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TheLilSquaw -> Finding my one... (12/30/2012 10:21:58 AM)

This is something I wrote up today, while thinking about some of the posts I've read lately.
There is a lot of tongue to cheek and obviously this is a made up situation.

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So you created a profile on a Kink site.
You figured, you didn't have the time or desire to go to a munch or fetish event.

You were bold and reached out via email.

Holy hell! After 100s of messages deleted message they not only read it but responded.
They seem to have similar interests as you, their photos seem attractive to you, and they don’t appear to be a serial killer, so you decide to exchange phone number.

They call.

You have what you consider a pleasant conversation. They tell you they have to go but will call you back.

Hours go by, hours turn to days, by the 3rd day you are more than a little annoyed. At this point if they called back you might have a few choice words for them. After all you enjoyed the conversation so they had to have!

How dare they.

So you go back to the beginning.

What seems like forever to you (but in reality is only several weeks).

You receive an email. Again you think ok they have potential. This time instead of the phone number you suggest meeting for lunch. Again they don’t appear to be a serial killer or serial rapist. All you have seen at this point are pictures (if you are like some and good at stalking people, you’ve hunted them down on fb, twitter, blogs, ect) BUT, all you have seen are pictures.

You get to the restaurant, you scan the faces. You find them. Perhaps they don’t look exactly like the photos you have seen but you walk over to the table anyways. You enjoy a pleasant meal and some conversation. Basic stuff really. Little do you realize your date is thinking to themselves, “thank gods that over, they aren’t so bad but I’m just not interested.”

Instead of facing the wrath of a now rejected person, they simply decide to delete and block. Oh, the internet is so nice regarding this feature.

Holy shit balls!

The person you just had lunch with is on the same site you meet on now claiming that you are FAKE! Why? Because you thought they would freak out at being rejected. Hell yea, their ranting about how you never called is proof of that. You consider yourself lucky. At least it was only 1 date could you imagine if it had gotten serious?

So your back to the beginning yet again.

WTF, it’s been a month since I’ve joined and I am still single . Are you serious?
You start to look through profiles and you get angry.
Well damn!

I haven’t found anyone because of all the damn prodommes and gold digging findommes.

They are responsible.

So you go to the forums.

You write this thread demanding all the prodommes and findommes be banned from the site because they are stopping you finding your soul mate, your one. You continue on by stating all of those who are not actively looking have no business on the site. After all weeding through their profiles takes up your time. How dare they make it hard for you to find a partner!

Several months pass, someone sees your profile.

Their interest is peeked. Out curiosity they hit the forum posts button.

They read post after post of you ranting and raving about how people are fake, how they didn’t call you back, how after a date you never heard from them again. They read post after post of you ranting and blaming. They cringe. They don’t want to be one of those you trash, so they simply move on.





TheBoyDownBelow -> RE: Finding my one... (12/30/2012 10:39:14 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: TheLilSquaw

I haven’t found anyone because of all the damn prodommes and gold digging findommes.

They are responsible.


No, they are just an annoyance. I blame cheating married men for all the trouble, messing it up for everyone. ;p




Aylee -> RE: Finding my one... (12/30/2012 10:40:50 AM)

Cute.




Lilly425 -> RE: Finding my one... (12/30/2012 10:49:57 AM)

Holy shit balls, that was funny! But true and unfortunate. I will admit that I am one to "do my homework" when I start messaging someone regularly whom I seem to connect with. Nothing stalker-like but I review His journal, His forum posts, His pictures, etc. If I find things that turn me off (and for me that is typically lots of whining, rudeness, etc.) then I move on. I believe that past behavior is a good indicator of future behavior (not always but in general). With this in mind, I try to be conscious of what I write, post, etc. I've even gone back and deleted journal entries immediately after posting because I realize I had a moment of weakness and was just whining or seeking attention.

Sure, I'd love to meet someone compatible today; however, I realize that isn't going to be any easier here than it's been in the past. Sure, sometimes I get frustrated; however, I try not to think of it as "starting over" each time I meet someone not compatible. It's all part of a continuing journey. In the meantime, I focus on myself and making sure I'm in the best place physical, emotional and mental place so that I'm ready when I do meet Him.




TheLilSquaw -> RE: Finding my one... (12/30/2012 10:55:10 AM)


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ORIGINAL: Aylee

Cute.



Thanks. I think I have to much free time on my hands today. Lol




TheBoyDownBelow -> RE: Finding my one... (12/30/2012 11:17:31 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Lilly425

Sure, I'd love to meet someone compatible today; however, I realize that isn't going to be any easier here than it's been in the past. Sure, sometimes I get frustrated; however, I try not to think of it as "starting over" each time I meet someone not compatible. It's all part of a continuing journey. In the meantime, I focus on myself and making sure I'm in the best place physical, emotional and mental place so that I'm ready when I do meet Him.



A Domme wrote me that she was looking for her sub for 15-years! Put that into prospective. I am here only for a couple of months. Yes, I usually do my homework and read and re-read journals, profiles, and message board several times. I rarely delete journal entries for myself though. We all have our ups and downs. I like to see when someone has a weak moment. It makes them human. Don't have any problems if someone rants every once a while. If it is constant, then it is a problem. A picture perfect concerns me as equally.




needlesandpins -> RE: Finding my one... (12/30/2012 11:31:08 AM)

fr

while we see this happen time after time sadly the people that do this won't read this thread.

however, maybe we can just direct all whingers here so they can see for fortune teller at work [:D]

needles




TheLilSquaw -> RE: Finding my one... (12/30/2012 11:33:07 AM)

Yep, I have crystal balls!
I look into them and I see the future. Lol




Lilly425 -> RE: Finding my one... (12/30/2012 1:20:11 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: TheBoyDownBelow

I rarely delete journal entries for myself though. We all have our ups and downs. I like to see when someone has a weak moment. It makes them human. Don't have any problems if someone rants every once a while. If it is constant, then it is a problem. A picture perfect concerns me as equally.


You know, this is a good point. I know that I am a little suspicious of people who are "too good" and would never want to be in that position. Lord knows I am far from perfect! Thanks for the insight!




Epytropos -> RE: Finding my one... (12/30/2012 3:42:47 PM)

It's been my experience that everything that goes wrong in my life can be attributed to a small cadre of convenient blame figures, and that they are wholly chastened with a measure of incoherent swearing. For this purpose cometh these humble forums.




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