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Analogys - 6/15/2006 3:23:29 AM

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A lot of the experienced Doms/Masters here will have been faced time and time again with some less experienced person on the same side of the dynamic asking for advice. I've often found that analogys can sometimes get a point across more effectivly than a more direct explination because it gets away from some of the preconceptions the less experienced person has about D/s and isolates the point being made.

This is aimed at those more experienced (But hopefully of use to the people oft asking the questions).... what analogys have you found useful in the past to get over general points about D/s or M/s issues?

One I've used in the past is pilots:

The new pilot has something to prove. He jumps into the plane and takes off as soon as possible, concentrating on showing just how good he is by sending the plane into loop-the-loops, barrelrolls, Yaws, every trick in the book that he can possibly think of...... usualy he is so intent on the tricks he doesn't notice how much stress he is putting on the plane that he doesn't know that well.... then he is surprized when the wings fall off, the whole thing crashes and burns before he staggers out to proclaim the plane was faulty and thats what caused the crash before heading off to find another plane to prove himself in!

The Master pilot sets up the controls, makes all his checks before leaving the runway before taking the plane safely upto its cruising height. Much of the time the autopilot is on and he's sat back, relaxed in his seat just reaching out to nudge the controls with a light touch if the plane edges off course. Only sitting up and firmly grasping the controls if the plane starts heading toward danger. He has nothing to prove, doesn't need to send things into a tailspin to 'show' anyone he has control, he KNOWS he has control. Once he is familiar with the plane he can do a trick or three whenever he wants to, but safely and causing little strain on the plane in the process.

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RE: Analogys - 6/15/2006 4:32:58 AM

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When asked as to why someone would want to be tied up and/or spanked or indulge in other bdsm activities, I use the following:

In everyday life there are many people that take rides on roller coasters and get genuinely scared, but keep going back for. They know the rides are safe, but during the ride they feel far from that. Although they know it will scare them, they also get a thrill from it, often because once the ride starts they have a loss of control and cannot get off the ride until its over. Similarly, some watch horror movies, and while they could leave the theatre if they wished, they remain in their seats peeking at the screen between the fingers that they used to cover their eyes.

For some I have also used the loss of control that some women have in rape fantasies.

I love using analogies to explain many things, not just bdsm, and found it excellent for some, but have also that some people have trouble relating to analogies and get bogged down talking about the details there, rather than taking the simplistic view back to the main topic. You will find examples of that here in some threads where people will get completely sidetracked analysing an analogy rather than relating back to the topic.

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RE: Analogys - 6/15/2006 5:20:58 AM

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So what does that say about someone who hates roller coasters and won't ride them and who also doesn't like scary movies. (grinning)

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RE: Analogys - 6/15/2006 5:24:44 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: heartfeltsub

So what does that say about someone who hates roller coasters and won't ride them and who also doesn't like scary movies. (grinning)

ROTFLMAO

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RE: Analogys - 6/15/2006 5:30:57 AM

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RE: Analogys - 6/15/2006 5:35:32 AM

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perfect analogy CrappyDom...You lead...she follows?

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RE: Analogys - 6/15/2006 5:38:26 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: heartfeltsub

So what does that say about someone who hates roller coasters and won't ride them and who also doesn't like scary movies. (grinning)

sit down
shut up &
enjoy the ride

(joke)

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RE: Analogys - 6/15/2006 5:46:34 AM

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In my childhood we spent summers on Cape Cod, I used to love to roam and explore. There were many squirrels, and one little creature in particular I took an interest to. At first it would scamper away in fear when I would approach, so each day I would return, leaving bits of food for it to eat, slowly dropping them closer and closer to me with each passing day .....Over a couple of weeks, the squirrel grew less wary and would come closer and closer until finally one day, it sat calmly beside me and ate from my hand...I gave the squirrel some morsels of enticement. Hunger drawing him to me. I seduced him then I had him eating from my hand.

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RE: Analogys - 6/15/2006 6:23:23 AM

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In M/s relationships there is a power imbalance, that dynamic is like the main breaker in your home. It is there that everything flows.
Other breakers in the box ( protocols, rituals) may be turned on and off at will, with no interruption of the main flow.

I have actually gotten a few people to "get it" with that one.

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RE: Analogys - 6/15/2006 8:05:01 AM

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This is a analogy of the lifestyle and how we are connected to one another.

I often describe the lifestyle as a jewel of infinite facets. Individuals on this jewel have their own specific facet to look upon the lifestyle. We are intimate with this view; it is the one we have the greatest understanding of. Looking into our own facet we can see a multitude of colors that cast upon us and color our view of the lifestyle. As we broaden our relationships with others, we become fortunate to catch a glimpse of their own individual facet. These relationships can have the very positive effect of giving us a greater understanding of our own lives and the facet that we view the lifestyle from.

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