Should I even be on this site?

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Edder -> Should I even be on this site? (11/23/2012 9:00:07 PM)
I'm not looking to "own" a slave, nor am I assertive in life. I'm just looking for a normal girl who's into weirdness and kink, that likes being choked and bit in the bedroom, that wouldn't mind reversing roles if the mood strikes. OR just a cool friend, to talk. So far, I'm seeing submissiveness like a business on this site. Am I in the right place for my quest?

SinFix -> RE: Should I even be on this site? (11/23/2012 9:10:53 PM)
Don't let this place fool you, there is room here for everybody. Just search for what you want and don't worry about what everybody else is doing.

Level -> RE: Should I even be on this site? (11/23/2012 9:28:29 PM)
Yeah, take your time and look around, find you a kinky friend.

Muttling -> RE: Should I even be on this site? (11/23/2012 11:28:03 PM)
As was mentioned above, you are welcome here and you might find the one you connect with here. This said, dating in the BDSM community isn't all that different from the vanilla community....it takes time to find someone who you truly connect with.

FreeFromSin -> RE: Should I even be on this site? (11/24/2012 3:18:14 AM)
Just make sure to mention you are a Switch. Also, mention you're kinky but not a Dom or sub, or slave. Also, you're not into S&M.

Kana -> RE: Should I even be on this site? (11/24/2012 6:13:19 AM)
Do those gals on your profile pics know you've used their images on a BDSM site? If not, they may just be super pissed at you...with good reason

ChatteParfaitt -> RE: Should I even be on this site? (11/24/2012 6:17:36 AM)
You're in NY city environs, for pity's sake get yourself to a munch. Oh, and welcome to the discussion side.

JeffBC -> RE: Should I even be on this site? (11/24/2012 9:13:55 AM)
If there's room for me... the non-kinky guy... there must be room for you, the kinkster without the D/s stuff :) I agree with Kana that the pic in your profile with the other two girls had better have their approval.

TheBoyDownBelow -> RE: Should I even be on this site? (11/24/2012 9:56:00 AM)
Full disclosure, in your profile and/or in your communication is a must! To be honest about what you are seeking is key. Also be prepared to expand your horizon non the less. Your potential partner's needs have to be incorporated. Make them one of your priorities! This way you will be learning more about yourself as well. And yes, for honesty's sake, loose that avatar. Your fellow kinkster A bottomless bottom The deviating deviate A useless to be used

DesFIP -> RE: Should I even be on this site? (11/24/2012 10:45:12 AM)
If you're honest, there's a place for you. Putting up a picture of a girl when you're male will be seen as misrepresentation by females though. Put one up of you, face doesn't have to be clear. Or of a place you enjoy going. Just represent yourself honestly and don't focus on kink unless you're not looking for more than a one night stand. Because people will need to know more about you than you like to switch if you're to acquire friends.

BambiBoi -> RE: Should I even be on this site? (11/24/2012 10:50:19 AM)
You've gotten great advice here. I would add the title "fetishist" to your vocabulary. There's nothing wrong with liking some of the shiny, painful, latexy bits of the BDSM lifestyle without wanting to marry the power exchange elements. But that you need to be clear about. Nothing is worse than finding out down the road that the person you thought would be a twisted soulmate is just looking for a spank and tickle in an otherwise vanilla relationship.

SimplyMichael -> RE: Should I even be on this site? (11/24/2012 2:50:14 PM)
Its a fake profile people, get with the program.

frazzle -> RE: Should I even be on this site? (11/24/2012 4:02:27 PM)
You know its a fake profile because you wrote it???? or is there some other reason???

littlewonder -> RE: Should I even be on this site? (11/24/2012 5:04:37 PM)
Take out of your profile that you are looking for a submissive or switch. You're not. Put down that you are looking for someone for a normal relationship with someone into kinky sex. In the end that is what you are seeking from what you said here. Your profile does not reflect that. You are confusing those who are subs and/or switches.

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