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came4U -> RE: Forced... education? (12/12/2012 3:32:38 PM)
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Learning is not something you can actually force, so I mean the word more in the way of "Strongly encouraged". Owners and trainers: have you ever forced yours to learn a subject like math or science or the like? Why and how did you do it? Were they successful? Did you both enjoy it?
Submissives: Have you ever been forced to learn a subject? Were you successful? Did the pressure from your dominant help or hinder you? Did you enjoy the experience? How did they do it?
I have actually thrived from such force. First with my mother (depression-era-raised woman who had to drop out of highschool to work, joined the military then later had a family) who insisted I study eveeeeeeeerything (again, by force, not abuse but guilt trips lol). This force included reading a dictionary or encylopedias for over an hour then being quizzed (random pages) after the fact. By highschool I was an over-achieving dingbat of a gal who had to know all, to be all. I became less and less about force and more about my own control (being able to outsmart your own parental figures is a start) which had no bounds (unless I gave such restricitions ---ie: my one and only downfall or distraction was MEN, DAMN MEN :P) of which cause I was warned out. But, do not forget that education (once it gains the favor and attention of others or institutions becomes addictive as hell. Once you open this can of worms, once you see this monster (of brains) grow forth--be sure YOU are well adapted yet adept enough to handle the outcome. (will she become smarter/more smartass than you??)
I *kicks herself* soonafter (near graduation officer's training) lost all thrill for the chase of it and again--Mr. Downfall, so I married instead. *BoooOOooyaaaa wtf!!
After children I was nudged (by a non Dominant/equal partner) to return to University for yet more ....masochism lol.
Well, it is a thrill (if you enjoy it) but if one is not inclinded to at the very least --see the need for such improvement, then I can see how it can all go horribly wrong. Yet, on the other hand...if the person is young enough (not a geezer like me who's brain only deteriorates by the milisecond) then it 'should' theoretically be easier with youth to grasp new(er) concepts ...with the right extra tutoring and encouragement. *not dissin' fellow old folks but hell those 20something yr olds can learn.
Adding the extra pressure of another paying/or student loan owing could also add stress to that person just enough to break them into completely losing it or well--making it or breaking em.
If anything, I'd suggest 'free, but lesser-pressure courses' at just barely above their academic level to ensure the person is prepared, and even then give them attempted time to study a bit for the future course so they are not overwhelmed (emotionally also) by an experience (school) that they thought had come to an end FOREVER in their lives.
There comes a point (and perhaps age) when a person is too stubborn, wholly disinterested or thinks they 'already know the secrets of the galaxy' and no book-learnin' agenda even by gunpoint is gonna cut it. This is a far cry from fear (of the unknown) of learning things that someone feels they aren't capable of.
I can only suggest a professional opinion should be used to assess and guide, a plan for a study action plan be done before any such endeavour is acted upon. But, then again do distinguish if said person is or does thrive on more of a pressured approach, it might just work in either scenario yet will take a lot of work from all involved.
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