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Nothing really. Just kinda wondering. - 11/4/2012 1:01:53 PM   
Dominant4ever


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Hello to everyone that comes to read these message boards.

I am an older male Dom that has been on this site for many years now. I will be 52 this coming Tuesday, Nov-6.
Only reason I am here really, is that I find myself alone both here, and in life. I really feel as though I am coming to the last window in my life. I have done a lot in my time. But I am now at an age where I am getting older and seeing some things that I so enjoy in my life becoming harder, and harder to do, let alone enjoy.

I have been, and always will be, a very Dominant man. But as my age and years grew, I have found I am more loving and caring then I used to be in my younger days. I consider myself a "daddy" and find the soft and sweet begging of a girl melts my heart so that I want to help or do what I can for almost any little girl. Another thing that, with age, has softened.

I'm sure there are some of you reading that are thinking to yourself, "what the fuck is wrong with this guy?".

Nothing really. Just kind of alone with my thoughts and have not much else to do today.

Sorry if what I've written didn't entertain you. And I hate to pop your bubble........ but it wasn't meant to.



(please don't write hate posts just because I posted this)

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RE: Nothing really. Just kinda wondering. - 11/4/2012 1:04:52 PM   
theRose4U


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Status: offline 		Being a Dom doesn't mean being a heartless bastard!! Welcome to feelings, they will take you fun places if you use them right

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RE: Nothing really. Just kinda wondering. - 11/4/2012 1:07:06 PM   
catize


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Status: offline 		I do not think that to be dominant you cannot be loving and caring.  In my book, they are not mutually exclusive.

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RE: Nothing really. Just kinda wondering. - 11/4/2012 1:07:19 PM   
littlewonder


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RE: Nothing really. Just kinda wondering. - 11/4/2012 1:07:59 PM   
JeffBC


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quote:

ORIGINAL: theRose4U
Being a Dom doesn't mean being a heartless bastard!!

LOL. Wow! Really? You mean there's some hope of getting my MasterCard reissued after all?


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RE: Nothing really. Just kinda wondering. - 11/4/2012 1:14:16 PM   
theRose4U


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quote:

ORIGINAL: JeffBC

quote:

ORIGINAL: theRose4U
Being a Dom doesn't mean being a heartless bastard!!

LOL. Wow! Really? You mean there's some hope of getting my MasterCard reissued after all?


Ummm don't know jeff, for you it might have to be 6 month introductory offer ]

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RE: Nothing really. Just kinda wondering. - 11/4/2012 1:45:59 PM   
Dominant4ever


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Oh I'm not a stranger to feelings. I've had them all my long life.
Handling them is, and always will be, the challenge.

Through my life I have listened to, and taken advice from people. It's how you learn.
The trick, or what I like to call the "process" is what advice is worth taking? Another "learning process".

I've come a long why learning who's advice to take. And along the way, felt all the feelings anyone could feel.

But when I see, hear, or talk to a girl that I have decided is a real "being" get hurt, or mislead, YES my feelings flow.

So I'm no stranger to feelings.


And yes, I know that searching and looking will bring along a lot of :fruits, and nuts".

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RE: Nothing really. Just kinda wondering. - 11/4/2012 1:48:53 PM   
Babyslave90


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Status: offline 		That's kind of sweet. I tell my Dom he is not a pussy bc after he likes to just cuddle with me or he'll lay there and let me rub his back. Personally I think it is amazing that he can treat me like the only thing I am to him is a set of orafices (spelling?) and then the next min we r super intimate.

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RE: Nothing really. Just kinda wondering. - 11/4/2012 1:58:36 PM   
JeffBC


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ORIGINAL: theRose4U
Ummm don't know jeff, for you it might have to be 6 month introductory offer ]

I figure my best hope is pre-paid... something like "You boss Carol around 10x upfront and then we'll credit you with X amount of domliness" It's hard to say though, they change the rules every day and the reporting agencies are not transparent.


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RE: Nothing really. Just kinda wondering. - 11/4/2012 2:00:19 PM   
theRose4U


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Status: offline 		Realize with feelings the daddy dom search can have more landmines. I didn't realize the D to my D (yes mean D/D)was 15 years older when we started dating. Seeing the others point of experience was sometimes hard as well as dealing with some of the tantrums of his passionate nature. Anyway...my point is keep an open mind for a compatible partner not just poof I'm a daddy & moving in a 20yr old. That scenario is called mid life crisis & requires medication!

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RE: Nothing really. Just kinda wondering. - 11/4/2012 2:02:56 PM   
theRose4U


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quote:

ORIGINAL: JeffBC

quote:

ORIGINAL: theRose4U
Ummm don't know jeff, for you it might have to be 6 month introductory offer ]

I figure my best hope is pre-paid... something like "You boss Carol around 10x upfront and then we'll credit you with X amount of domliness" It's hard to say though, they change the rules every day and the reporting agencies are not transparent.


Sorry read the fine print...those rules changed after we discontinued measuring penises to determine masulinity!! Its been replaced with pissing for distance, you should be fine

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RE: Nothing really. Just kinda wondering. - 11/4/2012 2:06:48 PM   
OsideGirl


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RE: Nothing really. Just kinda wondering. - 11/4/2012 3:34:54 PM   
DarkSteven


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Status: offline 		What's the issue? You're a Dom. You want to do it, and she's okay with it, you do it. I've always had cuddling as one of my must-haves.

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RE: Nothing really. Just kinda wondering. - 11/7/2012 1:14:08 PM   
sinfulneeds


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Status: offline 		happy birthday !

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RE: Nothing really. Just kinda wondering. - 11/7/2012 1:29:55 PM   
Kana


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Status: offline 		I always cuddle her and tell her how much I love her between savage beatings.

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RE: Nothing really. Just kinda wondering. - 11/7/2012 1:35:11 PM   
Ninebelowzero


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Status: offline 		52 isn't old (I hope it bloody well isn't) welcome kick back & smoke a fat one OP.

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RE: Nothing really. Just kinda wondering. - 11/8/2012 12:56:01 AM   
MariaB


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Status: offline 		I went climbing the other day with a 68 year old bloke. He was climbing way above my level and I'm a pretty good climber. He was very patient with me though I guess his maturity had something to do with that.
Happy Birthday, have a good one and I hope all of your birthday wishes come true.

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RE: Nothing really. Just kinda wondering. - 11/8/2012 3:48:59 AM   
LaTigresse


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Status: offline 		Ya, the dude writes like he is 92, fondly looking back on his youth.

Dear OP, your way of doing shit is your way. It won't work for 99.9% of the s-type population. But it doesn't have to. It just has to work for YOUR s-type person.

Werk it man!

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RE: Nothing really. Just kinda wondering. - 11/8/2012 5:35:57 AM   
LillyBoPeep


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Status: offline 		Welcome to the forums. :) If you're looking in the DD/bg realm, you're in luck, because it seems most of the people involved there are looking for the super-cuddly relationship you're looking for. If you have not yet joined, check out Fetlife - there are several DD/bg groups there with a boatload of members.

For me, I like the caring, cuddly side, in a person who can also work up an edge. I like the tension between those too seeming-extremes. =p I have found, though, that most self-ID'd "Daddy Doms" don't have the edge to juxtapose with the cuddly.

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RE: Nothing really. Just kinda wondering. - 11/8/2012 11:39:00 AM   
sexyred1


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Status: offline 		OP, first off Happy Belated Birthday.

Second: I applaud your introspective post. Too many people fail to understand themselves and way too many fail to understand that we all go through stages of personal growth.

I have changed much since my 20's and I expect to change as time goes on.

You are not less Dominant now just because you feel more emotional; your style of Dominance may have changed, that is all.

And, it may change again. To me, there is nothing with being loving and caring; in fact, I seek that quality.

Again, as it is has been said above, you only need to find one person who shares your views, not please the world.

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