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SweetSarijane -> Sad and Hurting (6/15/2006 6:45:27 PM)

I lost a friend today. He passed away suddenly from cancer. Too soon. It hurts. It's so hard to say good bye, to know that I'll never see his smile or hear him laugh, or laugh at his crazy antics ever again. I'll never see him again in this life. He was such a wonderful person and he touched so many lives. I know I'm rambling. It just fucking hurts so bad right now.



Level -> RE: Sad and Hurting (6/15/2006 6:52:53 PM)

I know it hurts, Sarah *soft smile*........ believe it or not, time will take away the sharp edges and crushing weight, and the love will be left. The love never goes away.



cuddleheart50 -> RE: Sad and Hurting (6/15/2006 6:54:59 PM)

I'm so sorry for your loss.  Your memories of him will keep you close.



spankmepink11 -> RE: Sad and Hurting (6/15/2006 6:59:02 PM)

Sarah, i'm so sorry you lost your friend. Cry for him...and smile through your tears when you think of how lucky you were that he touched your life.



BitaTruble -> RE: Sad and Hurting (6/15/2006 7:03:58 PM)

Sarijane, your sorrow honors his memory.. your memories will help lessen your pain ...the ache will dull in time and soon, as you think of his laughter, you will smile again.

I wish you well,

Celeste



SweetSarijane -> RE: Sad and Hurting (6/15/2006 7:34:32 PM)

Thank you to all of you who've responded. I know it will get better in time, I know, I've lost friends and family members, my father and my brother, but it's so raw right now. I just found out earlier this evening. It's just....we're all so stunned. He was part of our family. Everyone in our group thought so highly of him and cared so much for him. Less than 2 weeks ago he was diagnosed with lung cancer and was given 6 months. He'd just started radiation last week. I'm sad and crying and so angry too because he was supposed to have more time...a chance to beat this and he's gone.



UtopianRanger -> RE: Sad and Hurting (6/15/2006 8:36:28 PM)

Very sorry for you, Sarijane. Take care of yourself.



 - R



maybemaybenot -> RE: Sad and Hurting (6/15/2006 8:55:05 PM)

Sarijane:

Death leaves a heartache no one can heal, love leaves a memory no one can steal.  ~From a headstone in Ireland~
 
May the love in your heart always outweigh the heartache you feel.
 
                         mbmbn




missgiveNTake -> RE: Sad and Hurting (6/15/2006 9:16:51 PM)

I lost my mom 2 weeks after she was diagnosed with cancer. I know your pain.

I wrote this poem for my mom on her Birthday after she passed:
 
Happy Birthday Mom


Halo perched,
Angels singing,
Pearly gates decorated,
Punch for all,
Yes, mom must be there.

Because she
Insisted everyone
Rejoice in
Today and everyday.
Happiness galore,
Delight in life,
Always
Youthful, that was her.

Missing her dearly,
On this and every day,
Mom, Happy Birthday.



slavejali -> RE: Sad and Hurting (6/15/2006 9:28:26 PM)

Sorry for your loss sarijane.

When people pass out of this world, they always leave something behind, every feeling that you have shared together. Nurture those good feelings and share them with others...in that way their presence lives on.



FangsNfeet -> RE: Sad and Hurting (6/15/2006 10:22:02 PM)

That's life and yet we continue to move on. We spend what time we have so we can always have good memories to look back on. Stick with the friends you have now and continue to make new ones. As time passes, your mourning will turn into celebrations and laughter not just for yourself, but also to honor your friend as that is how he would most likely want for all of you to be. Do not be sad that he's gone but happy because you had the chance to know him.

"If you can only remember me in tears, then do not remember of at all" Michael Landon



SweetSarijane -> RE: Sad and Hurting (6/15/2006 10:27:48 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: FangsNfeet

That's life and yet we continue to move on. We spend what time we have so we can always have good memories to look back on. Stick with the friends you have now and continue to make new ones. As time passes, your mourning will turn into celebrations and laughter not just for yourself, but also to honor your friend as that is how he would most likely want for all of you to be. Do not be sad that he's gone but happy because you had the chance to know him.

"If you can only remember me in tears, then do not remember of at all" Michael Landon


Wise words. Thank you. We've (other members of our group) been posting back and forth in our yahoo group tonight memories of him, sharing the laughter he brought.



SweetSarijane -> RE: Sad and Hurting (6/15/2006 10:31:15 PM)

beautiful poem. thank you for sharing that and your understanding.



Submotive -> RE: Sad and Hurting (6/15/2006 10:33:05 PM)

Deeply sorry for your loss Sarijane. i'm sure you can feel us all embracing you and sending comforting energy to you.



Termyn8or -> RE: Sad and Hurting (6/15/2006 10:57:11 PM)

Level is right. Your friend lives on in your memory. Time does not change the memories, it changes you, making you stronger. I lost way too many friends and relatives through my 30s.

Time does take the edge off, but it is still there, and as long as it is, they are not really dead. They have done something in the here and now, even if it is through you. Evenetually you might want to talk about them. Perhaps an amusing anectdote. When you're ready. When you want to.

Thomas, Colm, Brendon, Rich, Jeff. Thomas was my first cousin. He decided to pass on a gravel burm on the BMW (motorcycle) , however, a truck pulled up in an apron of a driveway. He dumped the bike, which resulted in his neck being wrapped around a truck driveshaft. Closed coffin.

I wrote this because I want you to understand, as time goes by their life's importance does not diminish, you grow and accept their absence. The facts do not change, you do.

Please accept my condolences, and understand that I do know how it feels.

T



icetygrs -> RE: Sad and Hurting (6/16/2006 12:03:13 AM)

i'm sorry for your loss, one of my best friend was killed earlier this week in a car accident. i feel so lost......and it does hurt......but i have to remember kolbinsky will always be with me......and her parents gave me her spiky ball of death adn happiness she was so fond of (a hedgehog) so i dont feel like i lost all of her......but i still feel your pain.



SweetSarijane -> RE: Sad and Hurting (6/16/2006 12:20:39 PM)

Again I want to thank all of you for responding. I'm waiting to hear when and where services will be for him. All we know so far is that they will be sometime next week. I'm calmer right now than I was last night and hopefully that will last for a bit longer as last night drained me. It helped that several of us reminisced online last night about him. Funny and sweet memories and the happy times. He was a well liked and respected member of the local bdsm community and we are all going to miss him so much.



lilsqurtpita -> RE: Sad and Hurting (6/16/2006 12:34:30 PM)

So Sorry to hear of your loss.  i lost my Master a year ago . He was diagnosed in November and died beginning of April.  He had thyroid cancer that went to his lungs.  i only wished his passing was so swift. He suffered greatly in those few months and they threw everything they had to offer at him.  No words can soften the wound that their passing creates.  Only time, tears,  and memories will remind you what they meant to you.  That they will be with you always.   They are never gone nor forgotten, but only patiently waiting.
 
Little girl lost.. pita
 
 
To touch ones body is for the moment .. to touch one's soul is for life"
"In Loving memory  of Speclmagic" 4/2005



SweetSarijane -> RE: Sad and Hurting (6/16/2006 4:45:52 PM)

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ORIGINAL: lilsqurtpita

So Sorry to hear of your loss.  i lost my Master a year ago . He was diagnosed in November and died beginning of April.  He had thyroid cancer that went to his lungs.  i only wished his passing was so swift. He suffered greatly in those few months and they threw everything they had to offer at him.  No words can soften the wound that their passing creates.  Only time, tears,  and memories will remind you what they meant to you.  That they will be with you always.   They are never gone nor forgotten, but only patiently waiting.
 
Little girl lost.. pita
 
 
To touch ones body is for the moment .. to touch one's soul is for life"
"In Loving memory  of Speclmagic" 4/2005


My condolences, I am so sorry for your loss. I can only imagine the pain of losing partner/spouse and I feel for you. Whether friends, family, or spouse/partner those we lose in death remain through love and memories. I know my friend will live on in mine and in my heart and in time the grief will ease and  your Master will live on in yours.



pahunkboy -> RE: Sad and Hurting (6/16/2006 4:52:08 PM)

life is fragile. thats for sure. nothing i can say can make it better- feel your feelings tho. I hold mine in- and it comes out in other ways that are destructive to me.

my condolances,



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