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RE: How to tell if a relationship is BDSM? - 11/28/2012 8:51:59 AM

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aawwwww thanks LP. not so bad ya self though eh?

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RE: How to tell if a relationship is BDSM? - 11/28/2012 9:08:56 AM

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RE: How to tell if a relationship is BDSM? - 11/28/2012 9:25:57 AM

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I'm kind of lost as to how dressing like a slut equals being a submissive?
Annie, since you label yourself a submissive, do you dress as a slut?

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RE: How to tell if a relationship is BDSM? - 11/28/2012 10:36:01 AM

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ORIGINAL: annierose

Sorry, didn't mean to be offensive to anyone. No, it is none of my business. And yes speculation can be fun. I guess my intent in asking the questions was more of determining a way to find out if some might be in the lifestyle in a smallish town without embarassing either myself or anyone else by asking if they are in the lifestyle.

I can see why you haven't replied again. You would think it was rude to ask a simple question on a forum that relies on people putting their two penneth in.

In my experience, submissive women aren't really that submissive, they claim to be submissive and then give you a contract as long as your arm in which you (as the supposed dom) have to comply with or have your balls bitten off. I suspect your boss is just checking on her dom man and giving him a little slutty reward for complying with his wife's contract he had foisted on him.

Just my two penneth.

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RE: How to tell if a relationship is BDSM? - 11/28/2012 11:31:19 AM

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How do you tell if a relationship is in the "lifestyle"?

Ummmm, you ask them. Or better yet, you wait until they tell you that they are. And if they never tell you that they are, then you stay out of their business.

Frankly, I see people who dress sexy all the time. But I don't assume that they're a sub. Or a Domme. I just assume that it's a woman who likes to dress sexy.

BTW, what does being over 40 have to do with anything? Should women throw away all of their attractive clothes and start wearing nun attire once they turn 40?

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RE: How to tell if a relationship is BDSM? - 11/28/2012 11:36:26 AM

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ORIGINAL: needlesandpins

ok, see that photo of me right there <<<<<<<< i'm 40

And you look amazing! There are women in their 20's who wish they could look as sexy as you do.

You're 40 and fabulous, Baby! Forty and fabulous.

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RE: How to tell if a relationship is BDSM? - 11/28/2012 11:49:35 AM

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In my experience, submissive women aren't really that submissive, they claim to be submissive and then give you a contract as long as your arm in which you (as the supposed dom) have to comply with or have your balls bitten off.

When I was in the military, we had tons of rules because people do stupid shit. When I'm with a new partner, I wish I didn't have to have a list that includes "wash your hands" and "wear a condom" but, alas, experience has taught me that this is necessary, even with people who otherwise appear to have common sense.

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RE: How to tell if a relationship is BDSM? - 11/28/2012 1:35:36 PM

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needles is very yummy looking. second that.

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RE: How to tell if a relationship is BDSM? - 11/28/2012 1:49:24 PM

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thank you very much guys!

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RE: How to tell if a relationship is BDSM? - 11/28/2012 2:57:47 PM

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You know, the funny thing that just occurred to me is that I'm actually IN my own relationship... and have been for almost 2 decades now. But I'm still not sure if it is "in the lifestyle" or not. Granted, Carol and I are an edge case but it points out how impossible such a thing might be for an outsider even in the more normal cases.

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