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Kaliko -> RE: Falling? (11/12/2012 4:00:08 PM)
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ORIGINAL: KnightofMists
So how do YOU know that you are falling for someone. What tell tail signs exist that bring you to the realization that this person is it!
Well, I think that you ask two different questions.
I know I am falling for someone because I feel compelled. There simply is no choice to be made. (I always have a hard time understanding those that have to think about whether they want to be with someone. Though I suppose I've done it too, and I've learned that if you have to think about it...then you don't.) I know because I throw myself into him, without provocation or expectation on his part, as long as I am welcome to do so. I commit myself of my own accord - no need for the "Let's not see other people" talk. If I'm falling for him, I am just not seeing anybody else because I couldn't bear it, not because there is any expectation of exclusivity. Most importantly, I utterly expose myself and kind of dive in head first from the start. And it is a "from the start" type of thing. I've learned that I'm not the type to wait for someone to grow on me. He is either important to me really quickly, or he's not. There isn't much of an in-between.
Of course, there are also all the wonderful, happy, expected signs as well - every song on the radio somehow magically describes what I'm feeling, my heart skips a few beats when I see or hear from him, I go to bed and I wake up thinking of him. The usual stuff.
I do, though, have a very definite marker to know whether he's "It" or not. That is - Would I want him with me when I'm taking my last breaths? Of course, many people don't want to be alone at that time, but this is not just wanting to not be alone. Would I want him there? Would I find comfort in just his presence? If he's "It" I will have faith in him and in my ability find solace with him.
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