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Concensual rape - 1/4/2013 4:03:00 PM

Louski71

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I would like to ask how common this desire of mine is? To be forcibly taken by a mistress is a big fantasy of mine. I was a bit hesitant posting this enquiry,but he ho,thats why im here..not just to be raped of course

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RE: Concensual rape - 1/4/2013 4:20:58 PM

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It's actually a rather common fantasy for both male and female submissives/bottoms.

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RE: Concensual rape - 1/5/2013 2:14:08 AM

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I can see the appeal for rape play as a bottom. As a top/Mistress/dominant, how do you see it? How commonly does it tickle your fancy?

I am very wary of it when I top because ethical rape play requires next level communication skills. Because of that, I don't enjoy it. I'm always keeping a keen eye on whether no really means no.

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RE: Concensual rape - 1/5/2013 4:57:31 AM

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As pointed out this is a very common fantasy.

I met Himself over 14 years ago in the yahoo 'Rape Room' -- that's actually what it was called. This was an old style chat room back in the day when yahoo was not all bots. It was not moderated, BTW.

It was a very popular and very free wheeling room.

Many people have an issue with putting the words consensual and rape together in the same phrase. Often the term ravishment is used.

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ethical rape play requires next level communication skills. Because of that, I don't enjoy it. I'm always keeping a keen eye on whether no really means no.

Reasons why this type of play should be restricted to those who know each other very well and have had extensive talks about what exactly will be involved. I would also suggest safe words, even if you don't normally use them, and taking it very slow (don't rush into a full blown rape scene).

As a sub, I love this kind of fantasy play, though I understand it is not everyone's cup of tea.

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RE: Concensual rape - 1/5/2013 5:17:18 AM

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It's a variant of resistance play, or consensual nonconsent, in which the Top pushes past the bottom's boundaries, consensually.

This goes without saying, but if you do this at a play party, make VERY sure that everyone there knows that it's an agreed-upon scene before you start.

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RE: Concensual rape - 1/5/2013 5:31:44 AM

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Ah... those were the days... Sluts Craving Humiliation, the Dungeon rooms, HOR Oasis... The Gang Bang room....

Just had to stop and reminisce

Louski71....Consensual rape is a fantasy of many. Some want it almost scripted, some just want to go with the flow. It has its appeal, it also has its risks. Get to know well anyone you give that kind of power too.

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RE: Concensual rape - 1/5/2013 6:19:58 AM

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Consensual rape is an oxymoron, and as a Domme and not a top, I'm turned off by the four-letter word.
I enjoy strap-on sex, and Taking a good man's ass, virgin or not, is very exciting. 'No' is a completely acceptable safe word for me, so a man struggling or resisting is a big turn-off. I want a man to sincerely desire it [and begging for it is a big turn-on!, as are a bit of fear of the unknown or trepidation which are a nice bit of spice!
But I'm not interested in a man who is ambivalent or genuinely afraid. I spent four months once trying to persuade a clit-tease who said he had luved strap-ons and really, really wanted it again but kept making excuses until I finally gave him an ultimatum to either stop talking about it or let's be Having you: he made another excuse, and I dumped him AND his ass: he was obviously more turned on by the fantasy than the reality.
I'm also not interested in literally ripping a good man a bleeding new asshole, so especially if a man's never been Taken before, there is gentle and step-wise work to be done before I can strap-on, strap-in and cheerily Have at him and come in his dancing ass. For me, it's about pleasure as much as power, and I prefer when the pleasure is more mutual, and I use it for Correction only once a good man understands how much pleasure can be had and denied.

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RE: Consensual rape - 1/5/2013 3:07:02 PM

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quote:

Many people have an issue with putting the words consensual and rape together in the same phrase. Often the term ravishment is used.

My ex husband and I used to call it "Kidnap & Torture."

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Reasons why this type of play should be restricted to those who know each other very well and have had extensive talks about what exactly will be involved. I would also suggest safe words, even if you don't normally use them, and taking it very slow (don't rush into a full blown rape scene).

We were married 10 years before we started doing this - not saying waiting that long is necessary, but I would be squicked by a potential who broached the subject right off the bat.

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RE: Concensual rape - 1/6/2013 7:46:02 AM

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I LOVE rape play.
I enjoy being the victim and the rapist.
I have had it where we both agreed, that a-y could happen but z couldn't.
We never knew exactly what would happen beyond knowing our limits.
I personally am not a fan of the scripted rape play but that is personal preference.
I enjoy the element of surprise.

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RE: Concensual rape - 1/6/2013 9:00:14 AM

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As others have said, it is a very common fantasy.

My version of it has nothing to do with a males ass, though.

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RE: Concensual rape - 1/6/2013 9:01:51 AM

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ORIGINAL: xLaChienne

My version of it has nothing to do with a males ass, though.

What does your version look like, Ms. C? Inquiring minds want to know. :)

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RE: Concensual rape - 1/6/2013 9:09:40 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: sub4adventure
What does your version look like, Ms. C? Inquiring minds want to know. :)

Let us just say that in My world, fuck meat doesn't have the right to say no.

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RE: Concensual rape - 1/6/2013 9:10:06 AM

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When with my ex Dom I shared this fantasy with him. We were together about 2.5 years when I came home to my locked duplex and walked into one helluva mindfuk. It took me awhile to mentally be sure it was him; but it was a great fantasy fullfillment. We knew each other quite well by this time, long enuf for me to have given him a key to my place. I had a good experience from this however........there are many things that could go wrong IF both are not careful and know one another and TRUST each other completely.

Best of luck when you find someone you can really trust with your body AND mind in this type setting!

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RE: Concensual rape - 1/6/2013 9:14:34 AM

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ORIGINAL: xLaChienne

Let us just say that in My world, fuck meat doesn't have the right to say no.

Is that what you call him, Ms. C?

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RE: Concensual rape - 1/6/2013 9:17:31 AM

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ORIGINAL: sub4adventure
Is that what you call him, Ms. C?

When inclined.

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RE: Concensual rape - 1/6/2013 9:19:39 AM

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When inclined.

Fair enough.

Sexy new pic by the way. :)

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RE: Concensual rape - 1/8/2013 10:48:26 AM

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Ditto on the pic Ma'am.

Hello A/all,

I suppose that that is the value fo "safe words." I can say "no" all I am able. I expect things to happen to me that I will not like. On the other hand, if I fear for my saftey or I am past my endurance, I have a way to bring my concerns up.

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RE: Concensual rape - 1/8/2013 4:54:06 PM

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I have that fantasy.

Someone to spread me wide and just shove it in, not even caring for how I feel, just filling me with the warm seed, and then moving on.

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RE: Concensual rape - 1/8/2013 8:27:00 PM

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Isn't "rape play" just a fancy way of saying, "aggressive sex?"

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RE: Concensual rape - 1/9/2013 9:17:34 AM

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Louski71 I have that fantasy and I often wondered the same thing. Thanks for asking. What I do find curious is why I like that? It seems illogical for me to like the idea of someone doing something I am trying to stop them from doing but for whatever reason I do.

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