: 1
RE: Protocol - 6/13/2006 3:53:33 PM   
littleone35


Posts: 2828
Joined: 2/17/2005
Status: offline 		I usually adress by threr msgr name that is what i find the eaisest.  The only one i call Master is my own Master.

Matt's littleone

(in reply to kaijahania)
Profile   Post #: 2
RE: Protocol - 6/13/2006 3:55:45 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


Posts: 19224
Joined: 10/25/2005
Status: offline 		Do what makes you happy.

No, all subs do not call all doms sir.

First off- in real life it's NOT as easy as just looking at their screen name. Secondly, not all doms want to be called sir.  Thirdly, most people relate to people as people, NOT as their personal relationship orientation.

And no one's yet figured out what to do with switches.

So again- do what makes you feel fuzziest. 

_____________________________

Find stable partners, not a stable of partners.

"Sometimes my whore logic gets all fuzzy"- Californication

(in reply to kaijahania)
Profile   Post #: 3
RE: Protocol - 6/13/2006 5:31:08 PM   
JohnWarren


Posts: 3807
Joined: 3/18/2005
From: Delray Beach, FL
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: kaijahania

Hi, just a general query, if chat or on a messenger a Dom talks to me how do i address them?  Do subs call all Dom's Master or Sir or just their own particular Master?

Thanks


There are two factors here.  What does he want you to call him and what do you want to call him.  In the cold light of day, until you've decided to submit to a specific person, what you call him is pretty much up to you, but if you want, you can just ask "what would you like me to call you?"  I must have gotten that query hundreds of times and it's never offended me.

Once you find out what he want, then it's up to you if you feel comfortable giving it to him.

_____________________________

www.lovingdominant.org

(in reply to kaijahania)
Profile   Post #: 4
RE: Protocol - 6/13/2006 7:50:16 PM   
bluelace001


Posts: 62
Joined: 6/7/2006
Status: offline 		Protocols in any venue is still about respect. You do not have to call a person *Master* or *Sir*, which are normally titles that are earned. Just remember to be respectful in how you respond.

bluelace_V
(property of Viper_001)

(in reply to JohnWarren)
Profile   Post #: 5
RE: Protocol - 6/13/2006 7:54:50 PM   
Littlepita


Posts: 1430
Joined: 10/6/2005
Status: offline 		I am respectful always until someone proves they don't deserve it. I am only submissive to my Dom and behave that way. I will call someone Master or Sir if those are in their "user name" and can't be avoided. Like if someone was Master D. I would call him that. If someone was Master Daniel. I would call him Daniel.

_____________________________

“I, with a deeper instinct, choose a man who compels my strength, who makes enormous demands on me, who does not doubt my courage or my toughness, who does not believe me naive or innocent, who has the courage to treat me like a woman.” – Anais Nin

(in reply to bluelace001)
Profile   Post #: 6
RE: Protocol - 6/14/2006 9:10:35 AM   
servicing


Posts: 18
Joined: 5/2/2006
Status: offline 		If you use the Master or Sir from the beginning it will only make you look better and possibly enhance your experience.  If there is a Master you are seeing then you might want to ask him.  Wouldn't want him to get upset if you call another guy Master.

(in reply to Littlepita)
Profile   Post #: 7
RE: Protocol - 6/14/2006 9:26:09 AM   
HisTicia


Posts: 203
Joined: 5/31/2006
Status: offline 		Most of the time out of respect I use Sir.. most will tell you if they don't care if you use it or not..but I like to start out that way.  As long as they respect me.. I will do the same.. they can call me Ticia.. or butterfly.. baby..things like that..but if they think they can just start out calling me slut, cunt, etc... then I pretty much lose respect and the Sir goes out the window.
 
As far as Master goes...that is one I will not use for anyone but my Master.  I think that should be earned..and it's almost impossible to do that part over the computer..to gain that much trust with another.  I am actually not even using it for the One I belong to yet..not until I am collared..from then on He is Master to me.  Now it is Sir..and He doesn't need the titles.. He knows I respect and love Him.. so He doesn't need the validation.
 
In the end it's up to you.... but saving Master.. I think is a great feeling.. it's a gift you only give your One.

_____________________________

All my soul follows you, love encircles you and I live in being yours. ~Browning

Believe nothing just because someone else believes it. Believe only what you yourself test and judge to be true. ~Buddha


(in reply to servicing)
Profile   Post #: 8
RE: Protocol - 6/14/2006 6:23:17 PM   
stardancer00


Posts: 60
Joined: 7/6/2005
Status: offline 		i will call a Dom or Master by whatever title or name He wishes to be called.  What i feel is most important, however, is my own inner state, which is one of respect, and of beginning any D/s or M/s relationship with the recognition that we do not stand as equals in it.  If such a One behaves in a way not worthy of respect, i will gracefully make my exit, but my respect is in recognition of my own position as slave as well as honoring the fact that this is a lifestyle of Dominants and submissives, Masters and slaves.  It is my deep feeling and need to behave in a respectful and honorable fashion regardless.

star

(in reply to HisTicia)
Profile   Post #: 9
RE: Protocol - 6/14/2006 8:53:11 PM   
Evanesce


Posts: 2325
Joined: 9/14/2005
Status: offline
quote:

Hi, just a general query, if chat or on a messenger a Dom talks to me how do i address them?  Do subs call all Dom's Master or Sir or just their own particular Master?


I call them by their given name.  No dominant gets Sir or Ma'am from me until such time as I feel comfortable in using it.  My own Master, a couple months into our relationship, said He thought I should call Him "Sir."  I replied that I felt the term implied a level of respect for Him that I had not yet reached, and that if and when I DID call Him "Sir," He'd know it was genuine, and there would be no question that I respected and admired Him. 
 
As for "Master"... I don't even call Him that.  I refer to Him as Master when speaking about Him, but in everyday life, I call Him "Sir."

_____________________________

Denise

Give a slave what he truly needs, and he will do what you want.

"There's never a hero in a battle of ego." - Big & Rich


(in reply to kaijahania)
Profile   Post #: 10
RE: Protocol - 6/14/2006 10:08:59 PM   
hizgeorgiapeach


Posts: 1672
Status: offline 		First thing I'm going to point out about the use of titles online, and specifically giving one to those with whom I do not have a specific relationship, is a rather old (and some would say worn out) quote from unknown source.
 
              What is given to all has meaning to none.
 
Now, what this means to me is that if I give the title to every Tom, Dick, and Harry (or Tom's hairy dick) who stumbles across me in a chat or forum venue - it becomes practically meaningless to me, rather than holding some sort of "Special" connotation that I associate with MY partner.
 
It is possible to be polite and courteous without going overboard.  I say courteous, rather than respectful, because respect is earned while courtesy is given to everyone until they prove they don't deserve it.  What do I do when someone uses the term "sir" or "master" (or "mistress" in the case of females) in their nic?  I either avoid addressing them directly, or I ask them for something to call them which does Not include a title.  I'm here to talk to People - and all people start as my Peer.  Peers do not get a title from me.  Those with whom I have developed a specific relationship - either as a partner, or a specific friendship of more than strictly casual basis - get titles from me after they have earned the respect that I give along with the title.

_____________________________

Rhi
Light travels faster than sound, which is why some people appear bright until you hear them speak.
Essential Scentsations

(in reply to Evanesce)
Profile   Post #: 11
RE: Protocol - 6/14/2006 11:47:17 PM   
Arpig


Posts: 9930
Joined: 1/3/2006
From: Increasingly further from reality
Status: offline 		There is only one rule to remember...there are no rules beyond those you chose to live by

_____________________________

Big man! Pig Man!
Ha Ha...Charade you are!

Why do they leave out the letter b on "Garage Sale" signs?

CM's #1 All-Time Also-Ran


(in reply to hizgeorgiapeach)
Profile   Post #: 12
Page:   [1]
All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> Ask a Submissive >> Protocol Page: [1]
Jump to:





New Messages No New Messages
Hot Topic w/ New Messages Hot Topic w/o New Messages
Locked w/ New Messages Locked w/o New Messages
 Post New Thread
 Reply to Message
 Post New Poll
 Submit Vote
 Delete My Own Post
 Delete My Own Thread
 Rate Posts




Collarchat.com © 2025
Terms of Service Privacy Policy Spam Policy

0.109