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how do you know when you're ready? - 12/7/2012 6:25:40 AM

limpdickloser27

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how do you know when you're ready to serve a Mistress in realtime. i have served a few online, but never in person and think im almost ready to make the plunge, but im also very nervous. Are these nerves normal? How do you get over them?

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RE: how do you know when you're ready? - 12/7/2012 6:30:51 AM

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Your name tells me that you have very little experience and whatever experience you DO have is based on femdom porn.

So, no, you are not ready for a "real" relationship with a dominant woman.

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RE: how do you know when you're ready? - 12/7/2012 6:51:12 AM

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Get to a munch, seeing living breathing dominants not dressed in fet wear, no whips or chains a few times should help you get over the illusions in your head of what we are. FYI I don't own losers so you might ponder that as well

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RE: how do you know when you're ready? - 12/7/2012 8:38:51 AM

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Only you can answer that question. How did you know you were ready for your first kiss? How did you know you were ready to ask your last girlfriend out? How did you know you were ready to lose your virginity? "When you're ready" is a very personal thing. Nobody else can tell you if you are or aren't.

But IMO, you don't wait until you're ready. You get ready by getting out there and trying. If you crash and burn, so what? At least you'll have learned valuable lessons for the next time you try it.

So stop being so shy and scared (although with the name that you chose, I guess I shouldn't expect anything else). Turn off your computer, and get out there and meet REAL people. You can do it!

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RE: how do you know when you're ready? - 12/7/2012 10:45:43 AM

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how do you know when you're ready to serve a Mistress in realtime.

When the "chicks" at MystressWorld decide you are ready to be let off your leash and talk to people in the real world.

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RE: how do you know when you're ready? - 12/7/2012 11:15:32 AM

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Yes going to a munch is a good start. Remember Domme are REAL people with the needs and wants of any living being.

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RE: how do you know when you're ready? - 12/7/2012 1:33:30 PM

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Has this ever actually happened? Never met a graduate

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how do you know when you're ready to serve a Mistress in realtime.

When the "chicks" at MystressWorld decide you are ready to be let off your leash and talk to people in the real world.

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RE: how do you know when you're ready? - 12/7/2012 3:58:30 PM

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Step into the sky!

It is not the most nerve wracking thing that I have done. My first experience ranks about fourteenth or so. Still, It does take a heck of a lot of courage to acrually show up for your first experience.

Your nerves are normal. You will NEVER get over them before hand. They subside when you realize that you are actually having a smidgeon of... FUN.

Go brother!
Mike
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PS: Rose has a point about your... name....

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RE: how do you know when you're ready? - 12/7/2012 4:10:10 PM

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Your name tells me that you have very little experience and whatever experience you DO have is based on femdom porn.

So, no, you are not ready for a "real" relationship with a dominant woman.