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Aswad -> RE: how do you find out whether you can trust that a slave is serious (10/6/2012 12:22:34 AM)

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ORIGINAL: michaelhfrit

I am Danish and a little dyslexic that I wrote earlier I speak passable English but it is a problem to write it


Ta deg ikke nær av det. Du vil nok "lide" dem når de blir kjent med deg. Hei fra Norge, forresten. [:)]

IWYW (Jeg ønsker deg vel / alt godt),
— Aswad.




michaelhfrit -> RE: how do you find out whether you can trust that a slave is serious (10/6/2012 12:24:07 AM)

but it says more about them than it does about me so ok




michaelhfrit -> RE: how do you find out whether you can trust that a slave is serious (10/6/2012 12:25:29 AM)

dig kan jeg lide mange tak




Aswad -> RE: how do you find out whether you can trust that a slave is serious (10/6/2012 12:31:26 AM)

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ORIGINAL: michaelhfrit

dig kan jeg lide mange tak


Velbekomme.

Min samboer er også dyslektisk. Det kan være meget frustrerende iblant, hvordan folk tolker skrivefeil som om man er dum. Jeg vet godt at det ikke er slik. Hvis du vil, kan jeg godt oversette noen innlegg for deg, sånn at det blir minst mulig fare for misforståelser.

IWYW,
— Aswad.




Alecta -> RE: how do you find out whether you can trust that a slave is serious (10/6/2012 12:35:22 AM)


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ORIGINAL: Aswad

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ORIGINAL: Alecta

For 700 you know it's a scam. Going rate is 8500.


What nationality would that be?

If one could get 8500$ for a woman of arbitrary nationality, not ordered to spec, intended as a sex slave, then just about everyone would be in that business. The humanitarian in me would also like to point out that if one is going to look for that, it is better to spend the same amount of money on going to a third world country and paying some poor family there to marry off a daughter or two. Those daughters' lives will be better than they would have been back home, for a properly selected instance of "home", and the family will be lifted out of poverty. As a plus, authorities will not be inclined to go ballistic, lacking probable cause. And you get to browse up front.

In short, a win-win situation, even if it wouldn't exactly qualify as charity.

Somewhat depressing that such a thing is win-win.

IWYW,
— Aswad.



On the one hand, you're being much too serious. On the other...

An average 8500 USD buys an arbitrary "slave" in most of the third world countries and even the backwaters of semi-developed countries such as Philippines, Thailand and Indonesia. In many of these countries, the sale of willing persons is tolerated and intentionally ignored by the authorities (until international scandals threaten). In most cases the "slavers" are the auctioned's family, or even the auctioned themselves. There are black market criminal slavers as well, but they tend to inhabit a niche market. After all, the average slave buyer would prefer a willing slave over an unwilling one any day.

The situation you describe is very commonplace, but nonetheless considered by our first world governments as slavery because the person was bought and paid for. Mail Order Bride agencies from certain parts of the world are also being hotly debated as to whether what they do is technically slavery. Interestingly, recent years have seen an increase in slave scams whereby the "legally sold" blackmail their buyers into paying even more money or letting them leave (with whatever money had been previously paid), or perpetuating the scam for residency status in other countries for themselves and their extended families.




michaelhfrit -> RE: how do you find out whether you can trust that a slave is serious (10/6/2012 12:37:01 AM)

mensa is the official club for the brightest in Denmark I do not know if it's the same accredited places, the last test is two years old




michaelhfrit -> RE: how do you find out whether you can trust that a slave is serious (10/6/2012 12:40:41 AM)

du er meget venlig og forstående jeg tror du har et godt og roligt gemyt håber du for står dansk også jeg ikke skriver så godt jeg synes du er meget sympatisk




michaelhfrit -> RE: how do you find out whether you can trust that a slave is serious (10/6/2012 12:47:47 AM)

desvære var de iq test hos manse kun på 129 1 fra at blive optaget du må godt forklare de ander lidt på engelsk hvis du har lyst men kun hvis du vil det betyder ikke så meget jeg tror ikke de kender mansa




Alecta -> RE: how do you find out whether you can trust that a slave is serious (10/6/2012 12:49:38 AM)

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ORIGINAL: michaelhfrit
I get mad when someone sees dyslexia as stupidity


Whereas I view advertising one's dyslexia to be a cheap cop-out in the digital age. It is a disability that can be easily overcome while one is using a computer with a bit of attention to detail and determination. Autocorrect looms everywhere. Review your post before you hit send.

But I don't think people thought you were stupid because you were dyslexic, they thought that because you asked a silly question, failed to see how silly it was, and attacked them for it.

Also, MENSA is international, and each country has its own set of eligibilities and tests. So I was asking which test and branch you took the Mensa test at, not what Mensa is.




michaelhfrit -> RE: how do you find out whether you can trust that a slave is serious (10/6/2012 12:54:30 AM)

ok no problem it's the test they use to see if you can get to audition




michaelhfrit -> RE: how do you find out whether you can trust that a slave is serious (10/6/2012 12:58:58 AM)

computer helps but does not easily




michaelhfrit -> RE: how do you find out whether you can trust that a slave is serious (10/6/2012 1:09:29 AM)

I must go now hope I have not made too much fuss




Aswad -> Was: Slaves for 8500$ (10/6/2012 1:57:11 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Alecta

On the one hand, you're being much too serious. On the other...


Too much of a good thing can be good fun.

See also: Ha, ha, only serious.

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An average 8500 USD buys an arbitrary "slave"


Yes. But if you're forking over 8500 USD, you're paying way too much, IMO.

And probably financing organized crime, rather than lifting some family out of poverty. It's not like they sell their own offspring for fun. Just like a lot of the prostitution in the world, it is because it's the lesser evil for them. If one isn't going to give the money to charity, it seems the next best thing to pay the money for something that doesn't leave anyone worse off than they started out, but rather leaves every party better off.

This, of course, with the caveat that the ethics fly out the window if one does something which will leave someone worse off, or if the slave to be has not been consulted in private about the prospect of the arrangement on offer. An ethically minded person bent on such exploitation should pick someone from a background wherefrom the slave would have a worse fate by default. It would depend on their individual ethics what constitutes an acceptable outcome, but the blanket ban on such arrangements seems to me to be letting people suffer and die out of an unwillingness to compromise.

Some young woman dying of starvation in Somalia would probably be happier blowing Mr. Trump than getting on with the dying part, for instance. We may both think he could stand to part with the money with no such expectations, of course, but we have no means to force him to give it away. We do, however, have a way to permit the beneficial (in the sense of improving things) transaction to take place, by legislating appropriately, and to use the legislation to discourage abusing the arrangements made possible. Incentivizing good behavior is likely to make such a thing a net win for everyone.

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The situation you describe is very commonplace, but nonetheless considered by our first world governments as slavery because the person was bought and paid for.


If the person agrees to that, I fail to see the problem. It's a cruel world. The first world refusing to deal with that will not make anything better. Like prohibition, the current arrangement leaves everything in the hands of criminals, instead of figuring out how to best deal with the realities. I would personally prefer for there to be some sort of expiration of the contractual obligations of such an arrangement (e.g. seven years), as well as conditions where the arrangement is nullified (e.g. pregnancy, at least when carried to term), and rules about what the arrangement can entail (e.g. no blank check contracts, some basic rights, etc.). But this is another area where I do not have any representation, and one which doesn't matter much to me.

It's not like I'm looking to buy anyone myself.

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Mail Order Bride agencies from certain parts of the world are also being hotly debated as to whether what they do is technically slavery.


I'm not surprised. Up here, the welfare system sort of makes it a moot point. We just make sure they know the score and have a decent network they can get in touch with if they want to scrap whatever arrangement they made. We mostly clamp down on legitimate couples, not the pseudoslavery ones. Hard to (not literally) shackle someone that knows they can go to the nearest public office and say "I have no home and no money" with a reasonable expectation that this will not be the case at the end of that day.

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Interestingly, recent years have seen an increase in slave scams whereby the "legally sold" blackmail their buyers into paying even more money or letting them leave (with whatever money had been previously paid), or perpetuating the scam for residency status in other countries for themselves and their extended families.


Dog eat dog. Hard to feel sorry for the people that exploited by someone they themselves tried to exploit.

Interesting topic, though probably better to put it in a seperate thread.

IWYW,
— Aswad.




Aswad -> RE: how do you find out whether you can trust that a slave is serious (10/6/2012 2:01:14 AM)

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ORIGINAL: michaelhfrit

du er meget venlig og forstående jeg tror du har et godt og roligt gemyt håber du for står dansk også jeg ikke skriver så godt jeg synes du er meget sympatisk


Takk for det. Og, ja, jeg har flere danske venner, så det går fint. Jeg sender deg en PM.

IWYW,
— Aswad.




Aswad -> RE: how do you find out whether you can trust that a slave is serious (10/6/2012 2:11:30 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Alecta

Whereas I view advertising one's dyslexia to be a cheap cop-out in the digital age.


My life partner has dyslexia. This may make me biased. Attempting to correct for the bias, I think you're showing a lack of awareness of the extent of the problem, particularly when dealing with a second language, as in this case. There are very few tools available which are able to correct adequately for dyslexia, all of them for first language speakers and most quite expensive. The notion that one should be all but ostracized as a dyslexic if one does not make ten times the effort everyone else seems somewhat offensive. You don't need to hold the door open for someone on crutches, but I will think poorly of you for failing to do so. The analogy carries over to dyslexia.

If you like, I would be happy to explain the extent of the difficulties, being quite familiar with it. Perhaps your assessment will change. Perhaps not.

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But I don't think people thought you were stupid because you were dyslexic, they thought that because you asked a silly question, failed to see how silly it was, and attacked them for it.


Classic case of idiomatic false friend.

"Serious" is a literal translation that has a very different connotation in English than it does in Danish (or, Norwegian, for that matter, and that is why I know this). The question, translated back into Danish, makes perfect sense. Its meaning doesn't carry into English without adjusting for idiomatic differences. The misunderstanding is trivial to see, as is the reasons why it went as it did, which is why I told him you're not assholes, just acting on assumptions that are incorrect. Please don't prove me wrong.

I'll ask him to clarify and then translate for him.

IWYW,
— Aswad.




crazyml -> RE: how do you find out whether you can trust that a slave is serious (10/6/2012 2:38:29 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Aswad

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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

Fella, I looked at your profile and I'd be hard pressed to think that YOU are serious.


No need to jump down his throat, and the profile thing is kind of off topic. The spelling thing is even further off topic, and reminiscent of the flaw you pointed out with regard to concern for superficial things, rather than the underlying substance of a person.


I disagree.


The profile and the spelling are on topic. They have a direct bearing on the kind of person the OP is likely to be in contact with.

Whilst I've no doubt that many of us would join you in deploring the tendency of people to rush to judgement - That is the whole flippin point of a profile - It's there to help people make a judgement.

To the OP... Investing some time in your profile, and getting some help to ensure the spelling is all correct will definitely help you to attract people that are more likely to be genuine.

I agree that it's unfair for people to assume that a person with challenges in the spelling department isn't bright, but I'm sure you're aware that many people do? And bear in mind, that when people are looking at profiles they're not asking themselves "Could this person's seemingly poor spelling be the result of dyslexia?" they're most likely thinking "This person couldn't be bothered to put the effort in". I appreciate that it isn't necessarily fair but....

[ED to fix the spelling/grammar errors that inevitably creep in when talking about spelling / grammar - Note = I've only fixed the ones I was able to spot]




Alecta -> RE: how do you find out whether you can trust that a slave is serious (10/6/2012 2:57:20 AM)

I respect you, Aswad, and it is my observation through the other postings you have made before that you are a much kinder and tolerant person than I am. I acknowledge that I am of harsher opinions and expectations all round. I am not ashamed and unless I am greatly mistaken, I think that while you do not like it you will not consider it a moral flaw.

It isn't that I don't understand the challenges of dyslexia or that I am unsympathetic, it is simply that I feel that the one act of publicly blaming one's failures in communicating even with the help of computers on disabilities such as dyslexia is irresponsible and people who use their disabilities and challenges as a way of winning arguments to be despicable. It's like using one's period as an excuse to be rude and bitchy to people and expect to be forgiven without apology. We all have our challenges and our failures. Take responsibility, take care. Why should anyone, myself included, receive any sort of special consideration for something that could be overcome with my best effort?

It is my feeling that the OP's behaviour on this thread has been more like a man brusquely stomping at people around him with his fake foot, then when he gets confronted for stepping on someone, accidentally or otherwise, takes his foot off and says "I have a fake foot. You should not have been in my way", rather than the man with crutches who is being shunned for having crutches.

As for the idiomatic false, I have no stake in that particular quarrel. I was merely trying to explain what from my point of view had transpired on this thread.

The original post showed little sign of his language challenges and was mocked, as you must know happens on these forums, because it was a question routinely considered ridiculous and not for its language structure.--- the thing I have just realised is that this thread has been silently edited. Originally at the bottom of the first page, before he thanks crazy, he wrote a barely legible and inflammatory post we might describe as "I am a Dom! Respect me, all you peasants!" (my impression is he also called everyone who answered with less than 100% seriousness retards) which incited the replies currently near the top of page 2 and some other less polite comments on his character, and a subsequent fight between OP and LW in which the OP was condescending and ungracious, then brings out the "I am dyslexic, cut me a break" card as though that justified his abuse of the other posters. The last I observed of that particular little tangent concluded with Janah's comment on eggplants; and that was what I was referring to when I said

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But I don't think people thought you were stupid because you were dyslexic, they thought that because you asked a silly question, failed to see how silly it was, and attacked them for it.


I am sorry, I am sure he is a fairly reasonable human being on his best days, but the last 24 hours had not been his best and he deserves the lack of respect he is feeling from the earlier posts in this thread.




Aswad -> RE: how do you find out whether you can trust that a slave is serious (10/6/2012 3:13:09 AM)

I'll cede the possibility that I may have misread DarkSteven's post. He is, however, saying rather clearly that he is failing to take another poster seriously, in reply to a question about how to gauge the level of interest a girl has in a kinky relationship, and going on to berate said poster for spelling issues in his profile. There was no question about how to write a good profile (which DarkSteven has made a good thread about in the past, I know).

As such, I maintain that it is somewhere between marginal and off topic.

Also, neither tone nor content was called for in replying to a new poster. You, on the other hand, were quite able to offer good advice with a nice presentation. I actually considered suggesting DarkSteven take a page out of your book on that point, but decided not to refer to a specific poster, as others had also replied well (which the OP expressed gratitude over on the first page of the thread). Your questions in post #6 were absolutely on topic. DarkSteven's comments in post #3 were not, for the most part.

I would like to think DarkSteven can do better. In fact, I know he can. I've seen it.

I'm reminding him of that. We can all use a reminder on occasion.

IWYW,
— Aswad.




Aswad -> RE: how do you find out whether you can trust that a slave is serious (10/6/2012 3:24:54 AM)

On the subject of dyslexia, we shall have to agree to disagree, Alecta. It would be too much of a detour to pursue the disagreement further. Incidentally, I'm not so forgiving, just invested in maintaining a healthy community and how that is, ultimately, a community effort. Just trying to do my part.

You do raise an important point, though. Silent editing of a thread by the moderators will give an entirely wrong impression of the flow of a thread and the porportionality of replies, so shouldn't happen. If it did here, I am inclined to frown at that. My replies have been based on what I've read and observed from the sidelines. I think online communication requires a less passive role in the reciever in order to work well. As you say, best effort. And from the way the thread looked to me, that did not appear to have happened.

If the moderators have placed some posters in an unfavorable light, that is very regrettable, and I hope you will make allowances for that when I express my modest disappointment in how things looked to me. I do think you should bring such an issue to the mods' attention.

IWYW,
— Aswad.




GreedyTop -> RE: how do you find out whether you can trust that a slave is serious (10/6/2012 3:45:28 AM)

The only editing I've found, Aswad, was by the individual posters - no Mod edit spotted.




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