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RemoteUser -> RE: Punishment question (12/31/2012 2:39:46 PM)
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ORIGINAL: xoxogirl
Is there a "loving" way to harshly punish your submissive? And is leaving any lasting marks on a person okay (ie, tattoos, scars, branding, etc.) Thanks for responding. I'd appreciate hearing from submissive women.
Absolutely. If a submissive needs to be "punished" (I prefer terms like "educated" if we're not talking something physical) all that's really needed is a reminder of why the inappropriate behaviour is inappropriate. That can come in any number of forms, from withholding and denial, to an annoying task ("I will not..." in handwriting comes to mind)...you name it.
This also depends on the dynamic. I've never had to "punish" my girl. If she did something I didn't like, I'd tell her. We'd discuss it. Maybe there's mitigating circumstances I'm not aware of; maybe she didn't understand my view on something. If it's a lack of education on what I want, then I dropped the ball, and I have to correct the situation. If it's refusal to do what I want, I want to know why, and from there we work it out. I'll repeat for edification, this has never been an issue in the dynamic I have with my girl: however, this is how I would prefer to deal with it. That probably won't work for others, but that's fine; to each their own.
Lasting marks, as said throughout the responses you've received so far, require consent and a few brain cells. If you've got those, and you want to make lasting marks, all the power to you. It's a limit for my girl and I don't worry about it, because I don't want to mark someone permanently unless we're permanent and they want it. I'm quite content with her wearing my ring, and her collar (and once the chain is adjusted to fit her better, her necklace for public wear, since she doesn't want to advertise her interests).
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