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missalice -> RE: after-sex...what happens? (6/20/2006 2:50:48 AM)

My mentor used to tell me, "So and so isn't submissive! He's just submissive to his kink." .... Like many clients I have, they're perfectly subbie until they get off, and then they disappear and go assert their manliness somewhere.

....They can, however, learn how to be submissive at all times. You need to experiment a little... when he gets off, make him scrub the floor. If he says no, tell him he will NEVER EVER EVER hear from you again unless he scrubs your floor RIGHT THE FUCK NOW and then bitch at him the entire damned time.

Personally, I'd go ahead and then repeat the experience for about 12 consective hours.

But then again... I don't like having sex with subbies... the only way they get sex is with strap on, and I only do that with the very occasional and very lucky sissy slut. Sex is reserved for my equals, and by equals I'm mean females, so don't get any ideas, boys.



SenpaiandMia -> RE: after-sex...what happens? (6/20/2006 4:13:48 AM)

I personally have this same problem at times, more so in the past. I told Senpai about it, but I also asked for her help because I wanted to be submissive her all the time, and parts of my mind and body didn't agree with that. Chastiy isn't very fesible us, and having dicussed it are not interested in it.

Her solution was to forcibly keep me in chara. and scene even after cumming. It took some work but I have this issue less and less now, and even when I do, it makes me happy to know that Senpai is helping me fix it, and she is still deriving pleasure and enjoyment from me if I am not (because it dosn't matter if I enjoy it, if I do.. it's just icing on the cake). In the end that is what is most important, that she can still take what she wants and enjoy it even if I orgasmed or am struggling with my submissiveness at the time. I found it helps me also to feel more submissive during normal times too, because I know that she is working at molding me to what she wants and at times it won't be fun or easy. But when the day comes that my thoughts and desires are only and exactly what she wants.. mmmm that will be a great day... no matter how far off in the future it is.

Mia



cacodylic -> RE: after-sex...what happens? (6/20/2006 7:52:46 PM)

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ORIGINAL: TexasMaam
Don't let him cum. At all.
And if he can't hold it, punish him with a good 52 licks of a dressage whip on the bottoms of his bare feet if he's arrogant enough to cum without your permission.  He won't be so anxious to override your directive not to cum next time.
See how long he'll serve you without ever being allowed to orgasm in Your presence.


Not long at all, I suspect -- if he has any sense.

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ORIGINAL: BlkTallFullfig   If on the other hand you care for him, and the only issue is that he needs a little downtime after cumming, allow him that and than carry on.    M


An eminently sensible approach, highly likely to succeed...

quote:

ORIGINAL: missalice
....They can, however, learn how to be submissive at all times. You need to experiment a little... when he gets off, make him scrub the floor. If he says no, tell him he will NEVER EVER EVER hear from you again unless he scrubs your floor RIGHT THE FUCK NOW and then bitch at him the entire damned time.


If the requisite downtime [which normally isn't very long at all] is granted, the threats and bitching are usually not necessary to achieve further service [although both partners may find such things to be fun]. If no recovery time is granted, the domme clearly lacks understanding of male psychophysiology [or is choosing to ignore same] and hence is not worth playing with, in this sub's estimation ...



SeekingaServant -> RE: after-sex...what happens? (6/20/2006 11:33:57 PM)

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ORIGINAL: michaelGA2


i mean, even if You brought him to the edge several nights in a row and stop, adding a restriction to him where he's not allowed to (i dislike this word) cum, even in Your absence, would get Your point across and make him more submissive and, in fact, be begging for relief.

just my opinion, Ma'am.



I agree michael, to a certain point. But after talking with some of my fellow Mistresses..I think its time to put a little more seperation between subs/slaves and sex. Something to explore in the future, definetly...after I get a little more experience with keeping some in chastity. I've looked at some of the nice devices out there, I'm definetly looking forward to using...but in the future, not with this one.
His level of submission had some great points, and some bad faults. A fun play session, but not a ltr sub. Not for me anyway.
Thank you for your suggestion. 



SeekingaServant -> RE: after-sex...what happens? (6/20/2006 11:39:31 PM)

I thank you all for your input on this. As I've stated in a previous post, I'm going to go back to lurking for awhile. I really do enjoy reading what you all write from the Master/Mistress and the slave/sub point of view. It helps me (and others) to understand the differences in style and levels of control.

I think that its very important for us all to realize that what you write and what is read-into a post can sometimes be very different. With that often repeated and sometimes hard to learn lesson reinforced....I will bid you all ado for awhile. And once again thank you for your valuable advice and help.

:)



michaelGA2 -> RE: after-sex...what happens? (6/21/2006 4:01:49 AM)

"After Sex...What Happens?"

well, the male usually rolls over and goes to sleep while the fmelae flips through channels on the TV.

LOL[:D]



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