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littlewonder -> RE: And I Quote... (11/25/2012 5:16:45 PM)

This is as bad as the profiles that say "Will fill out at another time. Until then, just ask me". What exactly am I supposed to ask if I don't know a single thing about them and what they are doing here?

As for the op's post, it means "email me so I can look at your profile and see if you're hot or not. If you're hot I will respond. If not then I will ignore you or respond with how ugly and fat you are".



Duskypearls -> RE: And I Quote... (11/25/2012 5:44:18 PM)


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ORIGINAL: BambiBoi

It's a red flag. [sm=imnewhere.gif] (Closest smiley we have to red flag?)

I assume a top/dominant wrote that. The statement takes for granted the reader's interest in submitting. In my corner of BDSM, the top earns the submission of the bottom.
If a bottom wrote it, I still don't like it.

By saying "What I want...well....you will have to earn that knowledge" the speaker is setting a precedent of leaving the listener in an ambiguous place. I dismiss the words as a line, a facade by which depth is faked by using a lack of information in place of a real mystery. I read it as "trust me, I'm mysterious." Well, apparently you're not mysterious.


I'm with you, Bambi, good call. I suspect the author's intent is to put the interested party at a power disadvantage from the git go, which reeks of an inflated sense of self, sadism or narcissism, at the very least.



DesFIP -> RE: And I Quote... (11/25/2012 5:48:19 PM)

What it says to me is that the guy is so desperate, he's going to tailor his answer to what you want. Want a bondage top, suddenly he's an expert at shibari. Want extreme humiliation, he's going to do it while thumbing through the dictionary to find words to say to you. And so on.

I don't mind people saying they want to know that you should like each other as people before negotiating sex positions and such. That makes sense to me. But even so, you need a basic guideline to know if your must have is his dealbreaker and vice versa.



SacredDepravity -> RE: And I Quote... (11/25/2012 8:54:05 PM)

All these sound just about right. I don't think there's any misunderstanding. I think it is a power game coupled with desperation. Just so long as I haven't gotten jaded in my old age.

SD



JeffBC -> RE: And I Quote... (11/25/2012 9:02:17 PM)

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ORIGINAL: SacredDepravity
Just so long as I haven't gotten jaded in my old age.

Actually, I kind of think you're getting less jaded in your "old age" :)



AthenaSurrenders -> RE: And I Quote... (11/25/2012 9:31:34 PM)


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ORIGINAL: littlewonder

This is as bad as the profiles that say "Will fill out at another time. Until then, just ask me". What exactly am I supposed to ask if I don't know a single thing about them and what they are doing here?

As for the op's post, it means "email me so I can look at your profile and see if you're hot or not. If you're hot I will respond. If not then I will ignore you or respond with how ugly and fat you are".



That one always baffles me. In fact I often have people message me with 'wanna talk'. If I say ok, they invariably have nothing to say to me and come out with something like 'you can ask me anything'. Except they've not given me enough of a starting point to ask anything at all. Work with me here people.

It makes no sense in a (male) profile, since there are so many of them. If I have thousands of profiles to browse, most of which do have some information, why put forth the effort of contacting someone when it is very likely that we won't be compatible anyway. I'd rather save my energy for someone who has some kind of starting point. At least if I know you're into playing the guitar or dancing I can see if we have that one thing in common.



littlewonder -> RE: And I Quote... (11/25/2012 10:28:37 PM)

I hate when I have to say, "so what would you like to talk about?". The responses are always one of two....."I dunno. What would you like to talk about?" at which point the conversation usually goes..."you messaged me, I didn't not message you. There must be some reason you emailed me." At that point they call me a slut or whore or whatever and stomp off or they say "tell me about your bdsm experiences." or "Does your Master allow you to fuck other men/women/?" or some other wanking material. [8|]

From there it's usually me telling them to check out the forums if they want to know or they just run away.



saundrakitty -> RE: And I Quote... (11/25/2012 10:53:13 PM)

Yep, I have to agree with everyone it makes me wonder if He even had a though in his head? I have also had some that would email me with a a similar replay, and I would either answer them with We'll if you really wanted to know what would earn my trust, the first thing you need to do is learn to communicate. Even the sadistic Switch in me wants to know you if you can communicate because I don't to wast my time, when I know I will have other emails or read other posts that thought out what they need and desire and posted it helps me make a choice of who i will contact. Age does make us more open but also very sarcastic. [8|]



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