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ORIGINAL: wulfelaw

There is a lot of good advice already, but I'll throw my two cents in with something I've said to many subs, many times before.

A sub has limits, a slave may have limits, a True slave has none.

A sub is a person, just like a Dom or Domme. He or she has every right to establish boundaries and set limits. A true Dom/me fully respects and appreciates those limits, if the "dominant" partner in the group does no respect them, and says things like "you have no limits, I am in charge,"... not a true Dom/me. We have an assortment of other titles for them. Now, should a Dom and His sub sit down and discuss the established limits, and should that discussion reveal that the Dom's desires go beyond His sub's limits, and should the sub desire to please her Dom as fully as she can, THEN a decision can be AGREED UPON that the Dom will teach and grow his sub, to show her and guide her on the path that leads to transcending those limits in a safe and sane way.

Slaves are a completely different story. A True slave and a True Master are equally rare. And, as such was not the content of the question, I won't blather on about it.

I hope this helps clarify some of your confusion, kiddo.