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littlesarbonn -> RE: What douse 24/7 Acutely mean to You (6/18/2006 8:13:40 AM)
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I'm not sure I agree, mainly because I'm not exactly sure what it is you said. However, what I will say is that there is a dichotomy that exists within the 24/7 world. There's the fantasy of it, and there's the reality. Quite often, people are seeking the fantasy and are given the reality. In the fantasy, you live 24/7. You are a slave at all times. You live your whole life for her. Sounds great. It might work if the two of you lived on an island without outside distractions. Even then it might be difficult.
The reality 24/7 is a bit different. It almost has the same definition but a different understanding of what that definition means. Let me put it this way: As a slave, you live every day for the woman you have given the power. Your needs are hers, and you do whatever you can to make sure that her life is better for it. What it doesn't mean is that you live in stereotypical slavery 24/7 with the whips, the chains, the cage and all of that other great fantasy stuff. She dresses as she desires, and if she wants to dress hot to turn you on, that's pretty much her choice. Her part in the relationship is control and ownership. You exist for her, but (and here's where most people miss it) she also exists for you. She may be in charge, but without her, there'd be no reason for you to be a slave in the first place. Where a lot of these relationships go wrong (aside from the usual suspects that can be blamed on the submissive side) is the dominant expects servitude and stops reinforcing it. In my experience, and I have extensive observable and livable experience on this, this is where it falls apart. 24/7 means that the two are part of each other. Often, in the situations that fail due to the dominant (many fail for the submissive, but we hear about those every day, so there's no need to keep going into those), it's due to unrealistic expectations, meaning that the dominant just assumed that because she's in charge that she no longer has to do much interaction with her slave. I've seen submissives finally just give up and leave because of this, and almost always the dominant is shocked because even though the warning signs were there, both in actions and words, the expectation was that leaving would never happen.
24/7 is work. On both sides. Where they fail is in both false expectations of the parameters of the relationship and in false expectations of what it takes to make it work.
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