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How can I find non pro Domme London Uk - 12/31/2012 10:20:50 AM   
slavejohn1234


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Status: offline 		I am a mature sub guy in London Uk seeking a woman who dominates because she loves to do it rather thn for money. I am open to alll activities including needle play but seek advice or contacts on finding such a lady.
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RE: How can I find non pro Domme London Uk - 12/31/2012 10:22:43 AM   
DarkSteven


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RE: How can I find non pro Domme London Uk - 12/31/2012 10:24:00 AM   
Baroana


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quote:

ORIGINAL: slavejohn1234

I am a mature sub guy in London Uk seeking a woman who dominates because she loves to do it rather thn for money. I am open to alll activities including needle play but seek advice or contacts on finding such a lady.



I get the sneaking suspicion that you're married.

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RE: How can I find non pro Domme London Uk - 12/31/2012 10:27:37 AM   
slavejohn1234


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Status: offline 		No Im not married. Im free day and night for any usage.

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RE: How can I find non pro Domme London Uk - 12/31/2012 10:28:48 AM   
Baroana


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Status: offline 		Well, "usage" isn't what most women want. Therein lies your problem.

By the way, does "free day and night" mean that you don't have a job?

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RE: How can I find non pro Domme London Uk - 12/31/2012 10:29:27 AM   
AllisonWilder


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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

Dude, get out and go to groups and play parties.


This is your best bet.

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RE: How can I find non pro Domme London Uk - 12/31/2012 10:35:59 AM   
slavejohn1234


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Status: offline 		True Barona, I do not have a job. And yes my problem is that I want to be used and hurt by a woman.

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RE: How can I find non pro Domme London Uk - 12/31/2012 10:37:12 AM   
plesto


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Status: offline 		1) Follow DarkSteven's good advice, that's your best bet.
2) Failing that take a look at your profile and then compare it to 10 other sub or slave male profiles.
3) If you draw a blank on number 2, try reading this and the links coming off of it http://www.collarchat.com/m_3057130/tm.htm



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RE: How can I find non pro Domme London Uk - 12/31/2012 10:38:33 AM   
myotherself


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Status: offline 		London has an extremely vibrant kink scene. Get yourself to a munch or club and start to make friends.

Once you get to know people and show them that you're more than just your fetish, then you may get some offers.



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RE: How can I find non pro Domme London Uk - 12/31/2012 10:46:14 AM   
plesto


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Status: offline 		4) If you are on fetlife you can view events that are happening in your area. Try looking up London fetish fair, an event that happens every month in London.

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RE: How can I find non pro Domme London Uk - 12/31/2012 10:48:56 AM   
TheLilSquaw


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Status: offline 		London has a huge kink scene.

ETA these for you:
http://www.londonmunch.co.uk/
http://www.londonfetishscene.com/index.php?option=com_lfscalendar&Itemid=100008

If that isn't in your game plan.
For what ever reason.
Be aware, dommes will always look at what you can do for them.
A domme, hell a partner in general typically will ask themselves,"what am I getting out of this relationship?"

Lets be honest.
You have no job.
This post sounds all about you.
Your kink, your desires, your wants.
So what's in it for them?

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RE: How can I find non pro Domme London Uk - 12/31/2012 10:51:21 AM   
slavejohn1234


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Status: offline 		Thank you all, especially Plesto for your kind advice and a happy new year to you all.

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RE: How can I find non pro Domme London Uk - 12/31/2012 10:56:07 AM   
Killerangel


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Status: offline 		Slavejohn, you got some good replies on your last thread that match the ones on this one. There really isn't a shortcut to getting out there and finding a woman who likes to Dominate- note that woman comes before Dominant. If you don't want to pay for someone's time with cash, you need to approach her as a person and not as someone who exists to get you off.

*Edited to add: I'd seriously consider changing your main profile photo/avatar- it screams do-me sub. No one really wants your private interests pushed into their face every time they look at a post of yours or at your profile. That has got to be the most unattractive picture of you on the continent, barring one of your dick or asshole. Consider putting up a head shot of you smiling or engaged in an activity- you'll seem more like a person that a Domme would wish to contact.

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RE: How can I find non pro Domme London Uk - 12/31/2012 11:01:10 AM   
Baroana


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ORIGINAL: slavejohn1234

True Barona, I do not have a job. And yes my problem is that I want to be used and hurt by a woman.



No, you still don't seem to get what the problem is. The problem is that you need to bring something to the table. If you have something, you're concealing it well.

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RE: How can I find non pro Domme London Uk - 12/31/2012 11:06:01 AM   
MariaB


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Status: offline 		Actually I think you could give quite a lot to a sadistic dominant woman if your profile is as accurate as it portrays.
You would do well to go to Pedestal http://www.clubpedestal.com but expect to be exhibited ;)
There is also http://www.londonalternativemarket.com/ and http://londonfetishfair.co.uk/ which both have after parties.
As well as the main London munch which is a little intimidating if you don't know anyone, there are dozens of munches in London and bound to be one local to your area. These munches are smaller and more personal. Get to know people at the munches and you may find yourself invited to private parties.
If on the other hand you are looking for a one to one experience and a possible relationship with a dominant woman, you need to make your profile more interesting and not come over as just a needy masochistic sub.

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RE: How can I find non pro Domme London Uk - 12/31/2012 11:09:02 AM   
slavejohn1234


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Status: offline 		Than you KillerAngel and Barona. I confess my desires are selfish and my view of any relationship is very narrow in that I hope my suffering and cries would be adequate reward for the woman. Unlikely I admit. And I do take the point about being a woman first rather than my fantasy of a Domme who is simply the embodyment of cruelty.

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RE: How can I find non pro Domme London Uk - 12/31/2012 11:15:03 AM   
Baroana


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Status: offline 		So, do you just want everything in life handed to you? You don't work, so you get money handed to you from somewhere. You want fetish fulfillment handed to you too, and on top of that, you want the fetish delivery system herself handed to you. Does going out and getting anything done on your own ever cross your mind?

Funny, I thought you said you were mature.

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RE: How can I find non pro Domme London Uk - 12/31/2012 11:24:34 AM   
slavejohn1234


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Status: offline 		Thank you Barona. I feel that I am inadvertantly spoiling your day but I do thank your for your advice.

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RE: How can I find non pro Domme London Uk - 12/31/2012 12:08:43 PM   
slavejohn1234


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Status: offline 		Thank you all I have made some changes to my profile and I realise that I will need to please others rather that persue my purely selfish desires.

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RE: How can I find non pro Domme London Uk - 12/31/2012 1:20:43 PM   
LadyPact


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Status: offline 		I can only imagine what kind of hell I could raise in London.

Seriously, OP, I hear wonderful things about the scene in London. If I were you, I'd be particularly listening to MariaB's advice and having a look at those links.


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