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firsttimeslave12 -> Cam Verification (10/19/2012 1:11:07 AM)

So, I've had a small back and forth with a mistress on collarme, and I completed a task, but now her next task is to send her a full nude photo of myself. Im fine with doing this, but I do want a cam verification from her first. It could just a pic of her holding up a paper with her user name, thats fine. Do I have the right to ask her? And if so, how should I word it?




Temp1010 -> RE: Cam Verification (10/19/2012 1:13:31 AM)

You should have done so before you did the first task.




LillyBoPeep -> RE: Cam Verification (10/19/2012 1:14:57 AM)

I would think so. If she wants a full nude photo of you, by all means, she should be able to verify she's real.
But she'll probably call you a fake for asking, just a warning. =p

To me, this is different than the random fly-by who says that you're fake and wants a cam show to verify. =p You've had an ongoing interaction with this person, and completed a task (or well... I'm taking your word for it, anyway), so I would say some kind of verification would be handy.

Is it at all possible to meet in person? I would be really wary of sending a full nude photo of myself to a random person on the internet.




MistressDarkArt -> RE: Cam Verification (10/19/2012 1:24:12 AM)

Dude, do not send naked pictures to anyone you haven't met in person. Even then, use discretion.

For all you know, your 'chick' is a guy.




BoundSlave4Life -> RE: Cam Verification (10/19/2012 1:50:03 AM)

First - You have any and all right to ask to verify herself. If she gets offended, then clearly she's not good for you (Or anyone for that matter). Just try and be polite.

"I don't mean for this to come off the way it sounds, but I'm not completely comfortable sending you a naked picture of myself without some form of verification. I'm not calling you fake or anything like that. I really enjoy talking with you, and I REALLY enjoyed *Insert Task Here*, but before I send potentially inflammatory pictures, I just want to make sure that you are who you say you are. I know how this sounds, but since I'm in a compromising position here, I would just like to play it safe. I don't mean to offend you, or point fingers."
Is what I would personally say.

Second, and COMPLETELY off topic - Did anyone else notice that he's from Aurora Colorado? I'm sorry for your community's loss :-(




kinkerbel -> RE: Cam Verification (10/19/2012 1:57:36 AM)

A nude of someone is asking alot- how long have you been going back and forth? I would at least edit out your face:)




TNDommeK -> RE: Cam Verification (10/19/2012 3:00:48 AM)

You have every right to ask for cam verification. I do...well if I see red flags.




Lockit -> RE: Cam Verification (10/19/2012 7:13:45 AM)

Firsttimeslave, you are young, but you have been on site for three years. In that time it seems you have learned a few things. You state that you want some sort of relationship and are tired of just jerking it and that you won't top from the bottom. Your list of likes has two things that are not sexual or kink items. Seeing this as a whole, it does make me wonder what you have been doing in the last three years and how that's gone. I find one thing in your profile that basically points out that you want more than a jerkfest and all else appears at least to me that that jerkfest has been uppermost on your mind, including this thread.

Now... I am not saying a jerkfest is wrong because if you and others wish to do it, go for it, however if you want to put some reasoning to the jerkfest, then it seems a bit challenging to me. It is hard to believe unless you haven't been real active on the site, that this is the first time you have come across this type of situation as it happens... a lot.

In seeking some sort of relationship, I cannot know exactly what you mean and your profile and this thread doesn't elaborate on that, so it could be a regular jerkfest of kinky stuff to a relationship that includes a more serious connection. I don't see a more serious connection the way you have gone about this situation with this dominant. After a short time of back and forth with a dominant, you willingly jumped in and did a task. Without establishing much of anything in the way of knowing for sure this dominant was who or what they said they were, you were willing to go to aspects of kink/proving self/whatever, before you EACH had proven something. Wouldn't it be beneficial to get that cleared up and out of the way BEFORE you jump into any sort of task?

People will take advantage, especially when we walk right into it.

Now... what does a naked picture prove? For that matter what does a cam shot of someone with a piece of paper prove? If you only want to be assured the person is the gender or appearance you believe they are... well I guess it does that, but it doesn't prove more than it does prove. What is the worth of any of this to you? What are you seeking?

You are on defense in a sense when you shouldn't be in my opinion and the reason for that is, you willingly walked into jumping into things before you knew for sure what you were doing or jumping into. How can you point at someone else and question if they are right to ask this when you haven't questioned yourself from what it seems, on whether you are right to do this? So, you are now pulling back or looking to be rescued and you think a picture of them with a place card is going to do what?

You have given the impression that you will do what they want because they tested you... you jumped before you thought about it. Now you can back track... but do so knowing that you assisted in the backwards state of affairs and you are most likely not victim yet. You have the power to assure that from this point on... It depends on what you really want. You might want to think about that... BEFORE you do tasks for strangers.




SadisticMs2 -> RE: Cam Verification (10/19/2012 8:52:27 AM)

I don't do naked pics and I don't do cam verifications. I don't waste my time giving tasks and spending a lot of time chatting online.

I do, however, meet for coffee locally when someone is of interest to me and take it from there. Dinner. A movie or a drive and a picnic. Long face to face discussions. All the things that people do BEFORE getting naked.

IMHO....the more time you spend mucking around online with pictures, cams, "tasks" and all that nonsense, the less likely you are EVER to meet someone.

Turn off your computer and go to a munch. Offer to meet for coffee or lunch. Stop playing games and stop being willing to play games.




LadyPact -> RE: Cam Verification (10/19/2012 11:05:07 AM)

I'm very much with SM2. I don't do cam verifications, either. I'm very much of the mind that, if you can't meet Me in real life, I'm not going to bother. I'm not a jump through hoops type of person. It's way easier for Me to direct somebody to the Positive Experiences board so they can see how many people have already met Me. Of course, I don't generally ask folks I don't know for full body nudes, so it evens out.




OsideGirl -> RE: Cam Verification (10/19/2012 11:34:45 AM)


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ORIGINAL: MistressDarkArt

Dude, do not send naked pictures to anyone you haven't met in person. Even then, use discretion.


^^^^This




CougarRick -> RE: Cam Verification (10/19/2012 2:50:30 PM)

You realize that once your picture is oout on the internet its out there for good. Do all your freinds and co workers know you are at a sight like this? Do you want them to know?




Politesub53 -> RE: Cam Verification (10/19/2012 4:15:23 PM)


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ORIGINAL: BoundSlave4Life

Just try and be polite.



Thank you kindly. I am truly flattered. [8D]




LookieNoNookie -> RE: Cam Verification (10/19/2012 4:20:10 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: firsttimeslave12

So, I've had a small back and forth with a mistress on collarme, and I completed a task, but now her next task is to send her a full nude photo of myself. Im fine with doing this, but I do want a cam verification from her first. It could just a pic of her holding up a paper with her user name, thats fine. Do I have the right to ask her? And if so, how should I word it?


Bud! This is America...you have the right to ask anything!

Word it thusly: "Hey....I ain't giving you a gawdamned dime more....show me some titties chickee!"




seekingreality -> RE: Cam Verification (10/19/2012 11:04:51 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: firsttimeslave12

So, I've had a small back and forth with a mistress on collarme, and I completed a task, but now her next task is to send her a full nude photo of myself. Im fine with doing this, but I do want a cam verification from her first. It could just a pic of her holding up a paper with her user name, thats fine. Do I have the right to ask her? And if so, how should I word it?


Personally, I would not be doing tasks for anyone I had not met face-to-face. And I would never send a nude photo of myself to anyone, especially an anonymous stranger.

And of course you have a right to ask. But she has the right to say no. That's how it works. My feeling is you just be honest and direct.




NiceButMeanGirl -> RE: Cam Verification (10/20/2012 4:49:16 AM)

I could see showing one's face on cam as that would show they are, in fact, the gender they claim they are. I've never understood "verification" holding up a sign or doing whatever else. That doesn't prove anything except that the person can hold up a sign or do whatever else. If you want to verify, you should have done that before doing any tasks. That being said, I expect to meet the person in real life before long and, if they refuse, then they aren't for me anyway.

Nude pics don't prove anything as, how does anyone know it's really that person who sent it. They can be photo-shopped and spliced together. Plus, don't ever send nude pics to anyone, at least not ones showing your face, unless you want to take the chance they will passed around on the internet. That can happen, you know.

NBMG




ServiceBoy89 -> RE: Cam Verification (10/20/2012 10:54:17 AM)

You must see if she is real first dude [;)].




Hillwilliam -> RE: Cam Verification (10/20/2012 10:56:58 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: ServiceBoy89

You must see if she is real first dude [;)].

See, serviceboy. You are a classic example of what can go tragically wrong. You apparently sent your pic to the wrong person and now it is on 179 different websites according to www.tineye.com .




DomMeinCT -> RE: Cam Verification (10/20/2012 11:37:24 AM)

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ORIGINAL: ServiceBoy89

You must see if she is real first dude [;)].


You mean like that picture you're using?

http://www.tineye.com/search/feba88587802ce10102af4987315bc489a60f8b6/


Edited to Add:
HAHAHAHA! I just realized Hillwilliam beat me to it.




ServiceBoy89 -> RE: Cam Verification (10/20/2012 11:44:33 AM)

This is not my real picture [8D].






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