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RE: Moving on.......... - 10/12/2012 4:56:12 PM   
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RE: Moving on.......... - 10/12/2012 8:04:52 PM   
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I can tell you from personal experience that cyber relationships and real life relationships are very, very different.

In cyber relationships you have the opportunity to fill in the gaps with your own fantasies. In real life you don't get to do that.

You've put this lying scumbag* on a pedestal and to be honest, he should not be there.

Do yourself a favour. Dump his cheating ass and go find someone honourable enough to be your Dom/Master.


*assuming his wife doesn't know. Or his other girlfriend](s). If they do know and let him get on with it, substitute *sleazy* for *scumbag*

edited for typo


I know you're not implying this, but it is worth noting that open relationships aren't sleazy, if all the participants are agreeable.


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RE: Moving on.......... - 10/13/2012 2:03:28 PM   
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ORIGINAL: RemoteUser



I know you're not implying this, but it is worth noting that open relationships aren't sleazy, if all the participants are agreeable.



Thank you for crediting me with more sense than my previous post implies

What I was getting at (but not stating particularly clearly) was that there are open relationships, which are fine. There are cheaters with one partner kept in the dark, which is not fine. Then somewhere in the middle are people who will tell their partners that they're 'just playing online - it means nothing', which is also not fine for the person possibly being fooled online and the partner who is being fooled at home. It is the latter two options I was referring to.

Apologies for any offence!


edited for the usual typo

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RE: Moving on.......... - 10/13/2012 2:10:20 PM   
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RE: Moving on.......... - 10/14/2012 12:13:59 AM   
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RE: Moving on.......... - 10/14/2012 5:14:40 AM   
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IMO, cyber relationships in which there is never any face-to-face meeting are not real.


It's easy to think cyber and online are not real, until one catches one's partner indulging in month long 'affairs' that include pictures, phone calls, videos, instructions, journals and a very real sense of play, submission, partnership and enjoyment of each other. If they are not real, then it is not cheating, in your book. I think of them as real, so to me they are off limits in a monogamous relationship.

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RE: Moving on.......... - 11/2/2012 6:43:21 PM   
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RE: Moving on.......... - 11/2/2012 8:48:45 PM   
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RE: Moving on.......... - 11/3/2012 4:15:19 AM   
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RE: Moving on.......... - 11/3/2012 4:27:29 AM   
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RE: Moving on.......... - 11/3/2012 6:34:29 AM   
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RE: Moving on.......... - 11/3/2012 6:43:21 AM   
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RE: Moving on.......... - 11/3/2012 6:56:15 AM   
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RE: Moving on.......... - 11/3/2012 7:06:28 AM   
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RE: Moving on.......... - 11/4/2012 5:06:39 AM   
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It looks like I'm about to be an owner-less pet again very soon, thank you Hillwilliam you gave just the right nudge.

Unless you have a DVR drive where your vagina should be, you haven't been owned by anything but your imagination. This is why so many people frown on online only doms!! 99% of the time its a married guy wanking at your expense. Go to a local munch & meet a dom you can actually see & touch, expect the experience to be much different than you are used to. Don't wait around for "release of ownership" or even a discussion about it...the only leash you've been on the rest of us call a power cord.

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RE: Moving on.......... - 11/4/2012 12:56:35 PM   
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ORIGINAL: NorfolkDom2

offs


I'm guessing this means "oh, for fucks sake".

and if it does, then maybe you need to reread my original post - because it takes two to cheat, and neither one is less culpable than the other.....

Does your wife know about what you are doing on line, and is ok with it - and if she does, then i retract my statement completely. There is no loss of integrity or honor.

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