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strap-on (newbie) - 11/12/2012 12:04:47 PM   
abamas


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Status: offline 		ok. Does it hurts? what do you need to use? is it safe? is it gay? i was watching a video and i get curious about it... don't know is it good or bad
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RE: strap-on (newbie) - 11/12/2012 12:06:22 PM   
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RE: strap-on (newbie) - 11/12/2012 12:10:01 PM   
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RE: strap-on (newbie) - 11/12/2012 12:21:26 PM   
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Status: offline 		1) anal play period may or may not hurt the first time around. the key is relaxing your muscles and using the right amount of lubrication. use your fingers first, then work up to bigger objects.

2) i assume your talking about a female using a strap-on on a male. no, it doesn't make you gay. loving another man makes you gay. there are straight males who enjoy pegging, which is the term for it. it's not "good" or "bad"...there's no reason to feel guilty about getting turned on by it.

3) it's great that you are curious about it. you can always experiment on yourself with toys before trying it out with a woman.

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RE: strap-on (newbie) - 11/12/2012 12:28:55 PM   
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RE: strap-on (newbie) - 11/12/2012 2:05:26 PM   
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RE: strap-on (newbie) - 11/12/2012 2:39:37 PM   
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RE: strap-on (newbie) - 11/12/2012 6:40:26 PM   
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Does it hurts? what do you need to use?
Some say it does hurt & some say it doesn't. Some love it & some hate it. Some even hard limit it. Before doing it with someone, I like to relax his bum & stretch it with my WELL-LUBED fingers first. Even then, his bum might not be ready for a strap-on dildo yet. In which case, I start out with smaller WELL-LUBED toys and work up, over time, to larger ones of a comparable size to the strap-on apparatus. Notice how I repeat "WELL-LUBED?" Lube is very important.

is it safe?
If it's done correctly and the man has so physical issues that would preempt it, yes.

is it gay?
NO! Being sexually turned on by men is gay. Being sexually turned on by receiving anal from a woman is not. Gay or straight, men have a prostate & that can get stimulated by anal sex and feel good.

i was watching a video and i get curious about it... don't know is it good or bad
I don't think there's any "good" or "bad" about it. I think it's just what each individual likes....or not.

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RE: strap-on (newbie) - 11/12/2012 10:02:48 PM   
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The scariest thing in BDSM for me won't try it even if they pay me 1 Bilion $




I second that

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RE: strap-on (newbie) - 11/12/2012 10:13:06 PM   
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The scariest thing in BDSM for me won't try it even if they pay me 1 Bilion $


Really? There is remarkably little I wouldn't do for a billion dollars...

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RE: strap-on (newbie) - 11/12/2012 11:31:10 PM   
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RE: strap-on (newbie) - 11/13/2012 2:13:22 AM   
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The scariest thing in BDSM for me won't try it even if they pay me 1 Bilion $


Really? There is remarkably little I wouldn't do for a billion dollars...


Likewise


OP - It's just sex. It's just another way in which you can have sex. If you fancy it, try it. If not, no worries. As long as you're not an idiot about it, you'll be fine. Worst case scenario? You don't like it and you don't do it again.

Treat yourself to a little buttplug and a bottle of lube and experiment alone. You'll quickly see whether you want to pursue it or not. Order online if it embarrasses you.

And call me old-fashioned, but I always took gay to mean 'sexually attracted to members of the same sex'. So are you into dudes? If not, you're not gay, no matter how many things you stick up your bum.

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RE: strap-on (newbie) - 11/13/2012 8:02:21 AM   
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The scariest thing in BDSM for me won't try it even if they pay me 1 Bilion $


Wow! I now understand why you have the ice cream cone above your avatar.

What's so scary about a strap-on? I can think of hundreds of things in BDSM that are scarier. Most of them involve knives, swords, needles, fire, electricity, and hard, heavy objects being used to smash my penis. But strap-ons are not the least bit scary.

Face your fears, and they will go away.

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RE: strap-on (newbie) - 11/13/2012 9:35:27 AM   
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If done right, it's not to bad the first time...

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RE: strap-on (newbie) - 11/13/2012 10:51:49 AM   
ServiceBoy89


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quote:

ORIGINAL: ServiceBoy89

The scariest thing in BDSM for me won't try it even if they pay me 1 Bilion $


Wow! I now understand why you have the ice cream cone above your avatar.

What's so scary about a strap-on? I can think of hundreds of things in BDSM that are scarier. Most of them involve knives, swords, needles, fire, electricity, and hard, heavy objects being used to smash my penis. But strap-ons are not the least bit scary.

Face your fears, and they will go away.


I don't want to have anything in my ass.I'am not interested and in the things you write knives, swords, needles, fire, electricity, and hard, heavy objects being used to smash my penis.Only body worship for now ;)

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RE: strap-on (newbie) - 11/13/2012 11:01:38 AM   
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Status: offline 		abamas - you are obviously very young and you are not specifying much in your profile, but please understand that there are friendly people here - you are already acquainted with absolutchocolat, NiceButMeanGirl, and AthenaSurrenders who have seriously tried to help you understand that there is nothing wrong with your desire. Hang on to what they say - in my experience, they are good people who intend to help.

Please also understand that there are many others here who are exclusively in for their own fun, and they have been around for so long that they have forgotten what it feels like being new and young and insecure. Many of them have become "evil", deranged", and "insane"... take those titles fairly seriously - and not their posts!

And finally, you should understand that there are many postings from young new people that are very difficult to take seriously - and that particularly includes postings from some who hasn't taken the time yet to create an introduction of themselves in their profile, so that the rest of us have a reference to what they are and what they are looking for here. Honestly, it is tempting for "old-timers" to make rude jokes about "outrageous questions" or "stupid statements", so do yourself the favor of finishing your profile and providing enough information in your posts that other people can understand where you are coming from and what you want and not mistake you for a troll that just tries to stir up noise.

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RE: strap-on (newbie) - 11/14/2012 10:17:41 PM   
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lube is your friend at this time.



Understatement of the century. :-)

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RE: strap-on (newbie) - 11/15/2012 11:56:56 AM   
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Wow! I now understand why you have the ice cream cone above your avatar.

What's so scary about a strap-on? I can think of hundreds of things in BDSM that are scarier. Most of them involve knives, swords, needles, fire, electricity, and hard, heavy objects being used to smash my penis. But strap-ons are not the least bit scary.

Face your fears, and they will go away.
Somebody must have been thinking of Me.


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ORIGINAL: abamas

ok. Does it hurts?


It can, but it doesn't have to. If your partner knows what she's doing, you'll be very excited and that is going to help relax the muscles that make it easier. You have an amazing number of nerve endings that can make the experience quite pleasurable.


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what do you need to use?


A strap on, some lube, and a partner. Hopefully one who knows a little bit about anatomy, how the body works, and uses that to her advantage.


quote:

is it safe?


Nothing is 100% safe. However, you can reduce risk. For example, it's not a great idea to force something too large or with rough edges. People have participated in anal play for as long as there have been people. It can absolutely be done safely.


quote:

is it gay?


No, a piece of plastic does not constitute that there is suddenly another man involved.


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i was watching a video and i get curious about it... don't know is it good or bad
Just friendly advice. Don't think about sexual desires in the context of good or bad. There are lots of ways to have sex. This happens to be one of them.

With that said, remember that different people have different views of sex. Not everybody is going to consider this a casual activity. (Personally, I don't.) Don't ask every woman on the planet if they would like to do this with you as if it's a game of tennis. Some people consider this an intimate act and appreciate it being treated as such. Act the same way about it as you would traditional sex and that means not every woman is going to appreciate you asking them if they would like to fuck.



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RE: strap-on (newbie) - 2/2/2013 3:01:09 AM   
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I fucked 5 men, 3 were ass virgins, two cried, one is American another is English.

And the American was greedy because he prepared 27 cm long strip-on, I only put head in, even it was too much for him.

And for my first strip-on experience, I was 18 years old and I didn't really know a lot about it, I only put 2 fingers in before I fucked him, and it was not enough. When I stuck the strip-on in, it was like I was sending him to hell, and he was strong as Hulk. So warm up is important, now, before I can put 4 fingers in, I won't fuck anybody. Can use fingers and dildo by yourself. Or mistress' help. Warm up is needed. Rope idea will make people cry.

Good lube is very important, and condoms for me. And things to clean your ass, there are many ways, if you are lazy adult shops sell tools as well


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RE: strap-on (newbie) - 2/3/2013 10:58:48 AM   
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Status: offline 		I just realized, this thread is now three months old. Has it qualified as a Necro Thread yet, or does it have to be older?

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