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midnighter18 -> Some profile feedback (12/31/2012 8:31:32 AM)

Were not very good at this whole describing yourself thing always been difficult for us. Were better at answering questions any advice what we should add or what you think i needs any feed back would be much appreciated !



poise -> RE: Some profile feedback (12/31/2012 8:46:32 AM)

Well, it seems you are looking for casual fuck buddies, so I don't suppose adding vanilla interests would do any good.
I really don't think this is the random sex with strangers website that you think it is, but they do say there is someone
out there for everyone. Good luck.



midnighter18 -> RE: Some profile feedback (12/31/2012 8:56:16 AM)

Hello and thanks for your quick and honest reply, we are not trying to just use this site for fuck buddies we are interested in getting into the culture but we are kind of new at this and not sure what this community is like or how we should go about this profile any more tips information you think we need or just a little run down on what people on here are looking for or are here for just new at this and want to do this right :)



AthenaSurrenders -> RE: Some profile feedback (12/31/2012 9:06:56 AM)

OK, well if you are not looking for fuck buddies, what are you looking for? Because your profile says 'Hi, we love sex, we're sexually attractive, isn't sex fun, we're looking for someone to have sex with us'.

Which is fine, but a) will only attract someone looking for fuck buddies and b)the competition for women willing to sleep with couples is steep, so you might want to add some photos and make it very clear about what you are expecting and what you offer this person.



midnighter18 -> RE: Some profile feedback (12/31/2012 9:10:42 AM)

Thank you very much as for the photos im having a unreasonably hard time adding photos every time i add one it starts to load then shuts off and proceeds to the next page saying my profile was updated when it hasint added anything at all



TheLilSquaw -> RE: Some profile feedback (12/31/2012 9:15:43 AM)

I agree there are more than a couple of lines in your profile that scream out "Looking for fuck buddies!" to me.

Especially this one, "to share great experiences with from a one night stand to dating we are looking for pure pleasure for everyone involved whatever gets you off"

This flat out states that you are looking for a one night stand and sex.

So if that isn't true ya really should change your profile text.

If that is what you are looking for there is no shame in that, but why lie?





midnighter18 -> RE: Some profile feedback (12/31/2012 9:31:47 AM)

Thanks, I am working on fixing it as we speak and i agree i did come off a little intense with the causal sex not like we arnt interested in that but we don't want to come off as mindless or uneducated plus were just not sure what kind of community we are in. any profiles you could through up a link to that could point me in a good direction would be appreciated . and also were very new to online dating, this is why our profile is so lacking definition and and just the basics we need anymore info you might have and pointers would be greatly appreciated !



TheLilSquaw -> RE: Some profile feedback (12/31/2012 9:35:30 AM)

My suggestions:
Tell about what you as a couple, since it a couples profile.
How long have you been together?
Dynamics you have? (d/s, top/bottom, ect)
Are you new to the BDSM lifestyle? Experienced,
Do you wanna go to munches or lifestyle parties?
Include things that you both enjoy doing outside of kink together and independently.
What are you looking for?
If you don't know exactly state that, if friends and perhaps more state that, if LTR... well you get the idea.

Don't make it about the sex, unless THAT is what you are looking for.
Finding a woman to join an already established couple is hard enough, don't make it harder on yourself.



midnighter18 -> RE: Some profile feedback (12/31/2012 9:42:00 AM)

Thank you, That's exactly what i needed to hear, Im going to take some more time a write a proper piece describing more about us as people , thank you very much you have been very helpful



Lilly425 -> RE: Some profile feedback (12/31/2012 9:52:35 AM)


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ORIGINAL: midnighter18

as for the photos im having a unreasonably hard time adding photos every time i add one it starts to load then shuts off and proceeds to the next page saying my profile was updated when it hasint added anything at all


I've had this problem when trying to load photos with high resolution/size. I just resized them smaller and they load just fine. Not sure if it is the same problem, but just a suggestion.



TheLilSquaw -> RE: Some profile feedback (12/31/2012 10:11:19 AM)

You're welcome. [;)]



AllisonWilder -> RE: Some profile feedback (12/31/2012 12:51:14 PM)

I just took a look at your profile, too. It's all pretty jumbled together so breaking it into manageable sentences and paragraphs will work wonders on how it flows.

Also, when the above posters suggested that you describe yourselves, they don't mean that you should give detailed, explicit details about your physical appearances. They mean that you should describe yourselves, your personalities, your wants, vanilla interests, etc.




TheLilSquaw -> RE: Some profile feedback (12/31/2012 4:50:43 PM)

Allison,
He hasn't changed the text yet.
Other than adding he is rewriting it or something of that nature.



JeffBC -> RE: Some profile feedback (12/31/2012 5:50:47 PM)

Since you are a couple profile let me highly recommend not using that photo. It's not you two but many will think it is then feel like you are deceptive. Some people are also sensitive about copyright issues. How about some photo of you two? If you like that one, get a friend to retake it with you two as the subjects.



littlewonder -> RE: Some profile feedback (1/1/2013 2:45:58 AM)

First of all you need to know what the hell you are looking for, not what everyone else is looking for.

Looking at other profiles won't do you any good whatsoever.

You need to really think about what it is you both want....fuckbuddies? Friends? Romantic poly relationship? A slave to do your bidding? What do YOU want????



seekingreality -> RE: Some profile feedback (1/1/2013 12:57:40 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: midnighter18

Thanks, I am working on fixing it as we speak and i agree i did come off a little intense with the causal sex not like we arnt interested in that but we don't want to come off as mindless or uneducated plus were just not sure what kind of community we are in. any profiles you could through up a link to that could point me in a good direction would be appreciated . and also were very new to online dating, this is why our profile is so lacking definition and and just the basics we need anymore info you might have and pointers would be greatly appreciated !



My two cents worth:

1. Don't worry about "the community." Focus on what you want to say.

2. Be honest. Say who you are and what you want.

3. Get more real. Everything about your profile, from top to bottom, says not much more than "we want sex." Because of that your profile seems really generic. You need to say more about yourself than "we're horny" if you expect a woman to respond; there is no end of horny men and couples screaming for their attention. You have to explain what you bring to the table besides your horniness. What are your interests? What is your personality? Do you have a sense of humor you can show?

4. Think about letting the woman write the profile. Your profile says "We" but it reads as if it's the work of a man. In my experience, women who are interested in a threesome find it more appealing to be approached by and interact with the woman in the couple than the man. If your profile had more of a feminine sensibility, it would probably be more successful. In fact, I suspect it would be better to have the woman write it in the first person: "Let me tell you about myself -- Let me tell you about my husband" -- and for you to stay as much out of the equation as possible.


Good luck.



PrincessDonna11 -> RE: Some profile feedback (1/1/2013 3:49:43 PM)

Yah I'm lost...you say its not sex buddies but.....did you stop and think and talk before you created your profile? Would a swingers site work better for you?



kalikshama -> RE: Some profile feedback (1/4/2013 6:13:06 PM)

quote:

we don't want to come off as mindless or uneducated

Proper spelling and grammar goes a long way. Are you posting from your phone?

quote:

plus were just not sure what kind of community we are in.

If you'll permit a sweeping generalization - on the collarme side, men think they are on a kinky AFF and women think they are on a kinky Match.com. So men will have better luck if they bait their hooks with Match bait rather than AFF.



LadyPact -> RE: Some profile feedback (1/4/2013 6:18:15 PM)

If you are not looking for casual sex encounters only, I would strongly recommend this thread. http://www.collarchat.com/m_4337278/tm.htm



BambiBoi -> RE: Some profile feedback (1/5/2013 1:55:26 AM)

Proof read. Paragraph breaks. Pictures.

Headings would be nice on top of the paragraph breaks.

Who we are:
What vanilla stuff we're into:
Where we are:
What our relationship looks like:
Who we're seeking:
What we're into:



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