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NuevaVida -> RE: I need some advice please... (1/4/2013 9:09:46 AM)
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ORIGINAL: ChatteParfaitt
USING FR, for the OP:
Great, I'm glad you had the courage to get rid of him. I bet you've been thinking of doing that for some time.
Now stay strong and block him from every potential way he can contact you. Once you know he is totally blocked from your life, you know you are on the road to recovery.
Please see someone for the PTSD and please get tested for STDs -- soonest.
You really do have to investigate why you allowed him to victimize you in that way. I suspect it had much to do with him considering you 'crazy' and making you think you were extremely lucky he would even put up with you. Been there, done that, and it takes quite the emotional toll.
This can be a very supportive forum, so if you need help along the way, don't hesitate to ask for it. Many of us have made similar bad choices, have learned from it, and will at least try to help you through.
This - especially the bolded part. And what MariaB said about sociopaths.
When I was in therapy after leaving my (later diagnosed) sociopathic ex husband, one of the areas we focused on was why it was OK for me to be treated that way. Frightening layers to unpeel, let me tell you, but so revealing and liberating once exposed and worked through. And it took me a long time to be able to see that. The first time my therapist told me, "At some point, you're going to have to look at your accountability in this" I very passionately told him to fuck off (to which he grinned, laughed gently, and said, "Well not today"). It's not easy stuff to face, but having come through the other side, I can't recommend it enough.
I wish you the best.
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