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ORIGINAL: CougarRick

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Is it normal to fantasize about things you would never like in real life? If so why? The overly easy answer to this question is “because it’s fantasy”, but to me fantasy normally has to be based somewhat on real desires.

With pain however reality and fantasy are miles apart. Some of my pain fantasy goes way beyond anything I could ever tolerate in real life. I have read some descriptions of women horribly hurting males and I know for a fact if someone was ever hurting me that bad in real life I would stop them using any means possible, and if I was restrained and defenceless I would be screeching and begging them to stop, yet at the same time, when reading these descriptions I imagined that I was the one having these things done to me and I found it very exciting.

1: Is this normal?

2: Why does something I would find terrifying and horrible in real life seem so exciting in fantasy?

I hope this doesn’t make me seem creepy or anything or put people off, but thinking about a woman doing terrible brutal things to me is exciting (and no, I do not want these things done to me for real).

Here is the exact same answer I gave to this question on two different Fetlife groups today. Edited to add, I just noticed that I answered this question here yesterday. I'm guessing the OP hasn't gotten the answer he wants yet.



1: Is this normal?

Why do people come to a website of two million perverts to ask if something is "normal"? Who defines what's normal and why does anybody else care about his definition? Is it common to have such fantasies? Yes. I have many such fantasies myself and I know I'm not alone in this. I have done a few "no way out" scenes that went past the point where I would have stopped them if I possibly could have. They were great scenes, some of the best I've ever had. But, one reason why they were great was because they were done with tops whom I trusted implicitly, who were very good at knowing when to stop and who stopped soon after I passed that point. I still have fantasies that have not been realized and that I would not consent to having realized because I know I would not survive them. As long as you have an idea of what you really can take, can tell the difference between what's safe enough to do and what isn't and stay on the right side of that line, and of the lawn, don't worry about it.

2: Why does something I would find terrifying and horrible in real life seem so exciting in fantasy?

Hell if I know. I gave up trying to understand it a long time ago.

I was the guy who posted this question on fetlife (StudentRick). I don't recall posting it in two groups though. I posted it once.

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Rick. After looking back, I sit corrected. It was a different question I gave identical answers to (not the answer above) on two different boards. I apologize.

They say short term memory is the first to... umm, what was I talking about?