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RE: Addressing new dominants. - 11/25/2012 12:05:52 PM

slavehearttt

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OP, If anyone demanded that i refer to him as Sir or whatever, I'd ignore him and move on, it really is that simple.

i know from your other post, you already blocked him, but...see below, since i see that you cross posted....

Maybe I am missing something, do you have permission to discuss your "training," intimate details, and/or business about you and your Master, with other "Doms"? He wouldn't be "bossing" you around and telling you the "correct way," if he wasn't given fuel in the first place. If you do have permission, perhaps you should filter what you do say to them.

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RE: Addressing new dominants. - 11/25/2012 1:32:05 PM

Thaz

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For me as a Dom getting called Sir or Master means I've earnt the respect ....if they handed them out like cup cakes it wouldnt be worth earning....

So no. Untill I prove it to the lady in question then my name will do just fine. Plus I prefer to hear my name groaned not 'sir' when she looses control.....

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RE: Addressing new dominants. - 12/2/2012 11:02:42 PM

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You need to have a talk with you "master" and find out what he is, and what you are to each other. Dom does not equal Master, nor sub and slave.
You use the words interchangeably and they are not always the same. There are many fakes in this world and you may have found two.
1) No Slave talks to anyone without Master's permission.
2) No Master talks to a slave without your Master's permission.
3) "Different strokes for different folks." Your Master has a reason he is training you a certain way. You have placed your Faith and Trust in your Master. Now why any questions?
Tell the disrespectful "Dom" what ManeiacMistress advised if and only you have a compulsion to say anything to him at all.
Your Master should not be sleeping through this. Also, if your Master is a Master he will invite the Dom over for some anal training from your Master.

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RE: Addressing new dominants. - 12/4/2012 1:27:00 PM

thegreatetienne

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lol wow

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RE: Addressing new dominants. - 12/4/2012 1:54:03 PM

AthenaSurrenders

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quote:

ORIGINAL: alexander75310

You need to have a talk with you "master" and find out what he is, and what you are to each other. Dom does not equal Master, nor sub and slave.
You use the words interchangeably and they are not always the same. There are many fakes in this world and you may have found two.
1) No Slave talks to anyone without Master's permission.
2) No Master talks to a slave without your Master's permission.
3) "Different strokes for different folks." Your Master has a reason he is training you a certain way. You have placed your Faith and Trust in your Master. Now why any questions?
Tell the disrespectful "Dom" what ManeiacMistress advised if and only you have a compulsion to say anything to him at all.
Your Master should not be sleeping through this. Also, if your Master is a Master he will invite the Dom over for some anal training from your Master.

What nonsense is this? Someone behaves rudely online, and the only Masterly response is to stick something up his butt? That doesn't meet my definition of Master. Quite the opposite in fact.

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RE: Addressing new dominants. - 12/4/2012 3:16:40 PM

JeffBC

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Dude... Alexander buddy. You need to lay off the crack pipe or the BDSM porn or whatever it is that is affecting your higher reasoning abilities.

Did you happen to notice that points 1 & 2 in your little master's manual seem to conflict with point 3? Are you aware that pretty much when somoene posts their own "one true way" it brands them as being completely inexperienced? Plus, we all laugh at such things. Here's a rule you ought to consider...

4) No real master (as defined as someone who actually owns a slave) is particularly interested in what some random internet master thinks the one true way is.

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RE: Addressing new dominants. - 12/4/2012 3:19:35 PM

Rochsub2009

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Here's my opinion: As a sub, I am not submissive to the world, but only to those I choose to be submissive to. Just because someone self-identifies as dominant doesn't mean I have to like them, respect them, listen to them, or address them in any way other than how I want to. They have no rights with me other than those I give them. If I were you, and I was talking to this guy, I'd say: "You're being an asshole. Quit calling me 'subby." My name is X. You can address me by my name and I'll address you by your name. And if that's too much for you, then you can move on. i won't mind one bit. So it's choice: Be an asshole and watch me yawn and hang up, or be real and see what happens."

I agree with Seeingreality's comment.

He may consider himself to be a Dom, but he's not YOUR Dom, and he shouldn't act like it. And if he knew that you are already owned, then he REALLY shouldn't have treated you that way. In fact, you should have ceased all communication with him as soon as he started telling you that your master was doing everything wrong. In some ways, you allowed him to disrespect your master. But he should have known better.

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RE: Addressing new dominants. - 12/4/2012 3:24:11 PM

Rochsub2009

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quote:

ORIGINAL: alexander75310

1) No Slave talks to anyone without Master's permission.
2) No Master talks to a slave without your Master's permission.
3) "Different strokes for different folks." Your Master has a reason he is training you a certain way. You have placed your Faith and Trust in your Master.

Do you realize that 2 of your 3 points are total BS, and should be ignored in their entirety?

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RE: Addressing new dominants. - 12/4/2012 3:57:42 PM

searching4mysir

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quote:

ORIGINAL: alexander75310

You need to have a talk with you "master" and find out what he is, and what you are to each other. Dom does not equal Master, nor sub and slave.
You use the words interchangeably and they are not always the same. There are many fakes in this world and you may have found two.
1) No Slave talks to anyone without Master's permission.
2) No Master talks to a slave without your Master's permission.
3) "Different strokes for different folks." Your Master has a reason he is training you a certain way. You have placed your Faith and Trust in your Master. Now why any questions?
Tell the disrespectful "Dom" what ManeiacMistress advised if and only you have a compulsion to say anything to him at all.
Your Master should not be sleeping through this. Also, if your Master is a Master he will invite the Dom over for some anal training from your Master.

Sure thing, cupcake. You just keep thinking that. You are such a speshul snowflake *pats hand*

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RE: Addressing new dominants. - 12/4/2012 5:10:32 PM

TieMeInKnottss

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So... I have decided I am Queen of the World....just call me Your Highness. Sounds ridiculous doesn't it? Titles are earned and used because others want to or must respect you. (Some N. Koreans might not have thought Kim Il Jong really deserved to be called "Dear Leader" but no one dared not to) ask any number of Ph.Ds how many people refuse to call them doctor...not a darn thing they can do but NOT respond. So, he can insist all he wants, his only retaliation to your NOT calling him sir is to delete your email.

You might be young but, come on, didn't' you learn that little gem in school...want to undermine the authority of another, want to sow seeds of dissent...start telling the underlings how the leader they are following is wrong. Watch the news, in an election year, we call it campaigning for office. Romney walked around for a year telling everyone how Obama was screwing up. The online guy is doing the same thing...campaigning for office

Got to agree with the people who are questioning why you are discussing intimate sexual details with a stranger. You say you are looking for friends well don't send mixed signals by discussing sex... First, even if you all talk online for 5 years...he is a stranger. Without having access to someone's real world where you can see them interact with others, meet people they choose to socialize with, see if he accelerates when there are children or old people in a crosswalk..you can't know him. You are being given only one set of input data..what he wants you to know. No theory can be proved by only using the source's data. Would you use a medication that the only research and data came from the producing lab just because they SWEAR they have nothing to hide? It is called conflict of interest.

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