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Kana -> RE: Does your conscious ever bother you over what you’ve said on Collarme? (12/29/2012 7:40:05 AM)
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Oooh, much agreed. When I'm an ass, I apologize pretty much on the spot and move on with life.
I don't like to let things sit.
But on here, I think I've made one apology (I misunderstood something Tazzy wrote, realized it pretty quickly, and fessed up to my error pronto, as in w/i a bout 5 posts.) over all the years as a CM denizen.
And that's no accident. I do a lot of self editing. I think things through when I write.I try to see it from the other persons side, ask myself, "How would I feel if this was written about me."
It's not hard, but it demand wee lil things like self discipline, restraint, maybe even a smidgen of empathy, as well as demonstrating an ability to rise above the feces-all of which I think are positive attributes, not just in a Dominant, but a civilized human.
On the rare occasion that I argue, I try to do it with and from facts, not people. Cripes, Alphas recent comments about how to disagree properly in the forums could have been lifted almost verbatim from a few back and forth exchanges we've had in the past re some of my posts.
(Though I would be lying if I said there aren't some people here who every time they post I go, "Whhhaaaaaaaaa? WTF is crazyboy ranting about now?" But I almost always just stay out of those threads because I learned a long time ago that it's almost always a bad idea to debate a lunatic).
Which ain't always easy, but I try and maintain a certain level of decorum.
Now, I'm not saying I haven't blasted people ( I have and will again.), or openingly mocked their posts (Which I do all the time), heck, I've torn posts apart line by line and called dumbasses out on their shit (Which, come to think of it, I haven't done for a long time. Maybe I should keep an eye out.)but fuck, those idiots deserve it.
That's when this place becomes my favorite thing, a chew toy.
Or, as referenced above, Rockem-Sockem Robots.
In those deals, yeah, the chance someone's gonna get an apology from me, or that I'm gonna feel like I owe one is damn near negligible.
People have a right to write absurd shit. I have a right to blast em for it.
But I tangent, madly at that.
So yeah, in general, apologies are terrific. I'm not knocking them one bit.
But you know what's even better?
Not having to apologize at all.
That's a good feeling, lets me walk through life with my head held high, owing nothing.
And it really ain't hard to do. Be an example for yourself. Be an example to others. Act with word and deed to be the better person.
Making this a better place for all, or at least holding my end of the deal.
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