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RE: Being Collared - 6/14/2006 11:37:29 AM

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Thanks again for sharing persepectives on this. There has to be some generally understood concept Or is it because it marks ownership in a way a ring doesn't? Just really trying to get an understanding here so forgive my ignorance. I ask because the dom in my life has spoken of collaring me, and I like the thought very much. I'm wondering about the symbolism of it. Much thanks.

Just a little history lesson here. Collars were used by many different cultures in the ancient world for slaves. They had hte purpose of being able to control and contain the slave when necessary by being able to chain them to a wall at night or to a rowing bench on a galley. Over time the usefullness was still there but some people start to make the collars more of an adornment than useful. The Celtic people for example would shape animal heads on the ends of the collars and put symbols on them, many of them were open at the throat where a knife could easily be put to cut their throat. So over time it has become a universal symbol of ownership to many. To many people it can be significant to them to be collared adn to wear a collar as it does signify ownership. What owners do with their property is up to the owner. If the property is allowed to be used by others than that is the decision of the owner. Other owners do not want other people driving their car or driving their slave so they do not share them with others. Hope this helps.

Yes, it helps very, very much. Thank You.

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RE: Being Collared - 6/14/2006 12:49:24 PM

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What does being collared really mean? I mean as far as the relationship. What changes with the presentation of a collar? What is the significance of being collared or not collared? Thanks.

The way I see it used? Going steady after a few months of dating, like wearing the lettermans jacket.

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RE: Being Collared - 6/14/2006 12:49:58 PM

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The collar itself is no more than a piece of steel wrapped around My girls neck to mark her as one of my possessions. I has no bearing or value on our actual relationship whatsoever. Simply just an ornament.

That being said.... girls like pretty things, and even though candle agrees with me on the physical collar itself not affecting "us".... she has become rather attached to it... I've joked and said "well, I can take it off.... it won't change the fact that you're owned by me" and her eyes get as big as pie plates. Something akin to people that believe in the "legal" institution of marriage.... if you tear up the marriage certificate and toss it out, it doesn't make you any less married.... its what comes from within the two parties involved that makes the relationship.

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RE: Being Collared - 6/14/2006 1:24:04 PM

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I didn't want to start a new thread for this question, since it is kind of the same topic; i was wondering if a submissive turns down a dominant's collar (for whatever reason), do they go their separate ways? Or continue with their relationship. Or does the dominant make sure the submissive is going to accept his collar before he offers it to her?

Well, a couple of views on this. I did turn down a Dominant's collar. I view a collar as something similar to marriage. At the time it was offered to me, our relationship was rocky. We did continue in our relationship for four more years, until ultimately we broke up.

My current relationship, Master did it old guard style. I had to petition to recieve his collar.

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RE: Being Collared - 6/14/2006 1:24:36 PM

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Think of a wedding band on steroids that cannot ever be removed without cutting the neck or the titanium collar..

Its that perminent.

or it can be used for a "scene" and for play.

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RE: Being Collared - 6/14/2006 2:03:15 PM

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Depends entirely on those involved. In and of itself a collar means nothing. You and decide what it means for you, and the rest is irrelevant.

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RE: Being Collared - 6/15/2006 8:09:35 AM

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Think of a wedding band on steroids that cannot ever be removed without cutting the neck or the titanium collar..

Its that perminent.

or it can be used for a "scene" and for play.

I like that...

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RE: Being Collared - 6/15/2006 9:34:00 AM

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What does being collared really mean? I mean as far as the relationship. What changes with the presentation of a collar? What is the significance of being collared or not collared? Thanks.

Personally, i LOVE wearing Master's collar. It is a constant reminder of His care and possession of me. W/we don't live together and in those times of some insecurity i am able to touch it. Yet, i know my devotion to Him is the most important thing with or without His collar. Yet, if He were to remove it i would be devastated.

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RE: Being Collared - 6/15/2006 10:24:19 AM

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What does being collared really mean? I mean as far as the relationship. What changes with the presentation of a collar? What is the significance of being collared or not collared? Thanks.

Personally, i LOVE wearing Master's collar. It is a constant reminder of His care and possession of me. W/we don't live together and in those times of some insecurity i am able to touch it. Yet, i know my devotion to Him is the most important thing with or without His collar. Yet, if He were to remove it i would be devastated.