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naughtynick81 -> RE: Looking for Dominant Mistress in San DIego (11/27/2012 3:20:40 PM)
theRose4U, just because she's a woman, that doesn't mean me as a male would be interested in her and have the same opinions as you.

theRose4U -> RE: Looking for Dominant Mistress in San DIego (11/27/2012 3:29:14 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: naughtynick81 quote: ORIGINAL: VioletViolence I never said that there weren't any women who were interested in casual play. But the fact remains that there are far MORE men interested in it than women and men are far less picky about who they're willing to play with. Listen, when your inbox is flooded with messages from people who don't give a shit about who you are, they just want to use you for their own personal benefit, you start to really appreciate those who take the time to treat you with some decency. Women aren't saying men are evil for wanting casual sex/play, we're just saying that we'd like some acknowledgement that we're more than just a disposable warm body for you to use and toss aside. Just like men complain about women wanting them only for their wallets, women complain about men only wanting them for their bodies. Comprende? Then there is this thing called paranoia which I seem to observe all the time on these sites. A man is basically expected to be walking on egg shells with women who think like you. They are on a BDSM website, they want to talk about BDSM which is logical being on a BDSM site. This doesn't mean they don't want to know you as a person or don't want a relationship. You get this perception due to the biased social stereotypes placed on men. A man can't even express his sexual feelings without being under the suspicion of being an evil using bastard that just wants to use and dump. It's ridiculous. I'm sorry you seem to have mistaken this for porn hub. The forums are more like a coffee shop where everyone happens to wear purple. Just because this is a BDSM site doesn't mean dropping your dick on the counter entitles you to anything!

naughtynick81 -> RE: Looking for Dominant Mistress in San DIego (11/27/2012 3:32:01 PM)
Where am I dropping my dick on the counter? Secondly, it's like comparing apples to oranges when talking about forum discussion vs a private conversation with someone potential.

naughtynick81 -> RE: Looking for Dominant Mistress in San DIego (11/27/2012 3:35:23 PM)
theRose4U, you have no picture of your self in your profile. Your profile says little. But I bet you have no problem getting people interested in you on this site, right? You know why? Because you're a woman. Now lets look at a male with the same type of profile as yours. What luck will he likely get?

OttersSwim -> RE: Looking for Dominant Mistress in San DIego (11/27/2012 3:43:48 PM)
Yea yea Nick, ain't life just a bitch? Might as well yell at the sun for coming up. Your quack quack quack about it in every post isn't helping anything, and it makes you look whiny and pathetic. BDSM is weighted to the Ladies advantage. There are more males than females. There is no changing it. Accept it and deliver your A game, or go home and start an ant farm.

naughtynick81 -> RE: Looking for Dominant Mistress in San DIego (11/27/2012 3:47:38 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: OttersSwim Yea yea Nick, ain't life just a bitch? Might as well yell at the sun for coming up. Your quack quack quack about it in every post isn't helping anything, and it makes you look whiny and pathetic. BDSM is weighted to the Ladies advantage. There are more males than females. There is no changing it. Accept it and deliver your A game, or go home and start an ant farm. Yeah not like dommes complain about men just wanting one thing. But that's all the sudden magically not considered as whiny and pathetic. Can you smell the female favoritism? Gotta larf If dommes are allowed to complain, so are are we. It's a 2 way street, buddy.

searching4mysir -> RE: Looking for Dominant Mistress in San DIego (11/27/2012 3:51:46 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: naughtynick81 quote: ORIGINAL: OttersSwim Yea yea Nick, ain't life just a bitch? Might as well yell at the sun for coming up. Your quack quack quack about it in every post isn't helping anything, and it makes you look whiny and pathetic. BDSM is weighted to the Ladies advantage. There are more males than females. There is no changing it. Accept it and deliver your A game, or go home and start an ant farm. Yeah not like dommes complain about men just wanting one thing. But that's all the sudden magically not considered as whiny and pathetic. Can you smell the female favoritism? Gotta larf If dommes are allowed to complain, so are are we. It's a 2 way street, buddy. It isn't just the dommes complaining about that. The female subs do too. My profile CLEARLY states that I'm owned, but that doesn't stop douchebags from filling my inbox with cock shots and offers for casual sex.

LadyPact -> RE: Looking for Dominant Mistress in San DIego (11/27/2012 4:09:26 PM)
Rose, that was very sweet of you to say. Thank you. quote: ORIGINAL: naughtynick81 theRose4U, just because she's a woman, that doesn't mean me as a male would be interested in her and have the same opinions as you. And I have always said exactly that. Many people have various types that they are looking for. I don't think that should offend anybody. However, let's get back to this bit about women find easier play partners than men. That can be true, especially in cases where people don't know each other. When people know each other in the community, that changes. Do you really think people (male and female) would continue to play with Me if I was a lousy or unsafe top? Frankly, at least a third of the people that I play with are women. The reason for that is that the sexual element is removed. Casual play doesn't automatically mean casual sex for a lot of people. I can't tell you how often female bottoms tell Me that they are relieved to be able to play in a non sexual manner.

naughtynick81 -> RE: Looking for Dominant Mistress in San DIego (11/27/2012 4:15:48 PM)
LP, when it comes to casual play, I don't expect sex neither. In fact, I'm far less interested in sexual intercourse than I am with the headspace my kinks put me into. So I prefer to not have sex with the people I play casual with but I will do it if its important to them. Having a dick doesn't automatically mean that I want to jump in your vagina as much as being a woman doesn't make you an instant prize to men....not that I accuse you of thinking that.

JeffBC -> RE: Looking for Dominant Mistress in San DIego (11/27/2012 4:24:00 PM)
post changed because I realized nick wanted casual play presumably with strangers and I know nothing about that scenario although I'd be willing to bet I could arrange it tonight if I felt like it. I'd call one of my kinky friends and tell them I had a bet and did they know someone I didn't know (since you're scenario presumes stranger) and take it from there. Betcha it wouldn't be hard. Me: Looks (1-10): 5... 6 on a good day. Money (1-10): 3 Experience (1-10): 0 Super awesome, aren't I? I'm not rich. I'm not Brad Pitt. I'm not a figure in the local scene... or even in the local scene hardly. I'm just some guy with some kinky friends and I'm sure they'd help me out.

stef -> RE: Looking for Dominant Mistress in San DIego (11/27/2012 4:32:30 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: JeffBC This has nothing to do with getting lucky as you seem to think. It has to do with being a decent, respectable male. Perhaps that what he means when he says "Males are deemed disposable unless they are super duper above average". Clearly, he's not interested in expending that much effort. Whining and blaming women for his shortcomings is soooooooo much easier.

LadyPact -> RE: Looking for Dominant Mistress in San DIego (11/27/2012 4:37:11 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: naughtynick81 LP, when it comes to casual play, I don't expect sex neither. In fact, I'm far less interested in sexual intercourse than I am with the headspace my kinks put me into. So I prefer to not have sex with the people I play casual with but I will do it if its important to them. Having a dick doesn't automatically mean that I want to jump in your vagina as much as being a woman doesn't make you an instant prize to men....not that I accuse you of thinking that. If you had, I'd probably have to tell you that you should know better than that. I think you'd have to give credit where it's due. I do have to say, nick, I don't really understand the issue. I think we've gone over the territory, but I honestly can't remember. Do you have clubs or BDSM groups near you where casual play is an opportunity? If so, especially with the above, why wouldn't that be an option?

naughtynick81 -> RE: Looking for Dominant Mistress in San DIego (11/27/2012 4:37:34 PM)
quote: What makes me "above average" is that I see women as humans, not walking pussies That's laughable. How can I take you seriously when you generalise the male population of just viewing women as walking pussies so to speak. If anyone generalised women/dommes in any way [insert anything negative that exist here] it would be deemed misogyny and totally unacceptable. But yet comments such like this always gets given a pass in this forum. It's hilarious. Even blind freddy would be able to sense the hypocrisy. There may be some men who are exactly like you said they are. Then there are cases of nutty paranoid women who thinks a man is an evil woman user until jumping a million hoops to prove otherwise. With plenty of these nutty paraniod women around, it ups the accusation towards men on a general basis and next thing you know, hyperbole alert! Jeff, what you are saying about your self may be true or you may be white knighting to score points. Who knows. But you are terrible at expressing how "special" you are. The fact of the matter is that, yes, there are a minority of men out there who get lucky or more than lucky. But this doesn't refute the fact that men on a general basis have it a lot harder than women on a general basis. Not to mention, the hypocrisy that comes into these games. Such like many women out there are hardly willing to put in as much effort when it comes to courting as to what effort they expect out of men. Profiles and emails for an example.

JstAnotherSub -> RE: Looking for Dominant Mistress in San DIego (11/27/2012 4:41:13 PM)
Good gawd yer a whiney man. Put some damn pants on and get happy with your own self. That is the key to happiness grasshopper.

naughtynick81 -> RE: Looking for Dominant Mistress in San DIego (11/27/2012 4:44:59 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: JstAnotherSub Good gawd yer a whiney man. Put some damn pants on and get happy with your own self. That is the key to happiness grasshopper. heh yeah how dare a man has a politically incorrect opinion unfavorable of women. So let's just make shaming tactics towards his masculinity. Screw democracy ay? lol

SeekingTrinity -> RE: Looking for Dominant Mistress in San DIego (11/27/2012 4:45:34 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: naughtynick81 Call me a misogynist all you want. I believe women on this site are over privileged spoilt brats that have it all and yet plenty still remain unsatisfied of having it all. I don't take anyone on this site seriously anymore. Can I ask you something honestly, Nick? This is based on the quote you gave a few pages back and Ive listed above and it correlates to your most current response to JeffBC. Now you got all high and mighty on him about generalizing, but yet you yourself do the same exact thing yourself as indicated by your quote above. I personally have never spoken to you once before this post right here, yet because I am a woman and I am on this site...Ive been pigeonholed by you as an over privileged spoiled brat that has it all and somehow still remains unsatisfied. This wasnt directed at SOME women on here because if you had directed it towards some women, Id have to actually agree with you. But not all of us out here are like this. Yet you paint us with such a broad brush as well. Why is it not okay for anyone else to generalize, yet its perfectly fine for you to do it? Just curious P.S. If you read what he said, he said he sees women as human beings and NOT walking pussies. At no time did he say anything about the male gender in general. Perhaps maybe you are a bit too butthurt over whatever has you pissed off and now its you versus the world? I dont know, but Id like to find out who peed in your Cheerios because Id beat their ass myself. Especially if it would get you to chill the hell out even a little.

naughtynick81 -> RE: Looking for Dominant Mistress in San DIego (11/27/2012 4:51:18 PM)
Seeking, so you are saying women on a general basis aren't over privileged when it comes to this scene? I am wrong to point out a fact? Unlike a fallacy in saying most men are just sexist pigs that just see women as meat and nothing more? If so, not many relationships or friendships with women would exist lol.

lizi -> RE: Looking for Dominant Mistress in San DIego (11/27/2012 4:54:56 PM)
Sure, men have it harder at finding casual encounters than women do, because there are more men looking for that than women. What does it matter if men have it harder? You seem to be so dead set on proving that men have it harder, say it's true, now what? If there is an imbalance, how do you suggest taking care of the unequal supply and demand problem? Can it even be taken care of or do you have to suck it up at some point and move on with things? Btw, not many things in life are fair or equal. What about all of those things? Should everything be equal? Is that even possible? So someone is born in a third world country shack, as many people are, and others are born into better circumstances...it happens. What do any of those people do with their lot in life? You make it sound as though there is something to be done about this injustice of not having enough women to go around for what you want them for, should there be laws requiring women to give up their time/energy/sexual favors to men simply because it's what men want? This topic of how unequal it is for men and women is pointless. Maybe it's time to work within the system and try to get what you want, instead of continuing to point out that it's not falling into your lap.

theRose4U -> RE: Looking for Dominant Mistress in San DIego (11/27/2012 4:55:03 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: naughtynick81 theRose4U, you have no picture of your self in your profile. Your profile says little. But I bet you have no problem getting people interested in you on this site, right? You know why? Because you're a woman. Now lets look at a male with the same type of profile as yours. What luck will he likely get? First off I don't have pics because I don't believe in feeding the wankers. Profile is short, sweet & 4 years old specifically because it keeps my inbox manageable. The people I have met from this site were those I met IN REAL LIFE then realized they were chat friends. I've had real life kink interactions BECAUSE I WORKED FOR IT!! Every post I have ever made is in the same profile, not one is me being rude & disrespectful while whining about boo hoo I'm single but acting like a schmuck...but fuuuuuuUuuck me!!!! Kink & sex are as much about presentation here as in real life. Your pic shows your ass while you act like one...you seriously think that's appealing? Subs I choose are well groomed, well spoken, intelligent, know better than to whine about things firmly within their control (like consequences of their own behavior) , have skills of interest & use,& usually are skilled in something I'd like to learn like classical guitar. Women aren't like a garage door where you hit one universal button & they open up. Women are like a combination lock & an oven had a baby. 2 times to the right, land on 6, once to the left 15 then right to 23 only to wait & pre-heat the oven before unwrapping your turkey. Common thread with YOUR offensive mouth, YOUR offensive actions & YOU not gwtting laid isn't me or any other woman here!

searching4mysir -> RE: Looking for Dominant Mistress in San DIego (11/27/2012 4:55:55 PM)
quote: Seeking, so you are saying women on a general basis aren't over privileged when it comes to this scene? No, they are not. Because women, in general, are looking for different things than men when it comes to BDSM. For every decent guy on sites like this there are hundreds (if not thousands) of losers who are only thinking about themselves and getting off. They don't give a shit about us. Any warm, wet hole will do. Most women don't give a shit about a guy's dick until they give a shit about him. They don't want strangers near their genitalia, and even those who ARE open to casual sex usually still feel that they have to know (somewhat) and like the guy first. If that is over-privileged, well then too fucking bad. Get over it.

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