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MistressJinxBBW -> Money mistress asks a question to subs... (1/10/2013 1:58:13 AM)

Hello,
I am mistress Jinx, nothing more and nothing less. I wish to know from the sub community- What percentage of subs enjoy humiliation? As I was humiliating a money slave this morning... who simply didn't like it...Even though I really do enjoy it.

Mistress Jinx,
Financial Dominatrix



AthenaSurrenders -> RE: Money mistress asks a question to subs... (1/10/2013 3:11:56 AM)

I'm not sure it's possible to give a percentage, since there's no one keeping statistics on this as far as I know. Also, what you consider 'humiliation', some will think tame, some will think over-the-top, some will find it silly, some will think it's wonderful (but not humiliating)... so it's very difficult to say.

There is a board near the bottom of the forums where you are allowed to post polls, perhaps you could start one and see what percentage you get? You might need to be more specific though to get any sort of decent answer - like asking who likes to be dressed in a humiliating way or who likes small-penis humiliation etc etc.

By the way, just checked out your profile and since you are new to the site you might not know : the weight is done in pounds not kilos on the site, you might need to convert your numbers. If someone is searching by weight for someone who looks like you, you won't show up for them since 100lbs is actually pretty slight. I only mention this as your username says 'BBW' so I assume this is a mistake.



tazzygirl -> RE: Money mistress asks a question to subs... (1/10/2013 6:47:29 AM)

First, just to let you know, the link on your profile leads to an error message.

Second, sounds like you had a client who you didnt know well enough.



searching4mysir -> RE: Money mistress asks a question to subs... (1/10/2013 7:17:52 AM)

Hi Jinx,

I don't do humiliation, period. I'm a very black-and-white, all-or-nothing personality, and if someone I love feels the desire to humiliate me, I take it personally.



kalikshama -> RE: Money mistress asks a question to subs... (1/10/2013 10:19:16 AM)

Another vote for not liking humiliation.



myotherself -> RE: Money mistress asks a question to subs... (1/10/2013 10:26:21 AM)

At midnight on December 31st it was 18.24% (rounded to 2 decimal places).

I'm part of the remaining 81.76%.



theRose4U -> RE: Money mistress asks a question to subs... (1/10/2013 5:32:05 PM)

I would call it a perception issue...many pay for play subs want precisely what their fantasy tells them domination is, no more no less...EXACTLY HOW THEY imagine kink
This is the reason the Domme Institute gives a class in mind reading!

This is also the precise reason so many dominants don't do pay for play or fin domme scenarios, its too easy for the sub to get the idea they can turn fantasy into reality



littlewonder -> RE: Money mistress asks a question to subs... (1/11/2013 10:24:17 AM)

I would say he's paying you for his fantasy I'm assuming. You didn't deliver. It's not what he wanted or desired. Not everyone does. If this is a pro type thing and he's not actually in a relationship with you, then you deliver to him what he is paying for.



TheLilSquaw -> RE: Money mistress asks a question to subs... (1/11/2013 1:29:07 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: MistressJinxBBW

Hello,
I am mistress Jinx, nothing more and nothing less. I wish to know from the sub community- What percentage of subs enjoy humiliation? As I was humiliating a money slave this morning... who simply didn't like it...Even though I really do enjoy it.

Mistress Jinx,
Financial Dominatrix


MOST of my financial subs don't like to be called pay piggies or things of that nature.
It is very much an individual thing and each persons mileage will vary.

That's why it's important to find out what kind of finsub/slave they are and what they like about serving a fin domme.



AllisonWilder -> RE: Money mistress asks a question to subs... (1/11/2013 2:13:36 PM)

Hmmm.



LafayetteLady -> RE: Money mistress asks a question to subs... (1/11/2013 3:55:09 PM)

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ORIGINAL: littlewonder

I would say he's paying you for his fantasy I'm assuming. You didn't deliver. It's not what he wanted or desired. Not everyone does. If this is a pro type thing and he's not actually in a relationship with you, then you deliver to him what he is paying for.



^^^^This^^^^

If you don't have a face to face, real time relationship with this person, they are not your "sub," but just someone who pays you money to get his kink on. 

In a relationship, or even a pay for play situation, as the "dominant," or "mistress" as you seem to prefer, it is your job to find out what the person is looking for to see if they match your needs (the other person has the same responsibility).  Obviously, you were more interested in his wallet and couldn't take the time to find this out.



AllisonWilder -> RE: Money mistress asks a question to subs... (1/11/2013 5:20:41 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: MistressJinxBBW

Hello,
I am mistress Jinx, nothing more and nothing less. I wish to know from the sub community- What percentage of subs enjoy humiliation? As I was humiliating a money slave this morning... who simply didn't like it...Even though I really do enjoy it.

Mistress Jinx,
Financial Dominatrix


A good rule here is to always remember that just because you enjoy something, it doesn't mean that everyone else does. Humiliation in the form of insults and derogatory remarks can do real damage to someone that doesn't enjoy them, more then you can ever know.

Always get to know someone first.



PrincessDonna11 -> RE: Money mistress asks a question to subs... (1/11/2013 6:02:58 PM)

This is a prime reason why I do face to face inetrviews in the beginning...fin or not a sub needs to understand that THEY are not in control...they need to be able to put their trust in the person that they give control to...I havent met too many that wernt pleased in the end just with pleasing the Domme $ or not....



tidbit5021 -> RE: Money mistress asks a question to subs... (1/11/2013 10:46:40 PM)

I won't allow anyone to humiliate me. Period.



MistressJinxBBW -> RE: Money mistress asks a question to subs... (1/11/2013 11:36:58 PM)

Thanks for the advice. I did a hypnosis session with him has I am a qualified therapist and found out some horrible things in his past, we are working through it- but I don't think he is ready for the BDSM world yet. I have asked him to work threw his own issues first. I don't think BDSM Should be used as an escape from a bad reality.



AllisonWilder -> RE: Money mistress asks a question to subs... (1/12/2013 12:51:00 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: MistressJinxBBW

Thanks for the advice. I did a hypnosis session with him has I am a qualified therapist and found out some horrible things in his past, we are working through it- but I don't think he is ready for the BDSM world yet. I have asked him to work threw his own issues first. I don't think BDSM Should be used as an escape from a bad reality.


Given that you're listed as 24 on your profile and can't differentiate between through and threw, I find it really hard to believe that you're a therapist.

Also, if you were doing a hypnosis session, why on earth were you humiliating him? That seems counterproductive.



SimplyMichael -> RE: Money mistress asks a question to subs... (1/12/2013 10:07:52 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: MistressJinxBBW

Hello,
I am mistress Jinx, nothing more and nothing less. I wish to know from the sub community- What percentage of subs enjoy humiliation? As I was humiliating a money slave this morning... who simply didn't like it...Even though I really do enjoy it.

Mistress Jinx,
Financial Dominatrix


Asking such a question kinda brings the whole "Mistrist" title into question.





LafayetteLady -> RE: Money mistress asks a question to subs... (1/12/2013 11:12:52 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: MistressJinxBBW

Thanks for the advice. I did a hypnosis session with him has I am a qualified therapist and found out some horrible things in his past, we are working through it- but I don't think he is ready for the BDSM world yet. I have asked him to work threw his own issues first. I don't think BDSM Should be used as an escape from a bad reality.


Qualified and licensed are two different things.  If you hypnotized (or think you did) this guy and then used the information to humiliate this guy, not only are you not a "qualified" therapist, but likely a shitty dom and shouldn't be doing either.



TheLilSquaw -> RE: Money mistress asks a question to subs... (1/12/2013 1:45:04 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: MistressJinxBBW

Thanks for the advice. I did a hypnosis session with him has I am a qualified therapist and found out some horrible things in his past, we are working through it- but I don't think he is ready for the BDSM world yet. I have asked him to work threw his own issues first. I don't think BDSM Should be used as an escape from a bad reality.



IF this is true, you are wrong on so many levels legally, ethically, and morally.



LadyPact -> RE: Money mistress asks a question to subs... (1/12/2013 2:04:20 PM)

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ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael
Asking such a question kinda brings the whole "Mistrist" title into question.
Oh, that wasn't exactly what I called into question but I don't think I can state the adjectives I thought of without violating ToS.




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