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kinkyside -> Newcomer (11/10/2012 3:47:52 PM)
Hi i am a newcomer on collar me and new to bdsm but i always have felt submissivie towards women but is there any mistresses on here who dont require money all the time and just want a real slave for there pleasure

JanahX -> RE: Newcomer (11/10/2012 3:49:28 PM)
The answer to your question is: yes.

CynthiaWVirginia -> RE: Newcomer (11/10/2012 4:00:07 PM)
Welcome to CollarMe, kinkyside. Yep, there are folks like me who don't take any money/tribute. Of course, my boy has to do my laundry, wash dishes, carry my shopping bags, clean kitty litter boxes, do oil changes, etc. His learning to cook...is coming along slowly. I found my "real slave" here at CollarMe. [;)] Has anyone told you about BDSM munch groups yet? Just...meetups in restaurants once per month for a meet and greet. One of our munch groups hosts play parties, and yep, there are plenty of Dommes there.

Lockit -> RE: Newcomer (11/10/2012 4:09:25 PM)
Yes, however, few men are actually submissive in my opinion and most just want some kinky fun. A good decent submissive man around my age has far more to offer than money and I am worth a hell of a lot more than just money.

OsideGirl -> RE: Newcomer (11/10/2012 4:13:30 PM)
There are. I would suggest getting out into your community and meeting people.

kinkyside -> RE: Newcomer (11/10/2012 4:26:05 PM)
Thanks alot for all the advice but the fact is America is the place to be for this so many more dommes more genuine ones as well

OsideGirl -> RE: Newcomer (11/10/2012 4:39:29 PM)
We have some UK posters that may be able to point you in the right direction to find groups and events. I've observed that male subs tend to be more successful in a face to face situation. Typically, online they're inundated with zillions of emails and it all begins to look the same. But, face to face, you really get a chance to show who you are.

DarkSteven -> RE: Newcomer (11/10/2012 6:04:19 PM)
Fella, no offense, but your profile simply says "I want a Dominant woman" and it shows you smoking a cigarette. BAD branding. Describe YOURSELF. What are your hobbies? Do you work or go to school? What are your plans? What countries have you visited? Show pictures of yourself DOING things. Riding a horse or a motorcycle. Dressed up for a night on the town. Playing the saxophone. Fixing a washing machine. Show who you ARE and what you DO. And welcome to the collarme forums.

Lockit -> RE: Newcomer (11/10/2012 6:33:37 PM)
Oh I don't know Steven. There are domina's that smoke and his picture smoking shows that he is a smoker. Those that aren't into it know going in he smokes. If it is a problem, they won't contact or will try to get him to quit. I would rather see the truth of a man in his picture, than what he doesn't want me to see and hides. Smoking may be many things, but it is a choice people make and some even get off to it. I smoke and I like a man that either doesn't mind or smokes. I enjoy smoking. I am already dying of many other things, I might as well enjoy what time I have. lol Now, I did try quitting... that was dangerous! Blood pressure sky rocketed! So I use my cigs and my e-cig and if it brands me with some... I am good with that. I've told people for years... I don't do all these other things. I think one sin will be okay. Not okay with someone, they don't have to be around me, though I am respectful smoker. Some men absolutely love a domina smoking and ignoring them as they service her. That's all I am saying on that! lol

PeonForHer -> RE: Newcomer (11/10/2012 7:38:52 PM)
Hi Kinkyside, I'll second those who say put stuff in your profile so that women know something about your personality aside from your kink-interests. Also, get out and about: I'd recommend local munches, particularly. Also, there are clubs. To find out about both, visit InformedConsent. It's UK-based and is really good for finding out about nearby kink-type venues.

xLaChienne -> RE: Newcomer (11/10/2012 8:36:35 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: kinkyside Thanks alot for all the advice but the fact is America is the place to be for this so many more dommes more genuine ones as well Those in the UK say America has more meat, those in America say the UK has more meat. The thing they have in common? They never leave their computer to venture out into kink clubs and events to actually meet people. Don't look to the internet to make a determination on what you can find. Go out to clubs, events, parties, munches, group get togethers, etc. and meet and interact with people. Even if you don't meet someone right away that clicks, if you make a good impression then someone usually knows someone who knows someone else that may be perfect for you. I also agree with others in that you need to have a profile that is attractive to women in general. Less about kink and more about who you are as a person and what you offer.

AthenaSurrenders -> RE: Newcomer (11/11/2012 1:10:51 AM)
fast reply Lots of kinky folk in the UK. In fact, if I had to take a guess, I'd say you're better off starting out in the UK. We're more population dense, so even if you live in a tiny village with no kink scene of it's own, you're generally still within easy striking distance of a bit city. It's not like parts of the US where towns might be 100 miles apart. For the record, I'm in the UK, my husband moved here to be with me. Pickings were not rich in his tiny hometown in Wyoming. Good luck, I hope you find someone. But if you're struggling to find anyone not looking to get paid, get out there in person. And at the very least, work on making your profile awesome. You're auditioning for a role against thousands of other hopefuls. You can't just write down your wish and throw it into the well. You need to stand out.

myotherself -> RE: Newcomer (11/11/2012 3:01:20 AM)
I'm a UK kinkster and I know a fair few people on the kink scene in Yorkshire. I can promise you that it's one of the kinkiest regions in the UK, with a large number of munches and clubs. It's never easy finding a compatible partner, even those of us who identify as female subs/slaves find it tricky to find the right person, despite supposedly being able to take our pick of available men! Your best bet is to get out there, meet people, show that you are what you say you are and then you may start to get invites to private parties and network with other kinksters, including 'available' Dommes. I would suggest you go over to Fetlife, get an account and do a search for 'Fetish Yorkshire'. This is the main group for Yorkshire kink, and if you introduce yourself and ask about munches in your locality I'm sure they will be more than happy to help. If you're struggling to introduce yourself to the munch leaders, give me a shout and I'm sure I can find someone to help [:D]

Ninebelowzero -> RE: Newcomer (11/11/2012 3:32:17 AM)
Peon hit it square OP try https://www.informedconsent.co.uk/chat/Ultraviolence/ & fet life for local groups.

Baroana -> RE: Newcomer (11/11/2012 11:58:22 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Lockit Yes, however, few men are actually submissive in my opinion and most just want some kinky fun. A good decent submissive man around my age has far more to offer than money and I am worth a hell of a lot more than just money. What she said.

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