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Distance Punishments - 11/21/2012 5:45:58 AM

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I am involved in a DD relationship. My loves a bit away and we only see each other bi-weekly or so. How about some creative punishments I can administer when we are not together?

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Monica

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RE: Distance Punishments - 11/21/2012 5:56:27 AM

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How about you conduct a search (see "search" button at top right of all forums) on the subject and see how many threads there are. Some people bite and throw their 2 cents in. But, not too many people take kindly to being asked to do your work for you.

Good luck!

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RE: Distance Punishments - 11/21/2012 5:58:32 AM

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Hi Monica, welcome to the boards.

Just to make sure we are answering the right question, do you mean 'punishment' as in a fun play scenario for you both, or as an actual unpleasant consequence for misbehavior? People use the word differently and it will save a lot of confusion if you can clarify what you're thinking of first.

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RE: Distance Punishments - 11/21/2012 9:29:09 AM

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I'm confused. If you are in a D/D (Dom/Domme) relationship, why is anybody punishing anyone?

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RE: Distance Punishments - 11/21/2012 9:53:17 AM

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I was guessing it stood for domestic discipline.

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RE: Distance Punishments - 11/21/2012 1:06:43 PM

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Yep, that is what I meant Domestic Discipline.

Thank you.

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RE: Distance Punishments - 11/21/2012 9:56:41 PM

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What does he hate? Or are we talking "funishment"?

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RE: Distance Punishments - 11/22/2012 8:57:55 PM

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How about teach him to succeed so there is no need for punishment.

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RE: Distance Punishments - 11/22/2012 9:03:34 PM

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How about teach him to succeed so there is no need for punishment.

Revolutionary!

although I have to guess from the tone of the post we are talking funishment here.

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RE: Distance Punishments - 11/23/2012 9:09:44 AM

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The funishment should fit the crime.

(Just the facts, ma'am. Just the facts.)

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RE: Distance Punishments - 11/23/2012 9:14:44 AM

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*laughs* Where is SimplyMichael when you need him? He'd be able and willing to trot out a list of fun, long-distance funishments that'd be hot as hell.

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RE: Distance Punishments - 11/24/2012 9:03:52 AM

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*laughs* Where is SimplyMichael when you need him? He'd be able and willing to trot out a list of fun, long-distance funishments that'd be hot as hell.

THANKS! However, she still hasnt stated if this is an attempt to correct behaviour or to have fun.

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RE: Distance Punishments - 11/24/2012 9:44:26 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Monica21

I am involved in a DD relationship. My loves a bit away and we only see each
other bi-weekly or so. How about some creative punishments I can administer
when we are not together?

Thank you,
Monica

Hmmm. Long Distance Part Time Domestic Discipline eh? That's a doozie.
Have them go to the nearest 5 star hotel dressed as Santa Clause, and follow the
housekeeping staff around. Make sure they take notes on how to properly make the bed.

Orrrr...Have them take mustard and ketchup into the shower stall and write your name all over it,
waiting a few days for it to harden before they attempt to clean it. Demand before and after shots.

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RE: Distance Punishments - 11/24/2012 11:00:06 AM

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Whether the "punishment" if for fun or for behavior correction, I advise against relational aggression. Tools like withholding contact, sex, affection, or attention can foster resentment rather than growth. You should want to be involved in the "punishment" as much as the other side is. Relying too heavily on assigning tasks and turning away leaves bottoms with a sense of "I could dom myself this way... This deal stinks." The domestic service angle throws in a weird monkey wrench because listening to or watching someone service a home is more of a punishment than actually cleaning.

What a lot of people above me (both in regards to when they posted and how experienced they are) are driving at is that behaviors that need correction through punishment indicate larger problems. But I get the sense that OP is asking for long distance play ideas.

You see each other often enough, why not just have them keep a journal and deal with it when you see one another?

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