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southernfemmeboy -> Subtle Public Play (11/26/2012 9:38:05 PM)
This is always a controversial area because some are very offended by engaging the public in our kinks. However there is a way to balance this and keep it between D/S partners. One of my favorites as a CD submissive is to wear lingerie under clothes, also a gender role reversal at dinner where my Domme orders for us, especially fun when she grabs the wine list and approaches the hostess regarding seating options. This may seem really minor but they do go against the tendencies of many vanilla folks. Vibrating bullets can be fun, too and for those into medical play what about going with a sub to a colonic. They encourage visitors, the rooms have chairs and you can do a lot since they mostly leave you alone (mostly!) Curious what others enjoy that does not offend the innocents

seekingreality -> RE: Subtle Public Play (11/26/2012 9:52:00 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: southernfemmeboy This is always a controversial area because some are very offended by engaging the public in our kinks. However there is a way to balance this and keep it between D/S partners. One of my favorites as a CD submissive is to wear lingerie under clothes, also a gender role reversal at dinner where my Domme orders for us, especially fun when she grabs the wine list and approaches the hostess regarding seating options. This may seem really minor but they do go against the tendencies of many vanilla folks. Vibrating bullets can be fun, too and for those into medical play what about going with a sub to a colonic. They encourage visitors, the rooms have chairs and you can do a lot since they mostly leave you alone (mostly!) Curious what others enjoy that does not offend the innocents I am really not a fan of public play. That said, I agree that if you are going to do it it should be subtle so you don't intrude on others around you. Personally, I find it tiresome and impolite if kinksters try to force others to be their audience.

DarkSteven -> RE: Subtle Public Play (11/26/2012 9:52:11 PM)
I LIKE this topic. Public play where both partners know what's going on, but the public doesn't.

SacredDepravity -> RE: Subtle Public Play (11/26/2012 9:58:50 PM)
I think a well built dynamic is going to include this as just the natural course of events. Am I to suspend deferring and obeying just because we are out to dinner or shopping? I don't think so. It's not obnoxious. It just is and really doesn't disturb anybody. As far as doing other things in a public setting, I think it has to be well thought out and constructed not to involve others. We may have our own little world together, but the rest of the people on the planet didn't just disappear. I don't care what they think, but I do care that I have shown basic common courtesy. SD

JeffBC -> RE: Subtle Public Play (11/26/2012 10:01:33 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: southernfemmeboy Curious what others enjoy that does not offend the innocents shrug I took Carol on a leash through the hotel and around the block to the restaurant where we had a delightful dinner. I'm pretty sure we had a delightful conversation with most everyone involved although, to be fair, I think the young ladies behind the hotel counter where I asked for information about local restaurants were a bit flustered. edited to add Lest I overplay this... We were both dressed in very upscale, sleek and sophisticated dinner wear. Her eternity collar actually fit with the outfit as an expensive designer "industrial necklace". So we were definitely throwing off a generally "don't be too shocked" vibe even with the leash. My point, though, is that I'm not all that concerned about offending the delicate sensibilities of other people. They can honor the parameters of the law just as I must. And, in fact, when done appropriately it ends up being more "interesting" than "shocking". The restaurant, for instance, had the option to refuse service which I would have understood, of course, and honored gracefully.

littlewonder -> RE: Subtle Public Play (11/26/2012 10:09:45 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: southernfemmeboy also a gender role reversal at dinner where my Domme orders for us, especially fun when she grabs the wine list and approaches the hostess regarding seating options. This may seem really minor but they do go against the tendencies of many vanilla folks. [Maybe it's just me but I see this all the time with all kinds of people...females ordering for males, males ordering for females. Sometimes it's just that one party knows more about the food, wine or restaurant than the other person does. Master orders food for me all the time simply because he's better at it than I am. He's worked in the service industry and he knows me well. quote: Vibrating bullets can be fun, too and for those into medical play what about going with a sub to a colonic. They encourage visitors, the rooms have chairs and you can do a lot since they mostly leave you alone (mostly!) Curious what others enjoy that does not offend the innocents bullets and other vibrating toys might be fun for about five minutes. After that I forget they are even there to be honest. Unless something is strongly vibrating on my clit, I'm just not going to be all that turned on. Most vibrating wearables are not that strong and any others are too loud for public wear. As for the colonic. How is that bdsmy? My husband used to sit in the room when I would go for a pap smear or go to any doctor's appointments. He always liked to go along in case he had questions to ask or in case I would forget to ask which happens to me all the time. He also liked being able to make me comfortable while there by talking to me and just being there. I don't see how the reverse would be any different. Master and I are just ourselves in public. He's always in control, he's always the leader so neither of us really think about what we're doing and we really haven't had any interest in any kind of subtle public play. I think the most public play we ever did was him playing with me in the car while driving someplace or ducking into an alleyway for some touchy, feelly, ouchies type stuff.

southernfemmeboy -> RE: Subtle Public Play (11/26/2012 10:57:32 PM)
The colonic can be very kinky because if you are receiving the cleansing, youre not going anywhere for an hour. A Dom can have a very captive audience and unlike at a traditional doctors office plenty of privacy. Are those nipple clamps coming out? wonder if the colonic nurse will notice

ARIES83 -> RE: Subtle Public Play (11/26/2012 10:58:09 PM)
Public play and toys... Hmmm. I can't really think of anything. I'll occasionally find a quite corner to get a blowjob whilst out on the town but then again, it's not much to do with being out in public, just that I like blowjobs... I wouldn't call most D/s stuff that I do play really, but there is lots of that stuff. I like having the last say in what my partner wears, same with hair colour and style, and lots of other little things... OP, I don't really consider a lot of the things you mentioned like her choosing from the wine list ect as "play", it's kinda just bog standard D/s IMO. I've gone into change rooms sometimes to watch my partner model things for me, but I don't really do any playing, just trying to decide what outfit to buy for her. But I guess all that stuff is kinda fun, so maybe it is a kind of play... -Aries

NuevaVida -> RE: Subtle Public Play (11/26/2012 11:11:10 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: southernfemmeboy The colonic can be very kinky because if you are receiving the cleansing, youre not going anywhere for an hour. A Dom can have a very captive audience and unlike at a traditional doctors office plenty of privacy. Are those nipple clamps coming out? wonder if the colonic nurse will notice Except nipples clamps for an hour is not a good idea. The ex dude and I went to a Broadway show once while I was leashed, but it wasn't noticeable. Choke chain around the neck, with a scarf over it, the leash ran down my long sleeve, he held it in his hand, close to my own hand. Just looked like we were holding hands. A periodic little tug of the choke chain could be seen by no one. I agree with littlewonder about the bullets. They're more of an annoyance than anything, but mostly boring. The Mister & I haven't done a lot in public by way of play - subtle or not. One thing we always do - but not bdsm related - is "make out". Like, if we're going through a car wash I say, "Oooh let's make out in the car wash" and he grabs me and kisses me. Same with an elevator. Or an alley. Or...you get the idea. [;)]

littlewonder -> RE: Subtle Public Play (11/26/2012 11:26:11 PM)
Yeah, the making out thing in elevators and alleys...has nothing to do with bdsm, just the moment overtaking each other. Nothing different than we both have done as teenagers a million times. As for the colonic room...clamps? No...it would lead to me making too much noise. They just hurt too damn much for me. Him giving a little squeeze of the nips or a slap across the cheek or a pinch anywhere? Not a big deal. He's done that in lots of places before where no one can notice such as sitting at a table at dinner or a movie theater, etc.... My experience has been that this kind of stuff is a bigger deal to those people who are sorta new to bdsm and still going through the whole frenzy stage. I think the longer you've been around the less it's all that surprising or a big deal. It's just something that happens.

BambiBoi -> RE: Subtle Public Play (11/27/2012 12:30:12 AM)
For a long while I lived a 24/7 lifestyle with my pet. If you can believe it, Bamboo was a dominant.. a top. Because it was 24/7, the power exchange permeated traditionally vanilla things. I'd order for her in restaurants, I'd tell her what to wear (usually by specifying an object I wanted er to wear and letting her build an outfit around it. I don't much care for wrestling the closet). Some things were overt and strange, but still subtle: I had her carry a childish tin lunch box as a purse when we were together. When she wasn't holding my hand, she would pinch my shirt or clasp my pants pocket until I reached down an resumed holding her hand. I'd also speak to her in a very specific way. Statements like "mind your footing" and "be a gem...hold this" became code for "go to your place, Toy" and "Attention, Slavegirl!" When the relationship has strong communication skills, a glaring look is just as effective as a strike across the face. She had her own behaviors to mimic mine. We were always very careful not to offend those around us. I'm a firm believer in the social contract, and I did not want to breach it. More importantly, sometimes littluns are around. As a matter of etiquette, we never publicly used any toys outside of collars that passed for choker necklaces. I've always been the conservative one in my relationships, though. I understand the excitement of public play, though. I've owned my fair share of remote controlled wireless bullets. Just remember that adults are keen and almost always underpaid to deal wit your kinks. Littluns are obviously another concern, especially for those Daddy-dom relationships.

LadyPact -> RE: Subtle Public Play (11/27/2012 3:02:38 AM)
While some might be shocked, I am one of the most conservative kinksters that you will ever meet. I don't involve the vanilla public in general. Medical appointments? I'm way more interested in the in the health and well being of My boy to fuck around in that area. I can have him at home for hours on end. Why do I need to potentially screw with medical professionals during an office visit? These things are for the weak and those who do not know how to wield power and authority in day to day life.

SimplyMichael -> RE: Subtle Public Play (11/27/2012 6:38:11 AM)
Try walking her around with a leash in public that is attached to her labia piercing, a word of caution, be VERY careful about cross traffic, lol! Take a pair of sunglasses and spraypaint the inside black, add in a plastic egg for her mouth and earplugs. Macy's dressing rooms are perfect... I LOVE playing in public!

NuevaVida -> RE: Subtle Public Play (11/27/2012 6:56:51 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: littlewonder Yeah, the making out thing in elevators and alleys...has nothing to do with bdsm, just the moment overtaking each other. Nothing different than we both have done as teenagers a million times. Which is what I said. [;)] It's just fun and playful for us.

RemoteUser -> RE: Subtle Public Play (11/27/2012 7:31:23 AM)
If you want to play in public, words are far more subtle and can be as effective as toys, used properly. Tools are tools.

kalikshama -> RE: Subtle Public Play (11/27/2012 1:32:33 PM)
quote: those into medical play When I used to see an acupuncturist for my knee, I got a big kick out of her use of the needles and the TENS. I have my own TENS now <weg>

DesFIP -> RE: Subtle Public Play (11/27/2012 1:55:47 PM)
It wasn't play by any means but he literally had to drag me in to see the gastroenterologist and have a colonoscopy. He holds restaurant doors and pulls out my chair which I wait for. Hardware stores, I'm as likely to get the door as him.

mnottertail -> RE: Subtle Public Play (11/27/2012 1:57:02 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: kalikshama quote: those into medical play When I used to see an acupuncturist for my knee, I got a big kick out of her use of the needles and the TENS. I have my own TENS now <weg> Yeah, well....I have an ELEVENS...

kalikshama -> RE: Subtle Public Play (11/27/2012 2:11:19 PM)
/slurp/

Kana -> RE: Subtle Public Play (11/27/2012 2:13:46 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: littlewonder quote: ORIGINAL: southernfemmeboy also a gender role reversal at dinner where my Domme orders for us, especially fun when she grabs the wine list and approaches the hostess regarding seating options. This may seem really minor but they do go against the tendencies of many vanilla folks. [Maybe it's just me but I see this all the time with all kinds of people...females ordering for males, males ordering for females. Sometimes it's just that one party knows more about the food, wine or restaurant than the other person does. Master orders food for me all the time simply because he's better at it than I am. He's worked in the service industry and he knows me well. quote: Vibrating bullets can be fun, too and for those into medical play what about going with a sub to a colonic. They encourage visitors, the rooms have chairs and you can do a lot since they mostly leave you alone (mostly!) Curious what others enjoy that does not offend the innocents bullets and other vibrating toys might be fun for about five minutes. After that I forget they are even there to be honest. Unless something is strongly vibrating on my clit, I'm just not going to be all that turned on. Most vibrating wearables are not that strong and any others are too loud for public wear. As for the colonic. How is that bdsmy? My husband used to sit in the room when I would go for a pap smear or go to any doctor's appointments. He always liked to go along in case he had questions to ask or in case I would forget to ask which happens to me all the time. He also liked being able to make me comfortable while there by talking to me and just being there. I don't see how the reverse would be any different. Master and I are just ourselves in public. He's always in control, he's always the leader so neither of us really think about what we're doing and we really haven't had any interest in any kind of subtle public play. I think the most public play we ever did was him playing with me in the car while driving someplace or ducking into an alleyway for some touchy, feelly, ouchies type stuff. She is soooo fibbing. We've had times laying on the beach, looking for/to all the world that we were just snuggling, a couple completely gaga about each other, lovey dovey cuddling. But up close I was pinching her, biting her ear, scratching her raw, making her want to twist and scream, beg and groan, and all the while I'm whispering in her ear, "Don't you dare make a scene. There are people watching. Stay tight, stay in control, make me proud." And then I'd bite again real deep. And from afar, oh my, it looked just like she was giggling and laughing when really she was fighting back tears trying to maintain her composure. Yeah, I do shit like that all the time. We won't even discuss the times she's gone shopping, bought only one giant cucumber, and then fucked herself with it on the car ride home... Shit, just writing that, rethinking it gave me a woody. I might have an agenda for this weekend [:-]

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