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subacceptance -> Is being a male submissive a curse? (6/17/2006 10:17:38 AM)
Sometimes I think being a male submissive is a curse. As much as I loved my first Mistress, I sometimes curse her for introducing me to the lifestyle. Although that was years ago, I have repressed my submissiveness and masochist desires, more due to a lack of suitable partners than anything else over the subsequent years. Yet to this day, they are a craving deep inside of me, that are times impossible to resist. It is just so damm hard.

male59sub -> RE: Is being a male submissive a curse? (6/17/2006 10:24:57 AM)
Once we have knelt in submission, tasted the whip and the cane across our flesh, offered our wrists and ankles for binding, knowing that painful torture would ensue, and accepted it without hesitation or protest, we are doomed. Nothing else can satisfy us, ever. our only salvation and "peace" is the never-ending quest to be used as we are meant to be. you are not alone brother slave, we all suffer so. i too, know of what you speak. we chase the unattainable, to offer and perform perfect service while knowing that we will always be in need of correction and discipline and control. It is our lot, it can never change. john an uncollared slave

iliv2servher -> RE: Is being a male submissive a curse? (6/17/2006 10:25:50 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: subacceptance Sometimes I think being a male submissive is a curse. As much as I loved my first Mistress, I sometimes curse her for introducing me to the lifestyle. Although that was years ago, I have repressed my submissiveness and masochist desires, more due to a lack of suitable partners than anything else over the subsequent years. Yet to this day, they are a craving deep inside of me, that are times impossible to resist. It is just so damm hard. It can be a blessing if you have found someone to connect with. On the other hand, it can be a curse if you fail to find that connection. It's not just you. It's very difficult for all of us.

MotherEve -> RE: Is being a male submissive a curse? (6/17/2006 10:26:39 AM)
Subacceptance, you stir my heart strings. The craving does not go away. Its a shame the ratio of male submissives outweighs female dominants by such a large margin.

LadyHugs -> RE: Is being a male submissive a curse? (6/17/2006 10:30:44 AM)
Dear subacceptance and male59sub, Ladies and Gentlemen; I think submissive me and slave men are more of a blessing, rather than a curse. It takes courage to submit to women, especially with social culture required otherwise. If I had the means, I'd gather all the slaves and submissive up into a big hug with affection. Respectfully submitted, Lady Hugs

Reflectivesoul -> RE: Is being a male submissive a curse? (6/17/2006 10:32:05 AM)
fellas, Dont give up! I am a firm believer that there is someone for everyone, even if sometimes you have no clue where. I would hope that you dont view it as a curse, because male subs are a precious group and are very appreciated. hugs keep smiling and keep the hope guys, it'll be worth it in the end....

LokisBrat -> RE: Is being a male submissive a curse? (6/17/2006 10:35:33 AM)
Speaking from a dominant perspective: Once you experience releasing the inner core of who you truly are, going back seems like existing without purpose. It is an addiction that I welcome. LOKI

iliv2servher -> RE: Is being a male submissive a curse? (6/17/2006 10:37:43 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Reflectivesoul fellas, Dont give up! I am a firm believer that there is someone for everyone, even if sometimes you have no clue where. I would hope that you dont view it as a curse, because male subs are a precious group and are very appreciated. hugs keep smiling and keep the hope guys, it'll be worth it in the end.... Reflectivesoul, Thank you for those wonderful words of encouragement. Even though we may never find our perfect match, we can still celebrate the discovery of it all, and the friendships that we have made during our journey. -ilivwservher

Reflectivesoul -> RE: Is being a male submissive a curse? (6/17/2006 10:41:40 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: iliv2servher quote: ORIGINAL: Reflectivesoul fellas, Dont give up! I am a firm believer that there is someone for everyone, even if sometimes you have no clue where. I would hope that you dont view it as a curse, because male subs are a precious group and are very appreciated. hugs keep smiling and keep the hope guys, it'll be worth it in the end.... Reflectivesoul, Thank you for those wonderful words of encouragement. Even though we may never find our perfect match, we can still celebrate the discovery of it all, and the friendships that we have made during our journey. -ilivwservher you're most welcome smiles <kicks your damn e-mail lol cause it still isnt working>

Noah -> RE: Is being a male submissive a curse? (6/17/2006 10:42:49 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: subacceptance Sometimes I think being a male submissive is a curse. That clears up some confusion. I've been sitting here wondering why that guy I cut off in traffic this morning flipped me the bird and hollered: "BEING A MALE SUBMISSIVE!"

Reflectivesoul -> RE: Is being a male submissive a curse? (6/17/2006 10:45:26 AM)
lol Noah lol

LadyHugs -> RE: Is being a male submissive a curse? (6/17/2006 10:53:13 AM)
Dear liliv2servher, Ladies and Gentlemen; To all you lovely men who seek a dominant woman -- {{Big hugs with comfort, support and affection}} Sincerely, Lady Hugs

MsKatHouston -> RE: Is being a male submissive a curse? (6/17/2006 10:58:51 AM)
No, it's not a curse though it can be frustrating sometimes. When you find the right person though, you will change your mind. Until then, good luck :)

MistressOfGa -> RE: Is being a male submissive a curse? (6/17/2006 11:05:47 AM)
Subacceptance, Wow, what a post. I can almost feel your pain. I understand completely how you feel, but for me it is once I have held a strap in my hand, heard the crack of the whip against bare skin and the squeel of pleasure/pain from a submissive, once I have placed a submissive in the bonds of my control and freed him from the bonds of his own control, there is no going back to any other kind of exsistence. There is nothing like watching the pure pleasure of a submissive as he/she is doing what they love to do, pleasing me. As much as you miss WIITWD, it is equally missed by those of us who do not have a submissive. Keep your chin up :) Good things always come to those who wait.

TemptingNviceSub -> RE: Is being a male submissive a curse? (6/17/2006 11:15:27 AM)
I am sorry to hear of your frustrations..however bear in mind that many experience these same frustrations..female submissives,male Dominants,female Dominants ad infinitum..all seeking their match..all running into brick walls...I guess what it takes is time,adjustment,open mindedness,luck,and living life every day to the fullest even when you remain alone.Of course it is hard when it seems that all around you there are so many in happy, fulfilled lives with their mates...Just keep positive, for who would want a defeatist,pessimistic submissive?..be well..and keep heart...Tempting

MHOO314 -> RE: Is being a male submissive a curse? (6/17/2006 11:22:17 AM)
Nothing IMHEO is more beautiful than the male form, kneeling in quiet submission at My feet awaiting My attentions. Nothing is more powerful than the muffled cries as he accepts the feel of My strap. Nothing is more inspiring than a mere flicker of the eyes and he is at My side. Nothing is more natural than to care for what the world cannot see. Nothing is more empty when One is alone.

IronBear -> RE: Is being a male submissive a curse? (6/17/2006 11:25:02 AM)
I have to tell you lad, that you could be the Prime Minister of Australia, The President of the USA or a calathumpian libertine jew standing on oe foot with the other leg is wrapped about your neck, scratching yout arse with the left hand and masturbating with the right .. it doesn't matter a toss. If you think it is a curse, then cursed you will be! If you think it is a blessing, then blessed you will be!

MistressOfGa -> RE: Is being a male submissive a curse? (6/17/2006 11:28:35 AM)
MH, You have such a way with words, I couldnt of said it any better. <hugs>

BlkTallFullfig -> RE: Is being a male submissive a curse? (6/17/2006 11:57:46 AM)
Thinking of being who you are as a curse probably doesn't help things any. Please do not pay attention to the stats that there are insufficient dominas to go around. What is difficult is the business of courtship and chemistry between two hopefully self aware honest adults... What is impossible is attempting a connection with folks who don't know what they want/need, and aren't honest about themselves. I got the impression from reading your profile quote: I'm not a newby at this but my most substantial experience occurred a nbr of years ago. My reasons for the return to the lifestyle are complex, but I am here and ready for the journey. However I like to go into each new experience as fresh as possible, putting aside the past that you may have left in the past to do a vanilla relationship and wonder whether that wasn't a clear sign that this is who you are and not the curse of where you should always end up. I have encountered some difficulty connecting with some men since being more honest about who I am, but am more comfortable in my skin and as a woman than I've ever been in my life previously. To all the rest of you still seeking, keep your head up, be the best human beings possible, and hopefully you will attract the right person for you. Lonelyness is not a curse submissives bear alone. M

amayos -> RE: Is being a male submissive a curse? (6/17/2006 12:01:51 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: subacceptance Sometimes I think being a male submissive is a curse. Perhaps it is a curse, but it is a sweet one. Wisdom comes often through suffering.

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