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RE: Why do people ignore mails - 10/12/2012 11:09:08 AM   
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And thinking less of those who aren't.


Who cares how you think? You are a stranger on the internet.

Most of us aren't in the least interested in shaping the huge majority of creeps who inhabit the profile side, and as you may be learning, a self righteous attitude won't get you much traction here on the discussion side.

Many, many of us receive cmail from males who trigger the spam filter, in other words, they send out so many cut n paste messages, they get blocked from sending more for a 24 hour period. And you seriously think that needs to be responded to?

Do you respond to every email you receive wanting to sell you viagra or penis enhancement devices? I bet not. Well, a person was responsible for generating those ads, too. That 99% of the time they had a bot help them, how does that factor influence your response, or lack thereof? Do you pore over each email searching for clues that it came from an actual human so you can make sure and reply in person, thus upholding your own etiquette standard?

That you continue having to be right about this says sooooo very much about you.

(BTW folks, you must check his profile.)

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RE: Why do people ignore mails - 10/12/2012 11:17:00 AM   
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ORIGINAL: samboct
i also agree that rudeness begets rudeness, and that women women on this site bellyache that they only get rude responses- perhaps its because all the polite guys have left in frustration.


WRONG!

The abusive response to a polite "no thank you" was happening long before this website existed. Matter of fact, it was happening before the internet existed.

I'm not subjecting myself to abuse simply because you think it's the polite thing to do.


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RE: Why do people ignore mails - 10/12/2012 11:21:10 AM   
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... some of these posts are pretty funny----> my, my, my.... how self rightous they are.

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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl


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ORIGINAL: samboct
i also agree that rudeness begets rudeness, and that women women on this site bellyache that they only get rude responses- perhaps its because all the polite guys have left in frustration.


WRONG!

The abusive response to a polite "no thank you" was happening long before this website existed. Matter of fact, it was happening before the internet existed.

I'm not subjecting myself to abuse simply because you think it's the polite thing to do.



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RE: Why do people ignore mails - 10/12/2012 11:25:33 AM   
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ORIGINAL: GreedyTop


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ORIGINAL: descrite

You do realize what you're shaping, though, right? If you don't reply to guys who send you messages that aren't rude, but also aren't meeting your criteria (say, their message is too short), there's no feedback loop: they might figure out what you want them to do (increase word count) or they might assume the message drifted into the ether, and continue their "bad" behavior.



No. Just no.

*I* am not shaping anyone. If they constantly get ignored, or get snippy replies, then perhaps they should take a look back at their initial emails to anyone they have ever emailed. If the same approach isn't working even 80% (and I am being generous) of the time, then it isn't the women that are shaping them... they have done it themselves.

There is NO way that one woman is going to be able to advise some random dude on how EVERY WOMAN (hint here: there IS no EVERY WOMAN') is going to reply.


Usually, I don't like quoting myself... but I think this bears repeating. IF WHAT YOU ARE DOING IS ALWAYS GETTING NEGATIVE RESULTS, then look in the friggin mirror....

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RE: Why do people ignore mails - 10/12/2012 11:44:15 AM   
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Who has so much attention that they can spurn some more?

me

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RE: Why do people ignore mails - 10/12/2012 11:46:52 AM   
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Status: offline 		"I'm not subjecting myself to abuse simply because you think it's the polite thing to do."

Please don't on my account. I'm merely trying to point out that not all women on this site feel the way you do- that some of them have actually engaged in polite exchanges with me (yes, I know this first hand)- some have even met me in person (gasp!), and a few have even struck up a relationship/friendship. So clearly, not all feel the same way as you.

What I am suggesting- just suggesting mind you- is that you might try a little politeness the next time a well written message from a stranger shows up and see where it gets you. I find (and this is only me) that it's similar to saying hi to someone on a street. In small towns, this is liable to get you a smile and a polite greeting in return. I find this pleasant. So do most people. In NYC, well, you get a different response. Just bear in mind that the person at the other end of the screen doesn't know whether they're in a big city or a small town- and in small towns, politeness can be infectious. As that trite internet expression goes...."Just sayin'...."


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RE: Why do people ignore mails - 10/12/2012 11:53:09 AM   
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Status: offline 		Polite is good. But polite, and giving ANY RECOGNITION of stated parameters within a profile and disregarding them is something else. I am NOT stretcing the bounds of female reality on this site when I post the following:

profile: Hi! I am owned and just here for the forums

email: Hi! I see you are here for the forums, but will your owner let me fuck your ass 7 ways to sunday?

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RE: Why do people ignore mails - 10/12/2012 11:55:02 AM   
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Who has so much attention that they can spurn some more?



Anyone with tits, up to but not excluding: Women, M-F transexuals, really big fat guys...


Think I'm full of it? Go out with a really big dude wearing a low v-neck something or other...while it may not necessarily be the attention he was looking for, he will get a lot...and I betcha he would be happy to have less attention...

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RE: Why do people ignore mails - 10/12/2012 11:56:02 AM   
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RE: Why do people ignore mails - 10/12/2012 12:00:16 PM   
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ORIGINAL: punisher440
If it wasn't my "dog" to start with,what responsiblity do I have of training it? From everything most of the female posters on here are saying yet you refuse to see is this. If you answer some of the messages sent by some on here,it is like feeding a stray dog.It might give you a warm fuzzy feeling the first time...but when it starts imposing itself on you every time you open the door,you might have less grand thoughts the next time.
I haven't finished reading the rest of the thread yet, but I have to say this was a good analogy. The only way it could have been better would have been if you had said the stray dogs sometimes bite or piss all over you.



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RE: Why do people ignore mails - 10/12/2012 12:17:14 PM   
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Status: offline 		Might it be possible that you get your mails ignored because you write them in the same tone as your OP, which comes across more as somebody trying to start a fight than a request for a civil conversation?
You're reading the lack of response as a "No, thank you", so what's the problem? Sadly people aren't going to reply a lot of the time as they don't want to risk getting into a shouting match that'll only end when one party blocks the other. Life's too short for that sort of crap.

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RE: Why do people ignore mails - 10/12/2012 12:22:47 PM   
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RE: Why do people ignore mails - 10/12/2012 12:22:50 PM   
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ORIGINAL: samboct
I'm merely trying to point out that not all women on this site feel the way you do- that some of them have actually engaged in polite exchanges with me (yes, I know this first hand)- some have even met me in person (gasp!), and a few have even struck up a relationship/friendship. So clearly, not all feel the same way as you.


Oh, yeah for you!

Allow me to clear things up for you: My profile says that I'm just here for the forums....and has said so for years.

If someone writes to me to discuss a forum post, ask advice, or comment on a journal entry, I happily reply.

If someone emails me to hit on me because they somehow think that they're the exception to "Just here for forums", they have already been rude to me. I don't care how well thought out it was, it ignored my boundary. I'm not looking for a relationship and have no urge to be in a friendship with someone that doesn't respect my boundaries.




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RE: Why do people ignore mails - 10/12/2012 12:34:11 PM   
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Status: offline 		Hi maybe this is a thread jack but I think this horse is dead anyway. So ladies answer me this one if you would please. When you go and look at a guys profile and don't send any message is this always a signal of non interest or is it because of the ratio here that you expect that the guy will in turn respond to your flyby and message you? I am assuming the former but I'm also curious. I suspect there may be a bit of both? I know I will usually look at who they are and if there are any mutual likes or something that catches my attention I'll send a message. Strangely enough the response rate to those is less than the response rate to just a simple unsolicited message and was why I was assuming the former.

Color me curious

S.


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RE: Why do people ignore mails - 10/12/2012 12:36:57 PM   
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RE: Why do people ignore mails - 10/12/2012 12:37:07 PM   
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ORIGINAL: saypleasepet
When you go and look at a guys profile and don't send any message is this always a signal of non interest or is it because of the ratio here that you expect that the guy will in turn respond to your flyby and message you?


If I'm looking at someone's profile it's usually because it's so bad that it's entertaining.


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RE: Why do people ignore mails - 10/12/2012 12:40:20 PM   
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Status: offline 		Im NOT looking - Its just fun to see what guys out there are thinking that are looking for something - and their approach on how they think theyre going to accomplish that.

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RE: Why do people ignore mails - 10/12/2012 12:40:37 PM   
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Status: offline 		I eyefuck alot of profiles, and usually I won't write them because there is nothing to hang a hat on (sorry ladies, some of you make it hard to say hello or sound intelligent), they are no fits, or they are scams, or ......................... dunno.  

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RE: Why do people ignore mails - 10/12/2012 12:42:13 PM   
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It maybe that your writing to the wrong submisive or slaves !

What you ask for it extreme, you need to ask someone whom is looking for the
same !

I do not answer all of my mail but the one I do not truly answer are the nude ones, the one line sentences! " can I sniff you butt"
That one goes into the trash!

Then there are the ones that trigger my mail to get backed up the person whom has written to me has mailed so many
just to make sure he has gotten a hold of everyone on CM

This is why angry is not a good way to express yourself, it brings up a red flag, we are never to hit in angry Op!

It takes time to meet the right person, I think I have found mine and it took so bad apples before he came along!( knock on wood )

I do wish you luck I also read your profile wow it is scary, the person you pick should have respect as well!!! I do not want to offend you in anyway give a little!!

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RE: Why do people ignore mails - 10/12/2012 12:44:45 PM   
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Bastard.

*sob*

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