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TigressLily -> RE: Consensual Rape (Ravishment) (9/27/2013 7:32:30 AM)
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ORIGINAL: Tantriqu
Consensual rape is an oxymoron, and as a Domme and not a top, I'm turned off by the four-letter word.
I enjoy strap-on sex, and Taking a good man's ass, virgin or not, is very exciting. 'No' is a completely acceptable safe word for me, so a man struggling or resisting is a big turn-off. I want a man to sincerely desire it [and begging for it is a big turn-on....
But I'm not interested in a man who is ambivalent or genuinely afraid.
.... For me, it's about pleasure as much as power, and I prefer when the pleasure is more mutual, and I use it for Correction only once a good man understands how much pleasure can be had and denied.
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ORIGINAL: ChatteParfaitt
Many people have an issue with putting the words consensual and rape together in the same phrase. Often the term ravishment is used.
I had a male sub with a recurring fantasy about an attractive woman breaking into his house, hiding in the basement and lying in wait to pounce upon him. She would have her way with him, then hold him captive as her sex slave. As improbable as this sounds, the consensual non-consensual elements that were arousing to him were as follows:
-- Being stalked by an attractive woman. He would have been thoroughly repulsed by an unattractive one, although there are male subs who do have various forms of grossness in their kink repertoire.
-- Sexual element of surprise, being overpowered & restrained (at 6'2" 190lbs, highly unlikely he couldn't resist)
-- Being at an attractive woman's mercy (Need I reiterate?)
-- Forced to be a captive sex slave, being forced to perform kinky sex acts, having invasively kinky sex acts performed on him
-- Fantasy never progressed to conditions of release.
We never played out this exact scenario, not quite my style. Seriously doubt he would have ever wanted this fantasy fulfilled in real life with a total stranger. He wouldn't have wanted to lose control over how it unfolded, i.e. having no pre-defined limits.
I would also be a stone-cold idiot to engage in consensual non-consent play with somebody I wasn't in a trusted, bonded, longstanding relationship with. Who knows what kind of PTSD triggers you might set off in a person.
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