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Help...I am new - 11/26/2012 4:53:25 PM   
teachme54321


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Status: offline 		I am new to all this...and looking for some good advice about how to find a true Dominant...how to filter out the fakes...please help
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RE: Help...I am new - 11/26/2012 5:29:33 PM   
LookieNoNookie


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RE: Help...I am new - 11/26/2012 5:32:11 PM   
QueenRah


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Status: offline 		Take a needle in hand. Poke prospective twue Dominant. If she deflates - fake. If she flattens you - not fake.

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RE: Help...I am new - 11/26/2012 5:32:15 PM   
LadyPact


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Take the kink out of it. How would you find a partner in the vanilla dating world?

I've been in the scene for over a decade. I've been to more munches than I can remember. I recall every person in attendance to be a real human being. Perhaps, you may as well.


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RE: Help...I am new - 11/26/2012 5:32:45 PM   
poise


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Status: offline 		A true dominant is any person that meets your definition of a dominant.
Weeding out the fakes should be easy, as they are the opposite of your definition.

Although, since you're married and looking for a married Dom, I'm not sure
what the word true means to you. Hopefully, you aren't being untrue to your husband.

< Message edited by poise -- 11/26/2012 5:37:00 PM >

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RE: Help...I am new - 11/26/2012 5:35:04 PM   
OsideGirl


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quote:

ORIGINAL: teachme54321

I am new to all this...and looking for some good advice about how to find a true Dominant...how to filter out the fakes...please help


I would suggest that rather than focusing on finding a Dominant, you spend some time learning and observing.


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RE: Help...I am new - 11/26/2012 5:38:03 PM   
Kana


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But that's just me, and Zog knows I'm a bloody lunatic, prone to ranting, raving and howling at the moon on a regular basis

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RE: Help...I am new - 11/26/2012 5:47:38 PM   
searching4mysir


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Status: offline 		Does your spouse know you are here and supports you in your search? A dominant man of honor won't touch a married woman without the consent of her spouse (and he won't take your word for it either).

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RE: Help...I am new - 11/26/2012 5:55:24 PM   
noellesdestiny


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RE: Help...I am new - 11/26/2012 7:37:19 PM   
theRose4U


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ORIGINAL: Kana

I suggest talking to them.
But that's just me, and Zog knows I'm a bloody lunatic, prone to ranting, raving and howling at the moon on a regular basis

Yeah but its the scent marking of furnature most of us object to

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RE: Help...I am new - 11/26/2012 11:16:04 PM   
AthenaSurrenders


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- If they claim to be an expert at every kinky thing ever, they've watched too much porn
- If they immediately jump into telling you there's only one 'right' way to do D/s, they're clueless
- If they start with 'kneel bitch' or want immediate cam sessions, they're wankers
- If they want money, they're scammers

Beyond that, you need to filter them out just like you would any other acquaintance you met in life. Listen to their words and watch their actions and see if they match up. Get to know them. Some people are assholes. Some people are just not compatible.

But the others have a point. You're married, no mention of spouse being on board. You want someone married. You're mostly gonna attract online wankers and scummy cheaters.

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RE: Help...I am new - 11/27/2012 1:47:02 PM   
Kana


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ORIGINAL: theRose4U


quote:

ORIGINAL: Kana

I suggest talking to them.
But that's just me, and Zog knows I'm a bloody lunatic, prone to ranting, raving and howling at the moon on a regular basis

Yeah but its the scent marking of furnature most of us object to

Just another crotch on the bedpost, baby!

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RE: Help...I am new - 11/27/2012 3:03:50 PM   
theRose4U


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ORIGINAL: Kana


quote:

ORIGINAL: theRose4U


quote:

ORIGINAL: Kana

I suggest talking to them.
But that's just me, and Zog knows I'm a bloody lunatic, prone to ranting, raving and howling at the moon on a regular basis

Yeah but its the scent marking of furnature most of us object to

Just another crotch on the bedpost, baby!

You should be so lucky

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