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RE: looking for something real 24/7 longterm - 11/10/2012 3:44:14 PM

eansdal

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Remoteuser, yes you understand what I am looking for is kinky but the relationship I'm hoping to achieve is mostly vanilla. I want my gf to feel more safe and cared for in what I would consider my daddy/daughter relationship. I do need ome degrees of kink and rough sex but the majority of what I am looking for is in the vanilla side. Thanks for the input.

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RE: looking for something real 24/7 longterm - 11/10/2012 5:34:38 PM

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I think people overcomplicate this.

What you want is not that unusual. You seem to think you can only be either warm and cuddly or be sadistic and rough.

Most people are capable of being both. There is duality in everyone's nature.

If you can only be one way, that would be a red flag to me. Unless someone is able to compartmentalize what they do and find a companion who only wants that one part of them, I think you should not approach things so narrowly.

Just meet women who interest you and take it from there.

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RE: looking for something real 24/7 longterm - 11/10/2012 5:49:14 PM

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I have wanted to find the 24/7 (male) slave for 20+ years (bedroom to office). I am beginning to think this is an impossibility to find. I get a far amount of interest but nothing actually materializes on the door.

Being the eternal optimist I keep looking; but silently wonder if it will ever happen.

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RE: looking for something real 24/7 longterm - 11/10/2012 7:51:52 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: sexyred1

I think people overcomplicate this.

What you want is not that unusual. You seem to think you can only be either warm and cuddly or be sadistic and rough.

Most people are capable of being both. There is duality in everyone's nature.

If you can only be one way, that would be a red flag to me. Unless someone is able to compartmentalize what they do and find a companion who only wants that one part of them, I think you should not approach things so narrowly.

Just meet women who interest you and take it from there.

This. Master and I cuddle all the time. He can be soft and romantic sometimes.Then there are other times he's sadistic and rough with me. He's a pretty balanced man with everything in life. It's not that complicated.

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RE: looking for something real 24/7 longterm - 11/10/2012 8:03:30 PM

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I have wanted to find the 24/7 (male) slave for 20+ years (bedroom to office). I am beginning to think this is an impossibility to find. I get a far amount of interest but nothing actually materializes on the door.

Being the eternal optimist I keep looking; but silently wonder if it will ever happen.

MstrPBK
St . Paul, MN USA

I certainly know nothing about your approach in real life...

BUT, I looked at your profile, and I sincerely I doubt you are going to find what you want here. Most people are not going to sit and read through the two pages of journal entries you tell them they must before contacting you. Just not going to happen. You are basically telling total strangers that they can't contact you unless they meet your requirements. Since they are not about to invest that much time in someone they know nothing about? They do exactly what YOU told them to do: they don't bother contacting you. You are pushing them away long before they could ever have any interest in you.

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RE: looking for something real 24/7 longterm - 11/10/2012 9:44:15 PM

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You also might want to try OK Cupid. It is a vanilla dating site but you answer a lot of "match" questions. You could tailor your answers so that the "matches" you get and the women get will indicate a certaIn level of interested in the same thing.
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RE: looking for something real 24/7 longterm - 11/11/2012 1:31:21 PM

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I have been getting good feedback. I completely agree and thank you for the input. The whole thing is I know I need a good combination of vanilla and kink in a gf. I need the rough sex and kink but if your on this site that much is establised. What I am hoping for is someone on this site with a great sense of humor who also understands I'm not interested in role playing I want the 24/7 thing.

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RE: looking for something real 24/7 longterm - 11/11/2012 2:08:12 PM

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Thank you so much for the reply. I can not tell you how relived how I am to know people have the same relationship that I am looking for. The search I obviously still ongoing and I expect this to take some time. Again thank you for the feedback.

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RE: looking for something real 24/7 longterm - 11/11/2012 8:42:08 PM

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Your right see I hate labels cause I'm just me I'm unique different and its really hard to define what I am. I call it a daddy dom you can call it dominant and your right. The thing is I'm mostly sweet and funny but I have a sadistic rough streak that is also me. Online dating for me is torture cause I can meet someone for 10 mintues in person and get a good feel for them, I can never get that feel for them online, but I'm trying. Thanks for your help, God knows i need it.

This is where a munch becomes so important. Energy is a hard thing to gauge via email

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RE: looking for something real 24/7 longterm - 11/11/2012 9:12:49 PM

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RE: looking for something real 24/7 longterm - 11/11/2012 10:06:57 PM

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Munch is kind of what it sounds like, cocktail party for kinksters. Ones near me are held in bars, teaching area of play space & IHOP.

Google BDSM munch & your city
Fetlife also has listings

Scary stuff...doms going sadistic on a short stack!!

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RE: looking for something real 24/7 longterm - 11/12/2012 7:42:34 AM

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Soft Dom is the easiest sell in Vanilla conversion-dom.

Therefore, up your game, write a really oblique Plenty Of Fish ad, then gather, sort, and cull.

It sounds like you don't know 100% what you want and you're afraid of being embarrassed in your pitch. Fix that, it's killing your chances.

I'm living your dream. To get there, it took a lot of self-honesty and self-belief and a sticktoitivness that a Jehova's Witness aluminum siding sale man would find discouraging.

But you should be living that way anyway, huh?

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RE: looking for something real 24/7 longterm - 11/12/2012 12:00:09 PM

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Thanks for the input I'm going to have to revision and make clear what specifically I am looking for. I intended to put a profile up and meet girls on this site and go from there. I dislike online dating and am unsure how much of myself I want to reveil even on a site like this. My intentions were to have more one on one type conversations instead of revealing myself to everyone. It makes sense though but opening up has never been my strength. Revisions are coming input always welcome and if anyone in KC has information about getting involved in the local community let me know.

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RE: looking for something real 24/7 longterm - 11/12/2012 12:11:14 PM

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If you go to Fet Life, type Kansas City into the search box, you'll get a list of people, events and groups near you. Just click on the tab that says "groups" and you'll be able to see ehat's going on near you.

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