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How Long? - 10/23/2012 4:00:22 AM   
lilmissdefiant


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Status: offline 		How long should someone wait until they put themselves back on the market after a breakup?

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RE: How Long? - 10/23/2012 4:03:40 AM   
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RE: How Long? - 10/23/2012 4:14:10 AM   
DaddySatyr


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Status: offline 		This is something I've talked about quite a bit.

I won't bore you with the whole story so, I'll do it, the easy way:

If you've kind of been going from relationship to relationship all your life, what I think you need to do is take some time and really take stock of yourself.

Decide who you were, who you are, and who you want to be. This can be a long and arduous process. It was for me, when I got divorced. It took me over a year.

If you've already done this, then the answer to your question becomes even simpler: You move on when you feel like it's the right time. When you truly feel comfortable, you'll find that people will find you.



Peace and comfort,



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RE: How Long? - 10/23/2012 4:14:56 AM   
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RE: How Long? - 10/23/2012 4:16:01 AM   
BoundSlave4Life


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Status: offline 		It depends on the person. I am personally the type to not be able to remain out of a relationship for long. It really depends on you and how you handle things.

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RE: How Long? - 10/23/2012 4:16:08 AM   
Toysinbabeland


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Status: offline 		Reading back...well put michael, bravo

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RE: How Long? - 10/23/2012 4:28:00 AM   
lilmissdefiant


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RE: How Long? - 10/23/2012 4:31:41 AM   
Toysinbabeland


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The best slave has the most to give, the submission becomes more worthy when you have an inner value that you are Still willing to bend....

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RE: How Long? - 10/23/2012 5:42:38 AM   
Rochsub2009


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ORIGINAL: lilmissdefiant

How long should someone wait until they put themselves back on the market after a breakup?


525,600 minutes. Or less. Or maybe more. Depends on the person. And the situation.

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RE: How Long? - 10/23/2012 6:42:55 AM   
autumnember


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ORIGINAL: Kana

When they're healed and there will be no ghosts in the bed


This statement is so full of win

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RE: How Long? - 10/23/2012 9:24:09 AM   
sexyred1


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Status: offline 		I agree. You have to give it time after a break up. Running too fast into something else to forget the pain or because you are afraid to be alone is a recipe for disaster.

There really is no rush.

As I have gotten older, I find that I enjoy my own company so much more and nothing is worth being with the wrong person.

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RE: How Long? - 10/23/2012 9:30:27 AM   
OsideGirl


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Status: offline 		I'm sorry. For some reason I flashed back to Monty Pythons Lifeboat sketch:

quote:


1: Still no sign of land. How long is it?
2: That's a rather personal question, sir.
(low voices)
1: You stupid git. I meant how long is it that we've been in the lifeboat?
You've destroyed the atmosphere now.
2: I'm sorry.
1: Shut up. Start again.


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RE: How Long? - 10/23/2012 12:30:44 PM   
littlewonder


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Status: offline 		For me it was a long time...years. I took the time to fix what was broken in me and to be stable and secure in my life.


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RE: How Long? - 10/23/2012 12:32:06 PM   
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ORIGINAL: lilmissdefiant

How long should someone wait until they put themselves back on the market after a breakup?



I always felt like, for me, when I quit comparing people I met to the one I broke up with.

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RE: How Long? - 10/23/2012 12:40:34 PM   
autumnember


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ORIGINAL: littlewonder

For me it was a long time...years. I took the time to fix what was broken in me and to be stable and secure in my life.


quote:

For me it was a long time...years. I took the time to fix what was broken in me and to be stable and secure in my life.


Thank you. I have been being pressured to "move on". I am so happy to hear some support that it is okay to not hurry. I really admire how you and Kana have designed your relationship. Don't get me wrong, he scares me but I can understand.

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RE: How Long? - 10/23/2012 12:42:09 PM   
littlewonder


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Status: offline 		Well we never jumped fast. We took our time. It's just grown organically. But thank you.

Basically, if you have issues, work on them first. You can't move on until then.


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RE: How Long? - 10/23/2012 12:44:39 PM   
autumnember


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Status: offline 		That is what I have been saying too! So far so good ...

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RE: How Long? - 10/23/2012 12:54:21 PM   
antipode


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How long should someone wait until they put themselves back on the market after a breakup?


three weeks

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RE: How Long? - 10/23/2012 2:07:41 PM   
AVegasMaster


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Status: offline 		Everyone is different. I'd say when you don't think about the ex every day. When you stop wondering what you could have done differently. When you begin to realize there is more waitng for you out there.

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RE: How Long? - 10/23/2012 2:10:33 PM   
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