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ChatteParfaitt -> RE: Goals... (10/20/2012 1:08:06 PM)
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I have personal goals for myself. Himself knows what my personal goals are, and helps me to attain them. He knows that I will listen to what he says, so if he gives me guidance about anything -- I pay attention. I guess I use him as some sort of permanent enforcer to my goals. Since I'm the one setting them, this works very well for me.
He does, occasionally, make mention of things he thinks should be included in my stated goals. That's it, he makes a mention. He's never been wrong, so more and more his "mentions" get included in my personal list. I think it's important that it's MY list, and I note that I am not alone in this.
As for my sub, yes he has goals as well. His last visit we spent hours talking about them since we are moving to him having more specific tasks that revolve around these goals. I would say I was more instrumental in creating his list then Himself was in my list, but then we are different people. He did and still does have a great deal of input. From the dom side, if what I've shaped doesn't end up helping him reach positive goals, then I need to re-evaluate and re-define what I am doing. He and I talk daily, and are on the same page in terms of what we are trying to achieve, and how much time it could take.
Many of my goals and my subs goals are fairly long term, so making even small incremental gains is a big thing to celebrate.
Having someone to help me with this sort of thing is why I like the power dynamic relationship. There is already an agreed upon protocol in place, simple though it may be (he says, I obey), which helps me tremendously in being able to accomplish those things I know I should do but would rather not.
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