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RE: The "Death" Of Your Dating Life... - 10/15/2012 10:24:24 PM

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If it really worked so well, why would the author of that ad share his secret?

Dating, like productivity and markets (read: money, simplistically) is not a zero-sum game. Just because I have a lot of something doesn't mean you have less. We can both always have more. It is why poor people in America today have riches even the most powerful potentate of yesterday could only imagine (air conditioning, indoor plumbing, cell phones, free STD treatment, fresh fruit out of season, TV, etc.).

I can sell you my path to success because it does nothing to diminish my success. Go look in your local library: there are plenty of books on geology that can show you how to find gold or oil, if you want to expend the effort to go find it and harvest it.

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RE: The "Death" Of Your Dating Life... - 10/16/2012 4:37:40 AM

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No worries. It's the observers among us who see so much more than the chatters.

I was merely trying to carry out your analogy in a way I hoped you would find complimentary.

(And yes, you do rather summarize (short and succinct) when you report.)

Admittedly, I've rather given up on my audience, lack of reading comprehension does that to me.

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RE: The "Death" Of Your Dating Life... - 10/16/2012 3:08:12 PM

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ORIGINAL: MistressDarkArt

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ORIGINAL: Anaxagoras
We've heard a lot about the pop-up advert so is anyone a bit pissed (or pleased) at the insulting/patronising (or useful) content of the large advert that greets one after logging off -

I haven't seen the ad. But if someone's dumb enough to fall for it, he's either a complete idiot, desperate, or both.

If it really worked so well, why would the author of that ad share his secret?

Reminds me of the 'how to make a million dollars in the stock market' kind of book. If somebody actually does it, why does s(he) need to bother writing a book...s(he's) already rich, right? Why would this person need more money from book sales? Same reason the 'I get laid without dating' guy needs to advertise his 'method'.

Yeah they would probably be idiots. The truth is men have been wanting to have their "evil" way with women for a long time. What with all that inventiveness through the centuries, I'm sure they would have found some some miraculous way to get women to succumb by now. IMO the basic advice has always been "be confident" and "don't act like an asshole".

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RE: The "Death" Of Your Dating Life... - 10/16/2012 9:01:16 PM

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ORIGINAL: Anaxagoras
IMO the basic advice has always been "be confident" and "don't act like an asshole".

That would be excellent advice, imo. And nobody needs to spend $39.95 or whatever to get that.

Unfortunately (or fortunately for the author of that ad), there are too many blokes running around needing a checklist to define 'what makes an asshole' so they can avoid the behavior. As for confidence...too many of those same blokes define that as 'arrogance.'

We have several here on these boards, for instance. They're always good for the lulz.

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RE: The "Death" Of Your Dating Life... - 10/16/2012 10:07:02 PM

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But I think in general my success is rooted in the fact that I don't see women as ends intended to slake my thirst, but as a means-not as a set of holes that exists only for me to fuck and torment (That stage come later-chortles) but rather as autonomous entities unto themselves, as independent, viable people who deserve to be treated as such, with respect and dignity just like anyone else.

Yup, that'd be it. I find an awful lot of women like being treated like people.

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RE: The "Death" Of Your Dating Life... - 10/21/2012 12:56:45 PM

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The prose in those ads is vomit-inducing.

One born every minute, though. Gawd, I went into the wrong business.

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RE: The "Death" Of Your Dating Life... - 10/21/2012 2:24:54 PM

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RE: The "Death" Of Your Dating Life... - 10/21/2012 3:04:15 PM

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the death of my dating life? you can't kill what you never had. i've never been on a date. i can never make my mind up if i'd want to either. on the one hand it appeals in the romantic sence of being woo'd, but on the other hand i'm not so sure as i don't actually want a full on relationship. so maybe then it would be wrong to do it knowing it could only go so far.

however, if i were to meet someone that had a set learned list/script to stick to it wouldn't really be them i was getting to know. also i think it would show that it was all contrived and then put me off anyway. the problem with these kind of ads, and claims, is that it fails to treat us as individuals.

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