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What exactly does a strapon do for the Domme? - 1/9/2013 9:42:36 AM   
Agent99


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Status: offline 		I've been hearing about strapon play and having never experienced it on either side of the coin, I just wonder what the Domme gets out of it as there isn't any feeling in a dildo. I know what a guy gets out of sex - which can't possibly be gotten from a strapon - so Dommes must (I guess) get something else out of the deal.

I'm sure it's different for each person - but in general, what's the purpose of the strapon for a Domme?
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RE: What exactly does a strapon do for the Domme? - 1/9/2013 9:59:31 AM   
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Status: offline 		What I get out of taking a woman is far greater than the sensations from my cock. I would imagine its the same for Dommes. Power, force, control, sights and sounds and if they are creative I would imagine even more.

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RE: What exactly does a strapon do for the Domme? - 1/9/2013 10:10:55 AM   
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Status: offline 		It allows the Domme (or whomever has chosen to apply a strap-on, I doubt only a Domme can wear one) to fuck with a strap-on.
Quite simple really

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RE: What exactly does a strapon do for the Domme? - 1/9/2013 10:23:16 AM   
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Status: offline 		I use a strap on for training, both male and females.
Teaching someone how to give a bj or fj is amazing to me.

If and when I do take a sub using a strap on Michael is correct I do get power, control, ect from it.


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RE: What exactly does a strapon do for the Domme? - 1/9/2013 10:37:08 AM   
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Status: offline 		All of the above and then some. For the non physical, strap on sex has the same range of benefits as other types of sex. Everything from intimacy to power and control. As for the physical, don't kid yourself. Plenty of women get sexual satisfaction out of it. Depending on the model that is used and technique, the woman does get stimulated.


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RE: What exactly does a strapon do for the Domme? - 1/9/2013 1:00:22 PM   
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Status: offline 		Hi Agent99 :)

I can only answer your question for myself and my own feelings about strapons, keeping in mind it IS different for each person.

***PLEASE NOTE***
My intentions are not in any way to start a debate, nor to point a finger at someone who does not feel as I do.

I prefer not to wear one because as a very feminine person it makes me feel too masculine, plus when I control it with my own hands I feel I avail myself more opportunity for control and variety in ways to use it.

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I've been hearing about strapon play and having never experienced it on either side of the coin, I just wonder what the Domme gets out of it as there isn't any feeling in a dildo. I know what a guy gets out of sex - which can't possibly be gotten from a strapon - so Dommes must (I guess) get something else out of the deal.

I'm sure it's different for each person - but in general, what's the purpose of the strapon for a Domme?


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RE: What exactly does a strapon do for the Domme? - 1/9/2013 1:05:14 PM   
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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

All of the above and then some. For the non physical, strap on sex has the same range of benefits as other types of sex. Everything from intimacy to power and control. As for the physical, don't kid yourself. Plenty of women get sexual satisfaction out of it. Depending on the model that is used and technique, the woman does get stimulated.



Yeah, I've said the same thing about doggy sex - call it the "power position". But when I posed the question in 'Ask a Mistress' (about whether dommes engage in doggy-sex because the male is physically in a position of power) certain dommes just went into a meltdown of denial and disruption.

Me, I've always known that any physical act between male and female can be reduced to mere symbolism by D/s. That the relative headspace dom/me sets for sub is where the real power and control lies. Otherwise, for examp, there's just no way a hundred pound female could physically dominate an unwilling 200 pound male.

Is that what you mean by "power and control", LP? First the D/s headspace backed up by what the strapon represents symbolically - ie you're the one pitching (in control) and sub is merely the passive "catcher" at your whim?

Or your strapon isn't used for anything doggy style?
IE, you don't believe in my "power position"?
Or your version of "power and control" is something else?
Perhaps like a gun - you being American n all - only it's just for pointing, not problem solving?
Or what do you physically do to your sub with your strapon?

Enquiring minds wanna know. Most interesting question, OP. ;)

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RE: What exactly does a strapon do for the Domme? - 1/9/2013 1:17:10 PM   
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Status: offline 		Actually, Focus, you're looking at it more from a singular position aspect. You seem to be under the impression that only a 'doggie style' position works. That's not the case. When you have anal sex with your submissive, do you only do it one way? Have you never had anal sex while facing her or with her on top? How about spooning? Any times standing while your submissive is laying on the back on the bed with legs dangling to the floor?

Power and control isn't any different either, unless you're implying that the only way to have control over someone is physically. I suppose that could be true in that physically overpowering someone, the weakest form of Dominance, is the prevalent aspect of the dynamic. There is also the aspect of controlling another based on other factors. In an obedience based dynamic, I say what I want and he asks how he can please Me.


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RE: What exactly does a strapon do for the Domme? - 1/9/2013 1:33:38 PM   
Lucylastic


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Status: offline 		If you only go by the "doggie style" mantra... then of course it would appear to be about"male power",
just like a man liking anal is "secretly" gay.
its a tool, its a tool that can provide great pleasure, as LP said, depending on what it is and how its used. Takes the focus off the dick attached to the man/bottom vulnerable, makes it about other areas of arousal, my strap on has a multitude of uses, with many other kinks like bondage, chastity, most of it to torment tease, and deny, as well as fuck.
Just like sticking your tongue in someones ass, while it turns some off, in others it creates a bond of intimacy and being PART of the other person for what ever reason
just my two cents



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RE: What exactly does a strapon do for the Domme? - 1/9/2013 1:42:37 PM   
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RE: What exactly does a strapon do for the Domme? - 1/9/2013 1:49:24 PM   
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RE: What exactly does a strapon do for the Domme? - 1/9/2013 1:54:41 PM   
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RE: What exactly does a strapon do for the Domme? - 1/9/2013 1:56:42 PM   
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What do balls do for a Dom that not having them does for a Domme?

I'd assume it makes getting kicked in the crotch a lot more painful.

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RE: What exactly does a strapon do for the Domme? - 1/9/2013 2:08:49 PM   
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RE: What exactly does a strapon do for the Domme? - 1/9/2013 2:11:02 PM   
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RE: What exactly does a strapon do for the Domme? - 1/9/2013 3:00:30 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: Hillwilliam


quote:

ORIGINAL: Pyramus

What do balls do for a Dom that not having them does for a Domme?

I'd assume it makes getting kicked in the crotch a lot more painful.



As a woman, I can say being kicked in the crotch hurts like a bitch!

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RE: What exactly does a strapon do for the Domme? - 1/9/2013 6:10:38 PM   
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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

Actually, Focus, you're looking at it more from a singular position aspect.

Yes, I did ask about a particular position - doggy style. You saying you don't use your strapon, doggy style?



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You seem to be under the impression that only a 'doggie style' position works. That's not the case.

Huh? Say what? You'd think me all green & naive if I said that I'd imagine your strapon works in probably every position that my own dick does? Except you specifically don't use it doggy style, apparently?



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When you have anal sex with your submissive, do you only do it one way? Have you never had anal sex while facing her or with her on top? How about spooning? Any times standing while your submissive is laying on the back on the bed with legs dangling to the floor?

This'll shock you but I'm 58 yrs old. Make of that (and my relative life experience) what you will....



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Power and control isn't any different either, unless you're implying that the only way to have control over someone is physically. I suppose that could be true in that physically overpowering someone, the weakest form of Dominance, is the prevalent aspect of the dynamic.

Priceless - "the weakest form of Dominance" - that's a keeper....

Anything you're not as capable of is "weak", yes? Despite many a popular thread about how subs (m & f) enjoy being physically overpowered by their dom/me?

When I think of the "weakest form of Dominance", I get images of some arsehole abusing his long battered spouse. And even you'd concede that's NOT what we're talking about, right?



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There is also the aspect of controlling another based on other factors. In an obedience based dynamic, I say what I want and he asks how he can please Me.

Well, that IS what I alluded to in my first post. Matters of relevant D/s headspace etc....

Focus.

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RE: What exactly does a strapon do for the Domme? - 1/9/2013 6:24:55 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Lucylastic

Having been kicked in the crotch, ..without balls, let me tell you it bloody hurts and for days.


Lol, memories of the old days of indoor cricket - which became popular (to play) with the women, too.

'Cept that for the most part, the men knew to wear a protector (or cup) whereas in those early days of the sport, too many of the girls didn't think it necessary for their gender.

So yeah, initially, many a painful lesson was learnt. Not that wearing a cup designed for men is a particularly attractive look on a female. Wasn't too long before a flatter version came along....

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RE: What exactly does a strapon do for the Domme? - 1/9/2013 8:38:16 PM   
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Status: offline 		I like the noises and faces they make when they cum. The fact that I am using a toy to get the reaction doesn't really matter. There are enough other things that we do that I can feel that makes up for any lack of feeling in the dildo. I also don't like to actually strap it on. I have much more control if I hold it in my hand.

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RE: What exactly does a strapon do for the Domme? - 1/9/2013 9:23:33 PM   
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As for being kicked in the crotch....oh yeah....just as painful as it is for a man! Just ask Master as he watches me fall to the ground.

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