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Bimbofied -> What does a Daddy Dom actually mean? (10/11/2012 12:47:19 PM)

Hi, I am a complete newbie on CM and even in this lifestyle. I am looking for an older daddy type dom, you know the kind that's gentle but yet firm, like a guardian, a mentor, someone who loves spanking without too much pain. I don't like sadist or doms that inflict pain, I mean I like spanking and some pleasurable nipple play but nothing extreme. I get 2 messages for every minute am log into CM but they are from sadistic type men, I do get a couple of Daddy Dom types but mostly get the ones looking for "sluts" or "slaves". I think I need to rewrite my profile because I am beginning to think its poorly written, I was looking for just friends before because I just met  a Daddy Dom when I joined but since am free now I did like to meet another one. I really need some advice and feedback. Do you think it's because I like feminine beautifications?Or is it just that I don't know what Daddy Dom actually mean and a Dom could actually be a Daddy/Sadist?



mnottertail -> RE: What does a Daddy Dom actually mean? (10/11/2012 12:51:46 PM)

Gods holy trousers.

Pop by the house.

You have just bought your self an entire warehouse of hell. you are going to have idiots on you like maggots, every single nano-second of every single day.

Welcome.   You will eventually fare well. 



ARIES83 -> RE: What does a Daddy Dom actually mean? (10/11/2012 3:01:34 PM)

I haven't dated from this site, but my advice
would be to ignore most of those guys sending
you mail and just sit down one day and search
through the profiles untill you find a few that
really hit a cord with you, then contact them
and try to get to know them.

It's a shame but there are a million and one
dip shit guy's on here and so I wish you the best
of luck.

-Aries

*PS, as far as I know, "A Daddy Dom" is suppose
to be a careing but authoritative person who you
are required to obey but you do so knowing that
he has your best interest at heart and knows best.

I guess theres spankings for being a bad girl in
there as well... I'm not the most knolagable person
when it comes to BDSM jargon, so I could be wrong*



Kana -> RE: What does a Daddy Dom actually mean? (10/11/2012 3:11:10 PM)

Bad news dear. Lots and lots of Daddy Doms are among the more sadistic people out there.
They come off as nice and soft but cross em wrong and she's gonna be a-screaming.
And for some reason, and this is just an observation from someone who's been around the block a few times, they seem to be into sharing way more than other folk.
Painting with a broad brush here I know, but that's what I've seen.

"Besides, grins, what's wrong with a lil good old fashioned sadism every now and then?" (Says the sadist)



wnyThroatLover -> RE: What does a Daddy Dom actually mean? (10/11/2012 3:15:41 PM)

Hey, Kana, we aren't all sadists that want to share!

Then again, not all of us like to be called "daddy" either, so my point may be void



Fullfilher -> RE: What does a Daddy Dom actually mean? (10/11/2012 3:29:43 PM)

So this brings up my question. What is the deal with calling the dom Daddy? To me that brings a whole lot of other aspects into play, that perhaps the subs don't intend to bring.

I don't consider myself a sadist, not a serious one anyway, but I don't EVER want to be called Daddy.



wnyThroatLover -> RE: What does a Daddy Dom actually mean? (10/11/2012 3:31:59 PM)

I'm not sure Fullfil. Whie I seem to identify as the daddy type, I don't ever want to be called it, or poppy, or pops, or dad or father, unless by the actual fruit of my loins!



DaddySatyr -> RE: What does a Daddy Dom actually mean? (10/11/2012 3:35:05 PM)

This essay is one that changed my life (seriously). I wanted no part of being in this lifestyle until I read this.

Only once before had someone known me better than I know myself.



Peace and comfort,



Michael



Fullfilher -> RE: What does a Daddy Dom actually mean? (10/11/2012 3:37:21 PM)

I totally get what you mean.



wnyThroatLover -> RE: What does a Daddy Dom actually mean? (10/11/2012 3:40:03 PM)

Wonderful essay DS, thank you for sharing it!



NiceButMeanGirl -> RE: What does a Daddy Dom actually mean? (10/11/2012 4:17:35 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: Bimbofied
is it just that I don't know what Daddy Dom actually mean and a Dom could actually be a Daddy/Sadist?

There are Daddy Doms who are sadists and Daddy Doms who aren't. When I used to be a sub, I had one who was not(he died) and, later on, one who was. They were both Daddies.

If you're having problems finding Daddy-types, go to Fetlife. That's another 100% free kink site and they have gazillions of Daddy/girl groups, including a DD/lg personals group. I'm pretty sure you will find what you need there or, at the very least, find some groups you feel "at home" in.

NBMG



SimplyMichael -> RE: What does a Daddy Dom actually mean? (10/11/2012 5:11:25 PM)

I dont list "Daddy" on my profile because it attracts basket cases 9 times out of 8...



Titaniya -> RE: What does a Daddy Dom actually mean? (10/11/2012 5:26:11 PM)

It sounds to me like you're just ending up with the same muck in your inbox a lot of pretty submissive girls get.

I doubt it's your profile. It's more that you're female, have a pulse, and are assumed easy to psyche out because you're a submissive and they're stupid.

If you get a message that's terribly disrespectful of you as a human being, block 'em, delete it, and move on.

Welcome to the forums. Good luck in your search. :)



DarkSteven -> RE: What does a Daddy Dom actually mean? (10/11/2012 5:26:21 PM)

To be blunt, Bimbofied, most men just look at the pretty pictures and don't read. In your case, even more so because your pics are damn nice.

Say whatever you want in your profile but don't expect men to pay heed.

Also, there are a lot of men who figure calling themselves Doms will make women jump into their laps.

Get used to idiots, and screen them out quickly.



NuevaVida -> RE: What does a Daddy Dom actually mean? (10/11/2012 6:01:51 PM)

You're "fresh meat" to CollarMe, which means you're going to get tons and tons of mail from men who are looking for easy prey.

I have a Daddy and he is set on what he wants, is gentle and loving with me, but also quite stern at times, and over the years his sadistic side has been growing. If you do a search on Daddy Doms, you'll find a lot of threads on the subject, which might be informative to you.

My Daddy does not share me, nor does he have a desire to.

You'll also find a lot of people squicked out at the term "Daddy", which is cool, but often times their preconceived notions aren't very accurate.

Finding the right person takes time, especially when looking for a particular and less-than-common dynamic. Take your time and hold out for what you want. Best wishes in your search!



littlewonder -> RE: What does a Daddy Dom actually mean? (10/11/2012 6:48:53 PM)

You're young and your screen name is "bimbofied". This is going to attract mostly sadists. Plus your profile states you like body modifications. Sadists are very much attracted to such women usually. Most daddy doms that I know, don't like body modifications at all and they certainly don't want to make you into a bimbo. You might wanna think of a screenname that does not scream "I'm ditzy and I'm great at being your whore since that's what bimbos are usually seen as".

Oh and also post a photo that doesn't throw your tits out as an attention getter.



NuevaVida -> RE: What does a Daddy Dom actually mean? (10/11/2012 6:52:30 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: littlewonder
You might wanna think of a screenname that does not scream "I'm ditzy and I'm great at being your whore since that's what bimbos are usually seen as".

Oh and also post a photo that doesn't throw your tits out as an attention getter.


Yep, I thought of this as well. Screen name and pics attract a certain type. In this case, they're attracting men who want a bimbo looking for sexual play.



DesFIP -> RE: What does a Daddy Dom actually mean? (10/11/2012 7:03:43 PM)

There are a lot more sadists than others on every kink site I've been on. I was looking for a dominant into bondage but not sadistic. I got more damn come ons from sadists than imaginable. They told me they could teach me to enjoy pain. They claimed that breaking an odd hard limit I have would be the first thing they would do. And so on.

I got one hello from a nonsadist bondage top. One out of probably a hundred. He's the only one I wrote back, the only one I met.

Just roll your eyes at all the emails from guys who ignore what you want and block and delete. Don't bother to talk to people you aren't compatible with. If a guy who matches you writes, answer him. Otherwise read profiles for guys in your area and if one of them seems okay, you write him.



Bimbofied -> RE: What does a Daddy Dom actually mean? (10/11/2012 7:28:20 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: littlewonder

You're young and your screen name is "bimbofied". This is going to attract mostly sadists. Plus your profile states you like body modifications. Sadists are very much attracted to such women usually. Most daddy doms that I know, don't like body modifications at all and they certainly don't want to make you into a bimbo. You might wanna think of a screenname that does not scream "I'm ditzy and I'm great at being your whore since that's what bimbos are usually seen as".

Oh and also post a photo that doesn't throw your tits out as an attention getter.



You must be somewhat right LittleWonder, I guess its because my screen name is Bimbofied lol or because I do like feminine beautification to the extreme. But I stated in my profile that I am not a whore or such. I cant change my screen name on CM :(



NiceButMeanGirl -> RE: What does a Daddy Dom actually mean? (10/11/2012 7:30:37 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: Bimbofied
I cant change my screen name on CM :(

I know. That sucks. But you could go to My Account and ask them to delete it and start over with a new profile. Of course it might take awhile for them to delete it, but just ignore it.

NBMG



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