LaTigresse
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If there were allegations of favoritism, I would be concerned. But the main complaint seems to be: I don't like TOS and I resent having to follow it.
Well of course there's fucking favouritism, how the hell do you think the fragile flowers who spam the fucking report button get their jollies?
I certainly got more gold letters than the whiny bitches who debated with me and lost ever did. That was because they reported me for personal attacks all the time and I refused to do the same because it was beneath me. I deal with a personal attack by removing their fucking head, not whining to mommy.
The moderators' reponse? "Oh we didn't see their personal attack, only yours - you should report them when that happens." - Ye Gods, it was in the same thread... in fact I fucking quoted it, you dolt.
Disingenuous bullshit like that was the order of the day. And people wonder why this place is in decline.
It's in decline for several reasons:
1) Firstly because there's a complete failure to understand the deep psychology of human beings. To whit: What is the one essential component of all plays, novels and movies? The foundation of all dramatic art?
Conflict.
The moderation here has turned the place into a pseudo-civil milquetoast community which penalises the free expression of ideas and opinions. Conflict is abhorred - although the reasons are not made clear - and a rather narrow set of definitions regarding unwelcome behaviour are put in place - something a group of regulars know and exploit on a consistent basis.
This place is dying because you can't say boo to a goose without some overzealous fucktard with a moderator's badge censoring you for it. Why the fuck would people want to hang around a place where passionate debate is impossible? Unless you think kink people are cold, unfeeling machines who practice kink purely as an outlet for their need for artistic expression.
You can't legislate good behaviour. Or civility. And what on earth makes anyone think that in a place like this you should even try? The only upside I can see is that by doing so you make it more warm and fuzzy for all those timid male subs so the FinDommes can more easily ply their trade. Funnily enough, I think old AmandaRanja may have been onto something.
2) The jaded old "masters of kink"
Regulars are given free reign to stomp all over any discussion which fails to meet with their personal approval. Self-appointed arbiters of discussion tell people to "search for it" - thinking that because THEY happen to have discussed a particular question to death that nobody else has the right to discuss it. The possibility of just not reading the fucking thread is apparently to complex for them to process.
Here's an idea: Why not let the self-appointed jaded "masters of kink" sit in their own forum where they can grumble all day about these newbies who know nothing. That way they can avoid the discussion threads which repeat things they've already discussed and settled on and newbies can avoid their jaded, unwelcoming asses.
3) Subsumed aggression
Of course, all the overzealous censure doesn't really eliminate the aggressive behaviour between members, it just causes it to fester and people express this as 'snark'.
Every time you see the word 'snark' replace it with 'being a cunt and getting away with it' - because that's all it really is. Snark is basically personal attacks which operate with moderator sanction. The classic example is using a generalisation which clearly applies to your opponent in a debate.
For example: "I find that all male Doms who disbelieve in the inherent superiority of women tend to have lower IQ's than the norm."
Using a generalisation doesn't stop it from being a personal attack, you fuckwit. You're posting it in response to your opponent, so of course it's referencing them. Otherwise - under the current regime - you'd be censured for thread drift. (Since posting generalisations about groups of people is hardly relevant to the thread topic.)
Essentially you're trying to claim a plausible deniability to which you're not entitled. And the moderators are letting you get away with it. A stance which is wildly inconsistent with the theme of "no personal attacks". Instead it's "no personal attacks unless it's worded trickily enough that we can look the other way" with a nod and a wink to the regulars.
4) P&R as justification
P&R was always going to be a basket case. Throw in "abortion" and you'd have had the trio of topics you never discuss at the dinner table. Using P&R as justification for increased moderation is like using injuries in the boxing ring as justification for a crackdown on harsh language. If you don't want 'em to get injured, don't build the fucking ring and toss them into it. Nannying the other forums because the forum with the greatest tribal alliances wasn't a model of civil discourse is just plain fucking stupid.
In summary, this place is dead because there's no life in it. The essentials of life: fire; passion; growth; are all absent while people behave like cardboard similes of real human beings. And I'm afraid not wanting to scare away the pay piggies is the only motivation which explains this nonsense.
Like it or not people, this forum isn't for you. You're just here to make it seem like there's a scrap of life in the place. So most of these debates go nowhere precisely because nobody is motivated by your happiness or enjoyment of CollarChat. You're here to serve a purpose, not enjoy yourselves.
I wonder how long this post'll last.
Excellent post, even if I don't agree with it 100%.
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My twisted, self deprecating, sense of humour, finds alot to laugh about, in your lack of one!
Just because you are well educated, articulate, and can use big, fancy words, properly........does not mean you are right!
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