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sensutease -> RE: soft/psychological maledom? (11/13/2012 1:07:13 PM)
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thank you all so far, I will take a look at your suggestions when I get time.
As to hard vs soft, I guess I used the wrong words, I meant that most videos are more focused on physical pain. Physical humiliation in porn is rare and even rarer is mental humiliation.
I am bad at finding the right description, but I agree that I find the mental/shame/humiliation aspect worse than the pain aspect. I guess that is why I turn to femdom much more than maledom. It is also somehow ok for me, because I enjoy watching a girl getting herself pleasure(d).
But while I like to see it, and I love to pamper my girl sexually, coming down to a kink level, I prefer to be the dominant one and tease, deny and humiliate her.
I agree that it is probably nothing for a porn movie, but can only happen in a real relationship. But that is also the reason I look for such porn, I am not the type to just start some casual relationship to get myself off. While my last relationship was fulfilling, I don't feel like getting in a new one just now. Still I have my needs. And those femdom movies are much closer to it, than the maledom ones. So it can't just be a question of authenticity in making such movies with a male top.
@ autumnember
As to denial making you "clingy, insecure, pissed off kinda way", I guess I am quite sadistic there, but reading this, it could be fun for me. I like to make my girl furious or desperate) it is fun to watch how she struggles but can't get what she wants. Maybe take her in my arms and make her feel safe and understood, yet continuing to play with her. I love to feel with her, what she is going through. I have a good heart though, I always let her cum nicely in the end, but before she may have to wait wait for a long time, edge often, ruined orgasms or all together. It also depends on the girl,as to what she is sensible to.
@athenasurrenders
What keywords I use, actually none really pertinent, I just scroll through more general ones like humiliation, submission, ... every more detailed search like "girl kissing/licking feet/shoes of man" always gives me femdom stuff.
Call me an hopeless optimist, but I hope to find that porn movie site, that doesn't do or say the wrong stuff. Yet this is not only a problem of porn movies, also with real people, they often say the wrong things and you have to tell them. Which would bring us back to starting a relationship in some way or another, which isn't my intention at the moment for many reasons.
@Salinedion
Thank you for your kind words. You really nailed it with talking about the motives. I want to see motives. I want to see how that brain of the sub falls into the submission. How she may try to resist, but just can't. But because her Dom is cunning, not because he forces her in a physical way. Any strong guy can grab a girl on the street and rape her. That is not domination. Or at least not the kind I am looking for. I would love to see how the girl is torn between not wanting to do it, yet also not really be able to resist to do it. to see her devotion, but also her disgust. the effort she makes, but also the pleasure she gets from it.
when i write about it like that, i realize that it probably is foolish to look for that in a porn movie. Maybe we should switch the discussion to a general exchange of points of view on this.
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