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Mezzalina -> Task suggestions for a sub (12/30/2012 6:44:44 AM)

My Dom has requested that I make a list of task he can choose from. The only issue is that he is married so any housework, ect is out of the question. I would like to hear some suggestions that I could add to my list that would be appropriate.




DarkSteven -> RE: Task suggestions for a sub (12/30/2012 6:56:19 AM)

WHY is housework out of the question? You're not able to keep up his place, but you can and should keep up your place to his satisfaction.

Along those lines, what does he want you to be doing?




Mezzalina -> RE: Task suggestions for a sub (12/30/2012 7:04:29 AM)

I should say that I am also married. He wants things that he can choose for me to do either in his view or in public. He does have me doing a journal and I have written several erotic tales for him, but he would like other options. Since I am new at this I don't really know what other subs are asked of by their Doms.




TheLilSquaw -> RE: Task suggestions for a sub (12/30/2012 7:09:35 AM)

Shouldn't your dom know you well enough to figure out tasks to assign you on his own?
I don't know you.
I don't know what works for YOU.
I don't know what makes YOU tick.
I would assume he would.

I don't know HIM or what works for HIM.

I know what works for ME, for MINE.
Will those things work for you?
I dunno.

Choosing clothes.
Choosing food and when it's cooked sharing a picture.
Journal
Specific writing assignments that pertain to what he wants you to learn or grasp.




Kana -> RE: Task suggestions for a sub (12/30/2012 7:14:56 AM)

Blow Ron.
There-that's a task, a, ahem, mammoth one. Gargantuan indeed, if rumors are true




TheLilSquaw -> RE: Task suggestions for a sub (12/30/2012 7:30:34 AM)


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ORIGINAL: Kana

Blow Ron.
There-that's a task, a, ahem, mammoth one. Gargantuan indeed, if rumors are true



And yes that can be done in public!




AthenaSurrenders -> RE: Task suggestions for a sub (12/30/2012 7:33:41 AM)

Just to make it clear - you're both married, and not to each other. Are both spouses aware and on board? Because if not, you're basically asking for new and creative ways to cheat on someone, and most people won't be overly keen to help you with that.

Giving you the benefit of the doubt on this, I will try to answer your question. This might sound like I'm being awkward, but I'm really not.

He wanted you to come up with a list of suggestions. You immediately went and asked someone else to do your homework for you. I know my dom would be very cross if I pulled that. I assume he asked this of you because he wants to hear YOUR ideas, and learn something about YOU and what turns YOU on, what YOU consider to be useful service or what YOU would find fun. If I give you a list, then you're actually showing your dom what I think, what I consider useful service and what turns me on. So not only are you not obeying him, you're actively working against him because you're giving him a false impression of how your brain works.

You said you don't know what other subs get asked to do, but does it matter? There is no right or wrong, you won't be kicked out of the club for doing different tasks than me. If he had something specific in mind, he should have been clearer.

These are the tasks I am often asked to do (you probably won't find them helpful at all)
-Run general errands - the post office, the supermarket, the pharmacy
-Plan and cook him healthy meals, and occasional unhealthy treats
-Play his video games with him so that he can get the multiplayer achievements
-Exercise
-Drive him places
-Clean his office, input figures into a spreadsheet or serve customers
-Pour drinks of pepsi max, morning, noon and night

I imagine the 'in his view or in public' means you are looking for sexual things, but really how can anyone else determine what will turn him on if you know him and still have no ideas? What I will say is please god don't involve the public; no humiliation scenes in department stores or anything of that nature.




lizi -> RE: Task suggestions for a sub (12/30/2012 8:05:49 AM)

Seems like he should have some idea of what he wants. I don't even know you, but just by going off of your interest list you have volunteerism, yoga, mask wearing, and begging mentioned- any of those would work. I've never been asked to do tasks or have a list of them ready. I've been asked to accomplish things in my life like get A's in school, clean out my spare room, get things for lunch ready, pack food for our trip, etc....




Phoenixpower -> RE: Task suggestions for a sub (12/30/2012 8:10:27 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

WHY is housework out of the question? You're not able to keep up his place, but you can and should keep up your place to his satisfaction.


*shudders* Steeevie....are you one of those awefully scary tidy ones? [&:]

Well....there is a task OP....he should give you his creditcard and you should prove to him, that you know how to best spend that money...

Now...ok...he might not like the idea...but that's ok....after all...it's "my" suggestion [:)]




OsideGirl -> RE: Task suggestions for a sub (12/30/2012 10:22:44 AM)

IMO: A list of tasks for the sake of making someone do tasks, to prove submission or dominance....means that there really isn't any dominance or submission.

You're both married to someone else and your priorities are/should be with your own families. The reality is that your relationship is going to be at best a bedroom kinky sex D/s situation. Anything beyond that does a disservice to both of your families. (I won't even get into the whole cheating thing)




Epytropos -> RE: Task suggestions for a sub (12/30/2012 3:34:48 PM)

Why does he need our input on that? Does he not know what he wants done? Are you just doing things to be doing them, or are these things intended to fulfill a need of his?




kalikshama -> RE: Task suggestions for a sub (12/30/2012 4:56:24 PM)

quote:

Blow Ron.


Here's another vote for blow Ron.




littlewonder -> RE: Task suggestions for a sub (12/30/2012 5:11:01 PM)

Concentrate on loving my husband instead of some guy online.





BlackTigerDragon -> RE: Task suggestions for a sub (12/30/2012 6:09:07 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: AthenaSurrenders

-Play his video games with him so that he can get the multiplayer achievements



Holy crap, you can do that?

Lately I've been thinking of giving up on kink because I've never found what I wanted and I doubt that it would ever have a chance to experience it in my lifetime. But after reading this I suddenly want to do kink again :) Fuck, I would even change to sub just to play video games!

For the first time in my life I actually have something I want to try within kink.




RumpusParable -> RE: Task suggestions for a sub (12/30/2012 8:00:48 PM)

lol, BlackTigerDragon... Chael and I aren't really gamers, but once in a great while we'll do WoW for a bit. I play the game to level and group and such... he gets on and just acts as my WoW slave, farming and grinding and mining to make gold for me lol.

Ah, virtual love.




MasterHardhand -> RE: Task suggestions for a sub (12/31/2012 1:49:33 AM)

How about washing his car, washing your car if you have one, mowing your own lawn, cleaning your own house, things like that. If he wants to make it interesting, he can have you clean your house naked or with a buttplug in.




OsideGirl -> RE: Task suggestions for a sub (12/31/2012 9:11:44 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: MasterHardhand

How about washing his car, washing your car if you have one, mowing your own lawn, cleaning your own house, things like that.
Yeah, but I'm sure his wife would notice a strange woman cleaning her house or mowing her lawn.


quote:

If he wants to make it interesting, he can have you clean your house naked or with a buttplug in.


Yeah, but I'm sure her husband would notice that she's cleaning the house naked with a butt plug in.


FFS, at least make some effort to read the OP and retain it.




Mezzalina -> RE: Task suggestions for a sub (1/9/2013 10:08:56 PM)

For those of you wanting to know (and being judgemental ) my husband came out to me 3 years ago. Because of family dynamics and many reasons that I will not go into, we chose to stay together. Plus we do love each other. He is well aware of my relationship and is supportive as long as it is discreate.




EsotericLady -> RE: Task suggestions for a sub (1/9/2013 10:21:14 PM)

LMAO I had no trouble imagining your eyes flashing at this idea...not to mention you sat up a lot straighter!

quote:

ORIGINAL: BlackTigerDragon
Fuck, I would even change to sub just to play video games!

For the first time in my life I actually have something I want to try within kink.





EsotericLady -> RE: Task suggestions for a sub (1/9/2013 10:23:34 PM)

Wow! What arrangements!
quote:

ORIGINAL: Mezzalina

For those of you wanting to know (and being judgemental ) my husband came out to me 3 years ago. Because of family dynamics and many reasons that I will not go into, we chose to stay together. Plus we do love each other. He is well aware of my relationship and is supportive as long as it is discreate.





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