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CynthiaWVirginia -> RE: Question about milking (11/29/2012 5:38:55 PM)
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ORIGINAL: totalworship7
I think you may have misunderstood what she intends to do. She will make me cum, but do it over and over again until I am completely drained.
I am afraid that the misunderstanding is yours. It will feel great, will make you drain until you have a long line of pre-cum dangling down to the table or to your knees, but it's not very likely this will trigger an orgasm unless you are prone to having analgasms or are allowed to stroke off at the very end of the session while still having your prostate stimulated.
Or she might finish you off with an e-stim butt plug that will force an orgasm, but...it won't feel great like a normal orgasm. Don't be afraid to negotiate a scene. IMHO, during a "test", both people are tested. Sorry if my saying that burst any hawtness bubble over the thought of passing some test. [;)]
I know it's exciting to find someone who will scene with you in real time, and yes, I have topped many guys on a first date before...but this was after spending several hours in their company first, earlier that day. Most bottoms were so wound up over a meetup, often first time scening, that they didn't have a safe call in place, even when I sent them to a link to explain why they should have one and how it works. (It may not "save you" if something goes wrong, but it could help get you out of a bad situation sooner.) Many were under the misapprehension that there would be no safe words. Too much BDSM porn watching as a way of getting their "education", so I had to get them comfortable with using red and yellow (my preference) for safewords, or with just feeling free to simply say "safeword!"
My boy's first experience receiving anal was when he was trained/owned by someone else, all tied up, and as a punishment...it hurt like hell and never seemed to end. He didn't ask in advance how their relationship would be...and though it was stated clearly in her profile what she was looking for...he was living in a fantasy world and didn't "listen". If this is just for the occasional friendly Topping/bottoming session, have fun; if you are wanting to become her submissive please take time to see if the two of you are compatible.
Now is the time to ask her about safe words, if she will be using two gloved fingers and lube (think silicone or Crisco and not a petroleum product nor something water soluble) or if she will be using something else. I've used gloved fingers, a Hitachi with an attachment for anal, dildos, and strapons to ride my lifemate's prostate to make him crazed for an orgasm that he may or may not get.
I talked thoroughly about hard and soft limits before a scene and take time to educate them about safeties. Saran Wrap on your torso will make you sweat and it will be easy for you to overheat...see that there will be a way to let her know so she can turn on a fan or whatever, and have some Gatoraide or juice nearby. After the scene you might need some aftercare. Some want a soft blanket, a sweet drink and small snack and then some cuddle time or a nap.
My boy can fly high during scenes that do not involve pain play, making him blissful and floaty (and drooling in his lap and incoherent, too "drunk" to drive a car until this wears off). Your brain may or may not produce a cocktail of endorphins, adrenaline, etc., but if this pushes your buttons and lands you into some altered state, don't worry, you will float down soon. Be prepared for "sub drop", somewhere around one to usually three days afterward; feeling upset for "no reason" when these lovely brain chemicals run out. Eat some chocolate, talk with your Top, and know that it will be over soon. Whenever I have to go back home and bo has to wait for maybe a week before following me back to my house, by the third day he drops like a rock. It's taken over a year now for his drop to mellow out.
Be safe and have fun. I hope you come back and let us know how it went. [;)]
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