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If someone could clarify.... - 10/19/2012 9:58:06 AM

wnyThroatLover

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It was brought to my attention (by a particularly rude response to my simple and nicely worded question) that I may be using a distinction improperly...

Male-Dom Couple vs. Dom/Domme couple

As I've always understood it from my years of lurking behind the scenes, a Male-Dom Couple is a couple with a dominant male and a vanilla/sub/slave female while a Dom/Domme couple is...well...obvious...
Last night it was put to me that a Male-Dom Couple is 2 dominant men...

Have I been wrong all this time?

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RE: If someone could clarify.... - 10/19/2012 10:03:31 AM

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If you said 'male dom couple' to me I would assume you meant two males. But it's not something I would get upset about. And there are no rules, that's just what I would take from that.

I've seen 'M/f' used as shorthand for Male dominant female submissive, if that helps.

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RE: If someone could clarify.... - 10/19/2012 10:16:06 AM

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Well, I'm just confused. The home/search page on the other side doesnt make a distinction so I'm not sure if my search settings have beenset properly...ever now!

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RE: If someone could clarify.... - 10/19/2012 10:17:48 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: wnyThroatLover

It was brought to my attention (by a particularly rude response to my simple and nicely worded question) that I may be using a distinction improperly...

Male-Dom Couple vs. Dom/Domme couple

As I've always understood it from my years of lurking behind the scenes, a Male-Dom Couple is a couple with a dominant male and a vanilla/sub/slave female while a Dom/Domme couple is...well...obvious...
Last night it was put to me that a Male-Dom Couple is 2 dominant men...

Have I been wrong all this time?

I would look to your orientation (straight, bi, gay) for a clue if the secondary in the couple was female. In a gay or bi male lead, it could be a male sub, but if you are straight it would be highly unlikely ;)

In your case, your sub's sexuality (bisexual) is listed, but yours isn't.

< Message edited by searching4mysir -- 10/19/2012 10:18:43 AM >

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RE: If someone could clarify.... - 10/19/2012 10:21:27 AM

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She isnt my sub at all, but thanks for pointing out that I'm missing a tidbit there

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RE: If someone could clarify.... - 10/19/2012 10:23:12 AM

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My apologies. No offense intended by calling your switch a sub.

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RE: If someone could clarify.... - 10/19/2012 10:25:43 AM

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It's all good, just difficult to express the big dopey grin that was on my face when I said it.

I noticed, if i go to "edit profile" it has my sexuality set, but it doesnt show up on the actual profile....hmmmmmmm...

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RE: If someone could clarify.... - 10/19/2012 10:51:43 AM

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It reads Dom/switch now. Niceness, or lack thereof regarding the email you received, that person was right. Generally, a male Dom couple is two males. Considering the rest of the text, and I love the way you express no males, it was probably somewhat confusing.

For what it's worth, I enjoyed reading it.

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RE: If someone could clarify.... - 10/19/2012 10:56:59 AM

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Why thank you. Despite how many times it's in there...it doesnt help...haha

Now I know, I will make sure we stop using that search option, haha.

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RE: If someone could clarify.... - 10/19/2012 11:02:07 AM

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I'm used to seeing "male dom couple" used to mean a male dominant and a female submissive, unless otherwise noted. If it's two dominant men, I don't see why that would not be listed as dom/dom (considering a dominant man and a dominant woman couple are listed as a dom/domme, it seems to follow logically). As with most terms in this lifestyle, you generally have to spell everything out. I can't think of any BDSM-specific words that have a universally accepted standard meaning, so don't fret about it too much. Just try to explain what the lifestyle-specific terms you use mean to you somewhere in your profile to avoid confusion in the future (and ignore the one-twue-wayers who will invariably come along and tell you you're wrong).

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RE: If someone could clarify.... - 10/19/2012 11:22:17 AM

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Well, crap. I always thought that s male Dom couple was M/f. Whaddaya know.

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RE: If someone could clarify.... - 10/19/2012 11:25:40 AM

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Ok, so I'm not just loosing my mind...WHEW!

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RE: If someone could clarify.... - 10/19/2012 11:28:37 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

Well, crap. I always thought that s male Dom couple was M/f. Whaddaya know.

I agree with you and think you have it right. When I've seen it in context it has always been M/f.

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RE: If someone could clarify.... - 10/19/2012 12:25:42 PM

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I have always thought it was meant to portray male Dom as apposed to Fem Dom.

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RE: If someone could clarify.... - 10/19/2012 12:56:08 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: DNAHelicase

FR

I'm used to seeing "male dom couple" used to mean a male dominant and a female submissive, unless otherwise noted. If it's two dominant men, I don't see why that would not be listed as dom/dom (considering a dominant man and a dominant woman couple are listed as a dom/domme, it seems to follow logically). As with most terms in this lifestyle, you generally have to spell everything out. I can't think of any BDSM-specific words that have a universally accepted standard meaning, so don't fret about it too much. Just try to explain what the lifestyle-specific terms you use mean to you somewhere in your profile to avoid confusion in the future (and ignore the one-twue-wayers who will invariably come along and tell you you're wrong).

YES.. what she said, hear hear.

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RE: If someone could clarify.... - 10/20/2012 4:23:45 AM

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If you're looking for a couple,

Male Dom Couple = 2 Males, both Dominant
Femdom Couple = 2 Females, both Dominant
Dom/Dom Couple = 2 Dominants, I think that means one of each gender
Sub/Sub Couple = obvious, 2 submissives of any gender combination
M/f = male Dom & female sub
F/m = female Domme & male sub

At least I think that's how it goes.

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RE: If someone could clarify.... - 10/20/2012 5:21:54 AM

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Dom means male dominant
Domme is female dominant
Apart from that I duno... I'm sure people will
figure it out when they read your profile.

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RE: If someone could clarify.... - 10/20/2012 6:44:22 AM

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RE: If someone could clarify.... - 10/20/2012 8:15:57 AM

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It means (to me) a male dominant led couple and the other person is female and not dominant. I have never seen it to mean otherwise.

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RE: If someone could clarify.... - 10/20/2012 10:24:40 AM

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I am not up on all the lingo, but to me I would assume two males.

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