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being a master? - 10/11/2012 12:26:02 AM

osito1111

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Is it possible for me to be a master at my age (18)? Or will I have to be a slave till i'm older and more expeirenced?

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RE: being a master? - 10/11/2012 12:31:14 AM

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I guess that depends on what the term "Master" means to you.

If you mean "is it possible to be the Dominant in a D/s relationship?" then, sure it is. Quite a few sub women will make assumptions based on your age and relative lack of experience, but assuming that you've got the personality and smarts to go with your looks, you should be able to find a sub woman around your age.

I would say, though, that there isn't usually (I'm not saying that it never happens, but...) a transition from slave to master, and some subs would be very wary of a dom who admitted to having been a slave in the past. Although, again, there may be others who regard a Dom who has experienced the other side of the d/s dynamic as really attractive.

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RE: being a master? - 10/11/2012 4:28:29 AM

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You have to ask yourself, could I be a slave?
Slavery isn't just about playing the part, its about feeling it too. How can you learn how it feels to be a slave if you only play the part in your journey to dominance/masterhood?
There are those who say the best masters are the ones who were previously slaves. I disagree. You really don't need to try one to be what you are not. I believe that any dominant who has previously tried slavery had a strong desire to submit (at least at the time)
I would suggest that you find a light hearted partner who is happy to allow you to play around with your dominant feelings. Experiment together and talk openly about your joint experiences and have fun in the learning process.

Some of the younger guys I know on the scene tend to be 'know it alls'. They are all out to prove that they are bigger, scarier and more talented than the guys who have been doing this for years. Unfortunately the likes of them spoil it for other young aspiring dominants like yourself because its human nature to tar similar beings with the same brush.

Age is on your side not against you. Just remember that when someone points out that you are merely a boy!

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RE: being a master? - 10/11/2012 5:00:42 AM

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You are using the words Master and Dom interchangeably. As well as sub and slave.

Scratch that. I just read your profile, and it looks like you're looking just for play partners. Go to the local community, and attend munches and any play parties that allow 18 year olds. Look especially for TNG functions. That's to meet people and also see how kink works in practice.

With your looks, you should be able to get lots of 18-21 year old girls who will be happy to accommodate you. If you can't, go to the local college campus for social functions and meet college girls there. Just tell them you're into kink on your date when you move in for a kiss and see what happens.

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RE: being a master? - 10/11/2012 6:54:06 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

Scratch that. I just read your profile

Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh you made me look! Ok I need to give this forum stuff a break!

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RE: being a master? - 10/11/2012 7:18:34 AM

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You can be a master anytime you like. Plenty of young girls would go for it. Now in ten years you will look back and laugh but its not a crime.

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RE: being a master? - 10/11/2012 12:06:14 PM

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As Maria pointed out, there is no mystical ladder of 'improvement' in bdsm, where you start at slave and work your way up to Master. I'm a slave because that's what I am in my heart. It's not just about sex, it's more about how we interact. It's not just in the bedroom either, it's how we are 24/7.

You are what you are, and your profile seems to say that you're a curious switch who wants some fun. That's perfectly ok. You might decide one side of the kneel works best for you, or you might decide to continue switching. Again, that's ok.

Steven's advice about getting out there is an excellent one. Not only will you meet potential play partners, but you might also meet someone who has been where you are now and would be willing to talk through any issues with you.

I wish you luck.

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RE: being a master? - 10/11/2012 12:08:53 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: osito1111

Is it possible for me to be a master at my age (18)? Or will I have to be a slave till i'm older and more expeirenced?

nah-at 18 you can only be a Ma.
You get to add a letter every third year after that

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