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AthenaSurrenders -> RE: i need Advice (12/14/2012 2:18:27 AM)
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I'm not clear - do you actually have a lady or not? Because if you do, only she can tell you what she wants from you. If you don't, we don't know what kind of person you might eventually be with so we still can't tell you.
I will give you some general advice but you will find it very boring and non-sexy.
Take it SLOWLY. Your profile speaks of over excitement. You are scam-bait at the moment, going on about how you can't wait to give all your material possessions over to a woman. That's the kind of stuff that comes way down the line when trust is established and a commitment is made. It's a jungle out there, and navigating by penis will land you in trouble. Once you know you're compatible with someone (which you find out by dating, there are no shortcuts) then you start to talk about power and expectations. Best to start small, talk about it, and build from there.
Get to know a woman as a woman, not as a sex goddess. Even an awesome domme is still a human being. If you are looking for someone perfect in every way, you are going to be disappointed when you realise that she still makes mistakes, gets sick, has grumpy days and bad habits like the rest of us.
If you are still looking for someone as your profile suggests, you might wanna look about how you are selling yourself. For all you say you want her to have things her way, what you describe sounds like a lot of work. What if she doesn't want to take on a business? You're meeting full grown adult women with lives of their own - what about her own career? What if she feels best served by YOU busting your ass running the business so that she can go to school, or do charity work, or create oil paintings or sit at home eating bonbons? You'll find in most functioning D/s relationship, the Dtype doesn't actually make every decision. He or she might have the power to make any decision they wish, but to actually make every single one is very tiring. Generally the sub should make life easier, not harder.
And you might think it's a selling point, but most female dominants I know don't like the 'female superiority' angle. They want you to submit to them as an individual, because you think they are a great person, not just because they happen to have a vagina. It's a little insulting to some people, as it implies that any woman will do. And 'the gynarchy is coming' is nonsense. Women are not planning to take sole control of the world and oust all men from positions of power.
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