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ORIGINAL: TwistedPfister
"it really seems to me that a huge chunk, if not a majority, of the straight submissive men on this site, and maybe in femdomworld at large, seems to be fixated on their own specific list of fetishes, and not any kind of real male/female dynamic that could remotely sustain itself over the course of even a casual relationship."

It's not just men (sub/domme/straight/bi/whatever) who are fixated on their own wants and needs and have a desire to express them to the world. Most of the people on the planet are - regardless of what those specfic needs and wants may be.  Almost every profile ever written is naturally all about the person who wrote it.  

"Even within the context of bdsm and femdom only, I would think that it mostly has to be about that mental chemistry. What are these guys thinking?"
 
What most everyone else on any sex or dating site is thinking about... fucking in one way or another that ends in their own climax in the way(s) they like it.  Relationships only come after there is something solid realized between the parties involved.  Words do not make a relationship. Chemistry and care does.

"Who is going to respond to a profile with a picture of a cock, a terrible name like PissOnMe41, and some crappy profile that is all about the guy's cock and his love of piss."
I would much rather initally see photos of someone than read a  perfectly written profile one spent days/hours thinking about before writing and editing. I believe that a picture is worth 1000 words.  If we are intrugied by your photos, we may write to you. If there is something in your profile that is a turnoff, you're immediatley disqualified.

"Personally, I'm not looking. I have no hope, and my profile does not make for particularly great reading, although it is grammatically correct. But c'mon guys! Represent!!"

I have recently learned how important complete and well written profiles are to many of the ladies here.  Don't ever give up hope!  You've highlighted a key component of what they find most important in a first step and is something the men here should pay attention to.  I do agree that emails or sentances like "wat r u in2?" say everything anyone needs to know about the person who wrote it.  If someone cannot take the time to write a simple sentance that doesn't look like a second grader wrote it, then the chances of receiving a reply are zero. 

For me, since you do not even have an avatar, I could care less how well you write or what you have written in your profile...I won't bother to veiw it. 

Finally, your thread title and content is really asking if men think with their cocks.   

Lucinda

(in reply to TwistedPfister)